Originally posted by: Madheart
Exactly!!
Shiva misunderstanding Raavi is bound to happen as he doesn't care to listen to her completely.. all he knows is the fact that Raavi acknowledges their marriage as a compromise, so 🤷♀️
What I liked about Dev there was the fact that he kinda has an idea about their fights and tries or wants to calm both of them down, like Raavi said, he just cannot bring them to good terms. What I don't like is the fact that Shiva mentions that he's not a barabar match to her and yet no one understands his pain and insecurities, he said it today infront of everyone, Raavi or anyone still doesn't understand 🤦♀️🤦♀️
I am going to try finding reason from the makers land of adbhudness 🤪..so here is what I can think of.
As far as shivas constant taunts to Raavi in front of everyone in the family...I think they never bothered to concentrate on his real issue but just brushed it off as their usual nok jhok...
for one thing they are so used to shiva taunting and fighting with her since childhood that they can't think he would be hurting inside so much that it's his hurt that makes him taunt and fight with raavi now....
shiva himself has mentioned many times that he is junglee gawar and ravi doesn't deserve this..his words are hurting..and we viewers who knows that he has feelings for her , can understand he is suffering badly..
But even though his words convey the truth, house actions and sound convey it just as his usual anger..he is not shown as a dejected hurting wounded person after the first time..he is fighting with all his strength..fighting for himself..his identity and the pain that causes him that his identity makes him unworthy of someone whom he had started feeling as his...
(I am finding it difficult to justify dhara gombi...i personally can't accept this as an excuse to not take our own child's struggles when they so proudly say they r her children...but what can we do..other than accepting it for what it is.. )..
So...does dhara gombi know he was actually starting to feel for ravi..they did have an expectation when shiva was staring at her during the function , that if they spend more time together they might start liking each other.. this was just before sneha kandh..but that was it..right after that it was all going down the hill..shiva became more like prewedding..maybe even worse.
dhara gaumbi (especially being occupied with their own preg related tensions) ..knew abt shiva feeling insulted by ravis friend and feeling he is not worthy of her.. but that was done and dusted..shiva had a drink..talked with family..and he was behaving well almost happily with other members of the family...building room..they still dnt knw the depth of hurt he is in because they dnt knw he had feelings for raavi...so they didn't bother much to ask raavi abt how is it between her and shiva..if he is behaving normal or not.....the taunts towards ravi in between ,must have felt like the usuals to them..
Still I have to admit I will never be able to justify/forget dhara and gombi not talking with shiva abt the time when shiva shoved ravi, humiliating her infront of everyone..that was too pathetic that they continued with doing mehendi or dancing just like nothing happened when the poor girl was shocked and humiliated so much...i wont try finding excuse for that..
And regarding dev..I only think someone thought of asking her how she feels..atleast someone from the family..I was disappointed that not even gombi or krish thought to talk with her...it should have been any of them..but no one bothered..
Now I am going to rest in peace thinking all of this happened for a reason ..too much stress otherwise. 😆
Edited by deeps07 - 3 years ago