Originally posted by: SexyPotato
Sorry I get it wrong. I thought you're taking shots on those people who are sharing their experience explicitly. No those people are not really defending pallavi, it's more about how our society treats these issues, how women are always at fault for 'leading on or asking for' etc. Don't know about main forum but here people are calling her out for her stupidity.
Again I'm sorry fria.
Aww no worries. These things happen over text/written messages!
I'm not taking shots on anyone who is sharing their experience. I also have been emotionally manipulated, or it was tried on me. It's not about how could someone have let it happen - because I 1000% understand that it happens without someone even realizing it happening. That's what happened to me. And I'm someone who is very out spoken about her rights - so that's why it surprised my family even more. I wasn't in a position where they could imagine I would let a man do that to me. So I understand how and why its happening to Pallavi.
My point was more so that, at the end of the day, she's still responsible for her decisions because she still has her own free will and agency. No one is forcing her. They're emotionally manipulating her, yes, but no one is forcing her. Personally, I consider them two different things. Forcing is when she has no choice but to oblige. But emotional manipulation, if she could recognize it, is something she has control over. Like I said before, we, can control how people affect us. The trick is to be cognizant of it and to not give people that power over us. For ex. If someone does something to hurt me, it's up to me whether I want to be upset at that or let it go. Does that make sense? Emotional manipulation doesn't absolve the things we do or say in those moments. Just like how being in a state of anger doesn't absolve the things we do or say in that moment. She's still of sound mind. But bc I understand emotional manipulation thats why I said she shouldn't ever be bashed, dragged, etc., for what she's doing.
Hope that made my position a bit more clear :) I'm more of a tough love kind of person so I may come off as highly critical LOL I recognize this but I still do love all these characters! really, I just want to be their life coaches / relationship mentor. Like, I just want to help them 🤣 as if they were real people.🤣
Edited by fria319 - 4 years ago