Pandya Store|Episode Discussion#65|Masale Ki Mehek,Janu Ko Baja Dala - Page 87

Hey everyone 🤗 my best friend came to town this weekend so spent all of Fri-Sat with her. Missed being here so much!! ❤️

Did I miss anything fun? Any spoilers? 😆

Just watched the latest episode. It wasn’t bad. Let’s see which way quality goes this upcoming week.

I loved the Gaumbi-Raavi scene ❤️

Originally posted by: Sakmen

So generally, I'm very lazy about doing homework here, but after Prema and Nivi's posts I went to read the previous EDT's Last night's conversations. And I'm very emotional right now.

Thank you all beautiful and strong ladies for pouring your hearts out🤗❤️

I can't even imagine what you all have gone through or are going through. I'm much younger to you all and haven't even experienced things as much as you all. But whatever little I've seen, I've come to know that relatives have got noses just to poke in other people's businesses. They can neither see you happy nor unhappy. You do them all good or all bad, they'll still find problems in you. So never give a damn about them. YOUR LIFE YOUR RULES.

I know fertility is a very sensitive issue, being suffering from PCOD myself for years now, I do get told by a lot of people around me to lose weight so that you don't have problems conceiving in the future.. no care about my health but for the conceiving part only, as if I'm just born to do that.

I can't even imagine what you must be going through Nups and Piu🤗 Big hug and a lot of strength to you ❤️

Prema, your story is so inspiring and beautiful.. I know it is so now, but at that time it must have been a lot to go through. And I'm so glad that you came out of it as a warrior. God bless your family.❤️

My own parents got married very late. My mother was 38 and father 40, when they got married. It was my mother's first marriage and my father's second. He had a "son" from his first marriage, but due to some strained issues in the marriage, they divorced. He never met them, including his son, after getting divorced. He started his new life with my mother with all his heart. Conceiving at 38, was obviously an issue for my mother, but 2 years later they had me. And due to some complications, the doctor told her that she won't be able to conceive again. My father had no problems with it, but some people did and till date have, as I was a "girl".

My father never discriminated or thought of me any less, for not being a particular gender. He always let me have my way and fulfil all my desires. He never ever even mentioned to me about his son or past life, until few months before he passed away... when that son appeared out of nowhere after 30 years to demand a share in his property. And, my father just couldn't help but hate for it afterwards.

My grandmother loved me a lot too, but she sometimes used to have a taunting undertone for my mother that she's given birth only to one child and that too a daughter.

My father was terminally ill for about past 7 years, underwent 3 major surgeries during this time. My mother and I single handedly have took care of him all this while.. all my relatives including his real brothers and sister used to come as guests and go, just for formality sake, nobody was of any real help if I may say so! Having done all of that alone, from the age of 18, my relatives still have the audacity to say "ladki hai, kya kya karegi" and still be of no help at all.

when my dad passed away, and it was time to decide that who'd do the cremation, yeah they had to decide that, I was asked by a cousin of my father as whom do I want to do it.. I without any single thought said that I want to do it. When he has brought me up without any thought that whether I'm a girl or boy, then at this point also I have the whole right to do it.

My "so called family members" still had problems with it as some sin would ensue on them if a girl did it. But I did it anyway.

Since then, most of them have not even come to ur house after all the rituals got over, it's been 4 months. Just some formality phone calls every now and then to check up on mom n me. And even some complaints that we don't call them.. I told you, whatever you do or not do they will find problems.

It's not easy but we are doing fine while dealing with a lot of issues... So lead your lives the way you want to because people will have issues anyway.

I think I wrote too much while crying in between.😆

Maahi I'm all up for the alternate YKB platform 🤗🤗

Lots of love and strength to you all❤❤❤

Saakshiii... 🤗

Very sorry to hear about your father, even more sorry to hear about relatives. I too have terrible relatives in my mother's side who love to cook up trouble, so I know what it is to grow up in a stifling environment 😐

That said, you seem to have managed everything beautifully ❤️ I am sure you are a big source of support for your mother too. You are as strong as the other women here and your story is as inspiring ❤️

Hang in there, and continue being strong. Life does become better as you get older- definitely when you get more financially independent and settled, and most certainly irrespective of whether you get married or not.

Originally posted by: Raingoddess

Hey everyone 🤗 my best friend came to town this weekend so spent all of Fri-Sat with her. Missed being here so much!! ❤️

Did I miss anything fun? Any spoilers? 😆

You missed lots of heartwarming stories!

Originally posted by: Transference

You missed lots of heartwarming stories!

Aww I’ll try and read them tomorrow 🤗 I have no plans... just a nice lazy Sunday

Originally posted by: Transference

Babe! Trust me, people will have things to say all the time! We💪, women need to take charge of our lives, and let not anyone tell you otherwise!

