Ring - a gift from Virat or Virat the husband? Sai’s hesitation

Before I begin, I want to say that I lost a part of what I had typed 😞 when my phone got switched off. Let me try to see if I can add all the points that I had written last time.

I know many are upset with many dialogues in today’s episode. I loved the episode even though there were a few things that I didn’t like in today’s episode. I am writing a post on today’s episode but decided to post this separately. This is my understanding of Sai’s thoughts, her emotions and state of mind when Virat gave her the ring.

Takes me back to the day Virat wanted to know why Sai gets affected or upset when he talks to Pakhi up. When he had said that he is not committed to anyone and not fulfilling his commitment, Sai had asked him if it was because he wanted it that way or he ended it thinking she would feel bad. Sai’s question on whether he got the ring as a husband who wants to show his love for his wife is a similar question. She doesn’t want to, because even when he said that he is not committed to anyone, she didn’t want it if he was doing it because she would feel bad.

Sai has always been accepting anything only when she is sure that Virat wants it. She was thinking why did Virat agree to fulfill the rasams when he didn’t want to. She has not liked him compromising on everything. She knows that he was forced to get married to her and that was proved by his conditions about the marriage. She realised that he didn’t marry her out of his own will but did it out of force and it keeps bothering her. When Virat had said that if he had never gone to GC, he would have never been in the position he was in during the DIG incident, she was hurt and very badly hurt. It wasn’t just the marriage, the revelation that he was committed to someone else that bothered her, but it was also that Virat had regretted to have even gone to GC and had to marry her out of force which had created an impact on her. He was anyway doing things out of force and his outburst only brought out his regret, anger and helplessness that he felt to have gone to GC and to be forced to take a decision that he didn’t want to.

Ever since that, she has always tried to ask him if he was doing it or if he wanted it or was doing it for the sake of others. The first time when he tried to stop her from leaving his room, she had asked this. Then when he was asking her to join Ladakh, she has asked the same. It was to get an assurance that he was doing it all out of his own will and wasn’t doing it out of formality or because that was what would be expected out of him as a husband.

Sai is a person of free will. She would do things only if she is okay with it, when her heart agrees to it. Be it continuing to live in CN without moving to hostel or cooking or applying Alta or returning to CN from hospital, or to apologise to Pakhi recently too, Sai has only listened to her heart and never did anything out of force, out of compulsion. The reason being her Dad who gave her the freedom, who let her do things that she is okay with, which she wants to do, not because he wanted her to. Hence, Virat doing things to please people or out of compulsion is incomprehensible to her. Sai wants Virat to do what he feels like, what he is okay with, not what he is expected to. She wants him to feel free to do what he wants and not do anything out of force or compulsion.

The marriage, the conditions, deal, his commitment and the fact that he didn’t want to get married but married her only out of force is so deep rooted in her, bothers her a lot that she doesn’t want him to do anything by him thinking that is expected out of him as a husband. She wants him to do anything only if he wants it. That is why she had raised this as an issue thinking he has once again got the ring as a husband since that’s what husbands are expected to, since that’s what wives might expect from their husbands, for the husband to gift them something nice.

The reason behind Sai saying she can accept it if it is a gift from him is because gift is not something one would get out of compulsion, they would have got it only when they want to gift them. Sai stopped him from speaking any further worrying if he would say that he got it as a husband and that she has to accept it as a wife, just like how he had stopped her from leaving the house. She doesn’t want to hear that from him.

She thought that he has once again done something like how he had ended his commitment thinking that Sai got hurt and affected. Sai got hurt and affected when she saw both Virat and Pakhi at the pool and she saw how Virat tried to know what was bothering her and even tried to give her explanations. Sai had stayed upset with him after reaching home too. He tried to talk to her but when he didn’t answer her questions, she thought that he wasn’t willing to give her an answer since she didn’t have rights to question him those and it ended in a different route when the topic of Samrat came up. And after the confrontation, when Virat tried to talk about it again, to clear the issue, he had spoken that he has no commitment and doesn’t fulfill anything. It only created doubts that all this had happened only because she got upset with him and after the confrontation, after she asked him about him and Pakhi. Hence, she asked him if he ended his commitment because she got upset but instead of answering her that, he started his own quest and asked her if she was really upset and why does she get affected if he and Pakhi talks.

