Shivangi/Pallavi AT #12- Sunshine Mixed With A Little Hurricane 🌀 - Page 13

Originally posted by: Inese_20

+1

itna secure ki koi aa bhi jaaye toh bhi Pallavi should know that it’s her place only and Raghav won’t let anyone in!

Which I’m sure he won’t , Anjali aake kya hi kar legi ? What’s the purpose?

Originally posted by: Amnnaa

It is so nice to hear it and all. But you don't have idea about how we're being made fun of and criticised for this culture of us. This system is followed only by Muslim community in my district. Everywhere else it's same patriarchal system.

I understand..no matter what we do there is judgement in society .

Originally posted by: ReemShah

I am shocked to hear this--although a pleasant shock that widows there are treated rightfully

@bold--this is something I have never heard? do you live in India?

One of my friend lost her father when we were in 7th std. And you know her whole education was sponsored by outsiders and her mother was even given a stable job at school. So I was kinda shocked to know that widows are treated this badly at some places.

I am from India only. The reason you never heard it is because that system is confined among Muslim community in my district. Actually we were always criticised and made fun of by people from other districts because of this culture of ours.

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Honestly, I didn't realize how suffocating this can be till I went through something myself. High school mein, this guy decided he liked me, and I turned him down, because I didn't reciprocate. It should have ended here, but nahi. He was relentless, made me miserable- and the social pressures became so evident. Him, and his friends, would say the same kind of stuff to me that annoys us on forums- but he's rich, he's good looking, why are you saying no? He was sexist, refused to take no for an answer, got angry at me for being with my guy friends (please note, this is despite me not dating him- imagine what he'd be like with his girlfriend?). And the cherry on the cake, one day I got really really overwhelmed and broke down in front of my then 'best friend', and her response was, 'Ab bas bhi kar, stop playing so hard to get. He's making so much efforts, just give him a shot na, and don't pretend in front of me at least, I'm sure you like the attention'

Now, I don't want to make it a sob story- I have a super chill relationship with my parents, who were super supportive, knew everything, and had my back, and in general, I had amazing friends and barring a few days when it got to me, I was able to very happily hawa mein filter all this crap, I used to laugh at it, it never bothered me, but for someone who didn't have these supports (like Kirti), I completely understand how social pressures push women into shitty, abusive relationships.

I am sorry that you had to go through it.

My bestie went through it too...she was like the most popular, good looking girl..several guys were after her...one of them being absolutely crazy, he was a sport junk too so imagine when she kept rejecting him, how everybody treated her. Unfortunately she said yes to him after his relentless persuasion, thankfully the relationship never got serious and he was not that an MCP.

Originally posted by: Amnnaa

One of my friend lost her father when we were in 7th std. And you know her whole education was sponsored by outsiders and her mother was even given a stable job at school. So I was kinda shocked to know that widows are treated this badly at some places.

I am from India only. The reason you never heard it is because that system is confined among Muslim community in my district. Actually we were always criticised and made fun of by people from other districts because of this culture of ours.

although your system is criticized--I applaud the fact the even after facing such negativity you have continued to maintain it

it is refreshing to hear that there are people in society with such forward thinking.

I am glad that your friend and her mother had a sorted life post her husband's death

Originally posted by: Amnnaa

One of my friend lost her father when we were in 7th std. And you know her whole education was sponsored by outsiders and her mother was even given a stable job at school. So I was kinda shocked to know that widows are treated this badly at some places.

I am from India only. The reason you never heard it is because that system is confined among Muslim community in my district. Actually we were always criticised and made fun of by people from other districts because of this culture of ours.

Hopefully not hurtful comments but it shouldn't be made fun of in the first place.

Originally posted by: I-Got-You

Brilliant post Paro ❤️

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5237938#157884294

this post is a really good one--beautiful and loved Pallavi's dialogue😆

Originally posted by: tiara_remixfan

I am sorry that you had to go through it.

My bestie went through it too...she was like the most popular, good looking girl..several guys were after her...one of them being absolutely crazy, he was a sport junk too so imagine when she kept rejecting him, how everybody treated her. Unfortunately she said yes to him after his relentless persuasion, thankfully the relationship never got serious and he was not that an MCP.

I appreciate it, but seriously, no need to be sorry, it feels unearned since as I said, it really wasn't that bad for me, as I know it can get for other girls. But I just hate how misogyny is just so deeply entrenched in our world that this is such a common occurence 😡

Originally posted by: RainbowUnicorm

Exactly. Bingo. Also the whole ladies whiskey and red wine party the pulled...mil dil...awesome. Amma's character itself ..very strong. Aai too..loved it when she removed her mangalsutra and went after Palllavi the night she was thrown out. Each social injustice being called out and thrown..this show has been amaxing .

Women in Siku's shows are forward with modernised thinking but still sticking to traditional roots

they have power to stand up for wrong and face it and also voice and point it out

Originally posted by: aye-masakalii

Parul 🤗

I know you feel strongly about this too yaar. I think the reason I talk about this so often is ki I've always been a believer of 'impact, not intent' and so I just want more initiative on Raghav's part that makes his intent explicit, and has the impact on Pallavi. She needs to know what he's feeling na? Sab kuch 'main har cheez bolta nahi' ke under nahi aa sakta, and I think he's also starting to learn it. Obviously, won't happen overnight, and we're here for the journey, as long as we eventually reach the destination.

And haan, humein gloating bhi toh karni hai!

@bold: yea, will have to wait. Some days I can be patient, on others I feel like just do it already Raghav, she’s lovely! 😆

@blue: Aur kya