We exist! It's OKAY to be YOU!!🤗

Women have the right to say NO

Women have the right to Choose
Women have the right to pleasure!

❤️

Phenomenal Woman

BY MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,

The stride of my step,

The curl of my lips.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,

And the flash of my teeth,

The swing in my waist,

And the joy in my feet.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can’t touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them,

They say they still can’t see.

I say,

It’s in the arch of my back,

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Now you understand

Just why my head’s not bowed.

I don’t shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.

When you see me passing,

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It’s in the click of my heels,

The bend of my hair,

the palm of my hand,

The need for my care.

’Cause I’m a woman

Phenomenally.

Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Ohh Piu... it is so beautiful ❤️ Wish I had of this confidence 😆

Originally posted by: mpks1

Nivi, why didn’t I see this post earlier😆

You quoted Rakia Rakita , Thathuvam😆 (philosophy)

I liked the lyrics part when the first part when Santosh Narayanan sings and then when Dhanush sings😆

But the picturization of this songs is 🤣

P.S: My favorite one is Bujji from this album😆

Prema, I was so shocked to find thathuvam (philosophy) in a Tamil gaana paatu (folk song) of all places. So it just stuck to me and it was a much needed thing for me to remember 😆

(Don’t go by the picturisation, they get one thing right and do the other thing wrong🤣)

I love the Bujji song too 😆

Originally posted by: Transference

My heart breaks at looking into the frame!

I am sure most of you must be wondering whether Shiva is actually jealous of Dev, or mistrusts Raavi. I think there is a hint of jealousy which is very subtle with the undertones of sibling rivalry.

The hurt is more towards Ravi. If you notice that this hurt has begun ever since her birthday. Her birthday was the day when Dev had initiated their friendship again, and Ravi was smiling ear to ear.

If you notice apart from her birthday she hasn’t smiled this much, or whenever she is around Dev she is beaming. This happens in the case with all the brothers or everyone else too. With Shiva, she is cautious and doesn’t laugh wholeheartedly. He might be misunderstanding this smile, and happiness to be her unavailability towards him emotionally mentally and physically.

Aah thank you for elaborating... This has been bugging me since I watched the episode. 😐

Ohh well I dis ask for angst 🥲 Looks like we are getting it by the truckloads (pun unintended)

So Shiva is not just meaninglessly pushing her away. It must be hard to think the person you love only laughs and smiles in front of others but not you. Though, she was smiling when he came back to the room after her birthday, right? (Before the whole Ajnabee conversation) Did he just assume she was in a good mood after talking to Dev?

Originally posted by: raindropsroses

I see this happening all around me, way too often. More power to you, ML. Do what your heart tells you, it’s your life. 🤗

Reading all your posts, I was reminded of an apt folk song “Rakita Rakita” in Tamil, it’s mocks how we are expected to live for the society and gossip mongers.

Naalu peru mathikkumpadi

Neeyum naanum irukkanum

Konjam moodikittu avanga sonna
Vazhiyiladhaan nadakkanum

We have to live in a way so that people respect us (exact translation is not people but “char log”)

We should shut up and walk in their path

Avanukkaaga appadi vaazhnthu
Ivanukkaaga ippadi pesi
Avanukaaga appadi nadanthu
ivanukkaaga ippadi nadichu…

By leading a life for others sake

By talking according to others wish

Behaving according to others wish

By acting according to others wish

Andha naalu peraiyum
Idhuvaraikkum paarthathilla naanu
Enakku theva patta neram
Andha paradhesiya kaanum….

I haven’t seen those 4 people (char log)

When I need them those fools are no where to be found.

So yeah, what I’m saying is, chuck the society.

Lots of love and power to you, ML. ❤️❤️

Niviiii... this song is my jam 🤗

Especially the lines

Andha naalu peraiyum
Idhuvaraikkum paarthathilla naanu
Enakku theva patta neram
Andha paradhesiya kaanum

Originally posted by: Transference

Nups 🤗 Well said!

I think more than the reassurance, Shiva needs Ravi to tell him that it has always been him. Her past is not really a problem with him. Its her sheer neglect of him over the years. He might have fallen in love explicitly and acknowledged it to himself very recently. But, it’s pretty evident that her words used to affect him ever since he was a child. I like this brooding Shiva a lot. If you go back to a few pages earlier, I had made a post about the series of things that has always been constant between them.

Piu🤗🤗 you woke up so early on a Sunday!! 🥺

Agreed! Shiva is affected by Raavi’s presence, her words and actions! I am not sure if he has fully understood that he is in love with her. But he has accepted that he does have some unexplained feelings for her. Before he could fully comprehend those feelings, the insecurity track happened and he couldn’t fully explore those!

Let me check your previous post. 🤗 I missed that post😔