Had he said that he wanted to get her the ring because he wanted to, she would have been happy. The husband and wife part confuses her because as she had said, if they were a regular couple, they would have been one long time ago. Which means that he would have married her and accepted her as his wife, out of his own will and not due to compulsion. Hence, when he said that he did get it as a birthday gift and she was thinking too much, there was no other reason for him to get it, she got upset because she had mistook it. That’s why she had said why did she even ask him that because it was as if she was making a fool out of herself by even asking him if he got it as a husband. That is why she had thought that he would have got it for Pakhi even if he had to. When he said that there can be no other reasons to get it, for her it looked like of course there can’t be any other reason to get it since he has feelings for someone else and can’t give that place to her. When Sai asked or refused to accept the ring, it was only so that he doesn’t give it out of formality as a husband that she might be expecting a gift from him, but at the same time, she didn’t expect this answer from him. She had no expectations from him but at the same time had got disappointed when she heard him. She didn’t like what she heard. He had said that it was only a gift which made her upset because to her it looks as if of course it has to be a birthday gift only because he can’t give the place he has once given to Pakhi, to her.

He said that because she wasn’t accepting the ring, so as to not freak her out or not make her uncomfortable or run away from him but she misunderstood that.

Both want the same but are getting hurt and confused to their own insecurities and misunderstanding. One has made progress but the other thinks that he is still stuck in the same place as when they started their relationship. The confusion will end only when both of them try, only when they are open, frank, straightforward with each other, only when they speak up, when they shed their insecurities, only leave their past behind. They both should look at each other from a new angle. Sai should stop thinking that Virat is doing things out of force, she should start looking at how he actually wants certain things. She should try to differentiate what are things one would do out of force and what are things one would do only when they feel like. It will help her open her eyes to look into all of Virat’s actions from a different perspective.

Virat should start seeing why does Sai keep bringing deal in between them, why is she not able to understand his actions, why she is not able to accept her feelings. He should share his past with her, should share about his emotions and what he has been going through ever since they got married. He has to clear a part of her confusion, so that she can think or look at things clearly and not associate it with him doing it only because he is forced to.

My understanding of Sai’s thoughts on the ring.

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Originally posted by: laksh

Before I begin, I want to say that I lost a part of what I had typed 😞 when my phone got switched off. Let me try to see if I can add all the points that I had written last time.

I know many are upset with many dialogues in today’s episode. I loved the episode even though there were a few things that I didn’t like in today’s episode. I am writing a post on today’s episode but decided to post this separately. This is my understanding of Sai’s thoughts, her emotions and state of mind when Virat gave her the ring.

Takes me back to the day Virat wanted to know why does him talking to Pakhi upset or affect Sai. When he had said that he is not committed to anyone and not fulfilling his commitment, Sai had asked him if it was because he wanted it that way or he ended it thinking she would feel bad. Sai’s question on whether he got the ring as a husband who wants to show his love for his wife is a similar question. She doesn’t want to because even when he said that he is not committed to anyone, she didn’t want it if he was doing it thinking she would feel bad.

Sai has always been accepting anything only when she is sure that Virat wants it. She was thinking why did Virat agree to fulfill the rasams when he didn’t want to. She has not liked him compromising on everything. She knows that he was forced to get married to her and that was proved by his conditions about the marriage. She realised that he didn’t marry her out of his own will but did it out of force and it keeps bothering her. When Virat had said that if he had never gone to GC, he would have never been in the position he was in during the DIG incident, she was hurt and very badly hurt. It wasn’t just the marriage, the revelation that he was committed to someone else that bothered her, but it was also that Virat had regretted to have even gone to GC and had to marry her out of force which had created an impact on her. Ever since that, she has always tried to ask him if he was doing it or if he wanted it or was doing it for the sake of others. The first time when he tried to stop her from leaving his room, she had asked this. Then when he was asking her to join Ladakh, she has asked the same. It was to get an assurance that he was doing it all out of his own Will and wasn’t doing it out of formality or because that was what would be expected out of him as husband.

Sai is a person of free will. She would do things only if she is okay with it, when her heart agrees to it. Be it continuing to live in CN without moving to hostel or cooking or applying Alta or returning to CN from hospital, or to apologise to Pakhi recently too, Sai has only listened to her heart and never did anything out of force, out of compulsion. The reason being her Dad who gave her the freedom, who let her do things that she is okay with, which she wants to not because he wants her to. Hence, Virat doing things to please people or out of compulsion is incomprehensible to her. Sai wants Virat to do what he feels like, what he is okay with, not what he is expected to. She wants him to feel free to do what he wants and not do anything out of force or compulsion.

The marriage, the conditions, deal, his commitment and the fact that he didn’t want to get married but married her only out of force is so deep rooted in her, bothers her a lot that she doesn’t want him to do anything by him thinking that is expected out of him as a husband. She wants him to do anything only if he wants it. That is why she had raised this as an issue thinking he has once got the ring as a husband since that’s what husbands are expected to, since that’s what wives might expect from their husbands, for the husband fo gift them something nice.

The reason behind Sai saying she can accept it if it is a gift from him is because gift is not something one would get out of compulsion, they would have got it only when they want to gift them with. Sai stopped him from speaking any further worrying if he would say that he got it as a husband and that she has to accept it as a wife, just like how he had stopped her from leaving the house. She doesn’t want to hear that from him.

She thought that he has once again done something like how he had ended his commitment thinking that Sai got hurt and affected. Sai got hurt and affected when she saw both Virat and Pakhi at the pool and she saw how Virat tried to know what was bothering her and even tried to give her explanations. Sai had stayed upset with him after reaching home too. He tried to talk to her but when he didn’t answer her questions, she thought that he wasn’t willing to give her an answer since she didn’t have rights to question him those and it ended in a different route when the topic of Samrat came up. And after the confrontation, when Virat tried to talk about it again, to clear the issue, he had spoken that he has no commitment and doesn’t fulfill anything. It only created doubts that all this had happened only because she got upset with him and after the confrontation, after she asked him about him and Pakhi. Hence, she asked him if he ended his commitment because she got upset but instead of answering her that, he started his own quest and asked her if she was really upset and why does she get affected if he and Pakhi talks.

Had he said that he wanted to get her the ring because he wanted to, she would have been happy. The husband and wife part confuses her because as she had said, if they were a regular couple, they would have been one long time ago. Which means that he would have married her and accepted her as his wife, out of his own will and not due to compulsion. Hence, when he said that he did get it as a birthday gift and she was thinking too much, there was no other reason for him to get it, she got upset because she had mistook it. That’s why she had said why did she even ask him that because it was as if she was making a fool out of herself by even asking him if he get it as a husband. That is why she had thought that he would have got it for Pakhi even if he had to. When he said that there can be no other reasons to get it, for her it looked like of course there can’t be any other reason to get it since he has feelings for someone else and can’t give that place to her. When Sai asked or refused to accept the ring, it was only so that he doesn’t give it out of formality as a husband that she might be expecting a gift from him, but at the same time, she didn’t expect this answer from him. She had no expectations from him but at the same time had got disappointed when she heard him. She didn’t like what she heard. He had said that it was only a gift which made her upset because to her it looks as if of course it has to be a birthday gift only because he can’t give the place he has once given to Pakhi to her.

He said that because she wasn’t accepting the ring, so as to not freak her out or not make her comfortable or run away from him but she misunderstood that.

Both want the same but are getting hurt and confused to their own insecurities and misunderstanding. One has made progress but the other thinks that he is still stuck in the same place as when they started their relationship. The confusion will end only when both of them try, only when they are open, frank, straightforward with each other, only when they speak up, when they shed their insecurities, only leave their past behind. They both should look at each other from a new angle. Sai should stop thinking that Virat is doing things out of force, she should start looking at how he actually wants certain things. She should try to differentiate what are things one would do out of force and what are things one would do only when they feel like. It will help her open her eyes to look into all of Virat’s actions from a different perspective.

Virat should start seeing why does Sai keep bringing deal in between them, why is she not able to understand his actions, why she is not able to accept her feelings. He should share his past with her, should share about his emotions and what he has been going through ever since they got married. He has to clear a part of her confusion, so that she can think or look at things clearly and not associate it with him doing it only because he is forced to.

Awesome post. You have penned down so well. So perfect. Yes, both Virat and Sai have to have a heart to heart talk. Only then their insecurities will end and then they will be able to move forward.

When Virat had said that if he had never gone to GC, he would have never been in the position he was in during the DIG incident, she was hurt and very badly hurt//////

A correction here. Virat does not say that. He says upar se woh mujhe bola Meri GC jaana badi galti hai. Aisa kaun bolta hai yaar. Those were his words...

Originally posted by: fatssrilanka

Awesome post. You have penned down so well. So perfect. Yes, both Virat and Sai have to have a heart to heart talk. Only then their insecurities will end and then they will be able to move forward.

Thanks 😊

Oh yes, their love for each other was so evident today. Both of them were feeling helpless, desperate and at the same time happy. The scene when he became happy that she remembered and praised that he got a ring for her, the way he got excited when she asked him to give the ring and when she was happy to see him like that, the way she kept looking at him with pleasure to see him excited asking if he can put it on her finger, that entire scene where he puts on the ring and the way they both look at each other was beautiful. It spoke volumes and one could see love in both of them and they both could see it too but is not willing to accept that the other loves and wants them as much as they do.

Originally posted by: Sairat_fan7

When Virat had said that if he had never gone to GC, he would have never been in the position he was in during the DIG incident, she was hurt and very badly hurt//////

A correction here. Virat does not say that. He says upar se woh mujhe bola Meri GC jaana badi galti hai. Aisa kaun bolta hai yaar. Those were his words...

I know, that was really hurtful 😒. That is what I meant by saying that, just wanted to give the reference. Unfortunately he had conveyed that he regretted to have gone to GC or met her or had to get married to her. Whether those things are still in Sai’s head or not, those were all like a reminder, a lesson for her as how careful she should be to not forget that it is a deal marriage. Things changed but she acted conscious always so that it doesn’t become like she has started to develop expectations from him but nothing changed in him.

Originally posted by: laksh

Before I begin, I want to say that I lost a part of what I had typed 😞 when my phone got switched off. Let me try to see if I can add all the points that I had written last time.

I know many are upset with many dialogues in today’s episode. I loved the episode even though there were a few things that I didn’t like in today’s episode. I am writing a post on today’s episode but decided to post this separately. This is my understanding of Sai’s thoughts, her emotions and state of mind when Virat gave her the ring.

Takes me back to the day Virat wanted to know why Sai gets affected or upset when he talks to Pakhi up. When he had said that he is not committed to anyone and not fulfilling his commitment, Sai had asked him if it was because he wanted it that way or he ended it thinking she would feel bad. Sai’s question on whether he got the ring as a husband who wants to show his love for his wife is a similar question. She doesn’t want to, because even when he said that he is not committed to anyone, she didn’t want it if he was doing it because she would feel bad.

Sai has always been accepting anything only when she is sure that Virat wants it. She was thinking why did Virat agree to fulfill the rasams when he didn’t want to. She has not liked him compromising on everything. She knows that he was forced to get married to her and that was proved by his conditions about the marriage. She realised that he didn’t marry her out of his own will but did it out of force and it keeps bothering her. When Virat had said that if he had never gone to GC, he would have never been in the position he was in during the DIG incident, she was hurt and very badly hurt. It wasn’t just the marriage, the revelation that he was committed to someone else that bothered her, but it was also that Virat had regretted to have even gone to GC and had to marry her out of force which had created an impact on her. He was anyway doing things out of force and his outburst only brought out his regret, anger and helplessness that he felt to have gone to GC and to be forced to take a decision that he didn’t want to.

Ever since that, she has always tried to ask him if he was doing it or if he wanted it or was doing it for the sake of others. The first time when he tried to stop her from leaving his room, she had asked this. Then when he was asking her to join Ladakh, she has asked the same. It was to get an assurance that he was doing it all out of his own will and wasn’t doing it out of formality or because that was what would be expected out of him as husband.

Sai is a person of free will. She would do things only if she is okay with it, when her heart agrees to it. Be it continuing to live in CN without moving to hostel or cooking or applying Alta or returning to CN from hospital, or to apologise to Pakhi recently too, Sai has only listened to her heart and never did anything out of force, out of compulsion. The reason being her Dad who gave her the freedom, who let her do things that she is okay with, which she wants to do, not because he wanted her to. Hence, Virat doing things to please people or out of compulsion is incomprehensible to her. Sai wants Virat to do what he feels like, what he is okay with, not what he is expected to. She wants him to feel free to do what he wants and not do anything out of force or compulsion.

The marriage, the conditions, deal, his commitment and the fact that he didn’t want to get married but married her only out of force is so deep rooted in her, bothers her a lot that she doesn’t want him to do anything by him thinking that is expected out of him as a husband. She wants him to do anything only if he wants it. That is why she had raised this as an issue thinking he has once again got the ring as a husband since that’s what husbands are expected to, since that’s what wives might expect from their husbands, for the husband to gift them something nice.

The reason behind Sai saying she can accept it if it is a gift from him is because gift is not something one would get out of compulsion, they would have got it only when they want to gift them with. Sai stopped him from speaking any further worrying if he would say that he got it as a husband and that she has to accept it as a wife, just like how he had stopped her from leaving the house. She doesn’t want to hear that from him.

She thought that he has once again done something like how he had ended his commitment thinking that Sai got hurt and affected. Sai got hurt and affected when she saw both Virat and Pakhi at the pool and she saw how Virat tried to know what was bothering her and even tried to give her explanations. Sai had stayed upset with him after reaching home too. He tried to talk to her but when he didn’t answer her questions, she thought that he wasn’t willing to give her an answer since she didn’t have rights to question him those and it ended in a different route when the topic of Samrat came up. And after the confrontation, when Virat tried to talk about it again, to clear the issue, he had spoken that he has no commitment and doesn’t fulfill anything. It only created doubts that all this had happened only because she got upset with him and after the confrontation, after she asked him about him and Pakhi. Hence, she asked him if he ended his commitment because she got upset but instead of answering her that, he started his own quest and asked her if she was really upset and why does she get affected if he and Pakhi talks.

Had he said that he wanted to get her the ring because he wanted to, she would have been happy. The husband and wife part confuses her because as she had said, if they were a regular couple, they would have been one long time ago. Which means that he would have married her and accepted her as his wife, out of his own will and not due to compulsion. Hence, when he said that he did get it as a birthday gift and she was thinking too much, there was no other reason for him to get it, she got upset because she had mistook it. That’s why she had said why did she even ask him that because it was as if she was making a fool out of herself by even asking him if he got it as a husband. That is why she had thought that he would have got it for Pakhi even if he had to. When he said that there can be no other reasons to get it, for her it looked like of course there can’t be any other reason to get it since he has feelings for someone else and can’t give that place to her. When Sai asked or refused to accept the ring, it was only so that he doesn’t give it out of formality as a husband that she might be expecting a gift from him, but at the same time, she didn’t expect this answer from him. She had no expectations from him but at the same time had got disappointed when she heard him. She didn’t like what she heard. He had said that it was only a gift which made her upset because to her it looks as if of course it has to be a birthday gift only because he can’t give the place he has once given to Pakhi, to her.

He said that because she wasn’t accepting the ring, so as to not freak her out or not make her uncomfortable or run away from him but she misunderstood that.

Both want the same but are getting hurt and confused to their own insecurities and misunderstanding. One has made progress but the other thinks that he is still stuck in the same place as when they started their relationship. The confusion will end only when both of them try, only when they are open, frank, straightforward with each other, only when they speak up, when they shed their insecurities, only leave their past behind. They both should look at each other from a new angle. Sai should stop thinking that Virat is doing things out of force, she should start looking at how he actually wants certain things. She should try to differentiate what are things one would do out of force and what are things one would do only when they feel like. It will help her open her eyes to look into all of Virat’s actions from a different perspective.

Virat should start seeing why does Sai keep bringing deal in between them, why is she not able to understand his actions, why she is not able to accept her feelings. He should share his past with her, should share about his emotions and what he has been going through ever since they got married. He has to clear a part of her confusion, so that she can think or look at things clearly and not associate it with him doing it only because he is forced to.

Well thought through and beautifully put.

Bold - 💯 Exactly what I felt. Communication is the essence here. They should end this misunderstanding by communicating with each other. Virat should initiate the communication and explain his past relationship and the waada, the deal being a mistake. He should convey how his feelings have changed over time. For her the deal is something carved out of stone, she must be convinced that it was a blunder from his part. Then she shall recognize his actions are out of love and not out of responsibility. Only after he unveils his entire past and the situations surrounding it, she shall begin to see him a new light leaving the past behind.

All of Virat's past words and actions are hitting back at him now very hard. His words and actions might not be intentional but out of anger and emotions, but those words were enough for Sai to strengthen the deal marriage.

Love is there between them, no doubt, but insecurities also accompany it. Communication is the ultimate solution.

I have a lot mixed emotions about today's episode. Both of them were equally wrong. No one was the bechara/bechari type for me today. Both said alot of hurtful and insulting things to each other, directly and indirectly.