Felt the need to make this post. Don't ask me why, I don't know.
I slept for less than 3 hrs last night so forgive me for the short analysis. I decided to pick only the most important parts of the episode.
Men are often let off the hook for their actions or behavior and in patriarchal families like the Sabherwals, the blame lands on the women.
Unmarried men - mothers
Married men - wives
And this does not come in defense for Anokhi. I am also considering Devi a victim of this circle.
Remember, how easily Devi was blamed for Shaurya's actions? Not just Tej, but even by Shaan in Anokhi's library humiliation track. Why was only Devi blamed when the whole Sabherwal clan has the same soch?
Today, Shaurya Sabherwal is married and his wife is held responsible for his rebellion against their age old parampara.
It does affect women deeply when something like this is hung over their head. There is no doubt that women are core of a family, however, it is wrong to hold her responsible for keeping the family together. That not ONLY her job.
Anokhi tried to explain this to Shaurya. She wanted him to understand that things get worse when he back-answers to support her.
She wants to be accepted in her sasural.
A newly wedded bride who is trying to adjust with a new family does not want to be treated like the 'other party' or in other words, the enemy.
Shaurya not understanding her point wasn't a new thing. He merely wants to avoid drama. And could not clearly see her point, also he is annoyed with Badi Maa poking his insecurities to the surface.
The fact is, men usually tend to ignore household matters. They think these things are trivial, mostly because women themselves are more into the matters inside the house while men assume that their role ends with earning for the family and outdoor chores. If men get even half as involved as women are in familial issues, they will see things the way women do. There is nothing called as "women are more sensitive than men".
It will take a while for Shaurya to understand this and its sad that these issues won't be addressed adequately.
Shaurya took her words seriously and sat quiet ๐
Anokhi and Shaurya both know that Anokhi is being targeted and are both trying to understand how to deal with these situations.
Also, Shaurya is no fool. He saw how Devi made Rai ka Pahad just to accuse Anokhi. So even Anokhi needs to mind what is to be demanded of her husband. After all, most husbands do as told in matters concerning the family.
The fight was cute. And real as well.
Dekho sau baat ki ek baat... Dating and Marriage equations are very different. The problems, the solving methods, and the level of understanding between each member of the family get involved. Also, once you start living with your spouse, you start noticing and learning more things about them. Living under the same roof does change the dating phase.
However, I do not appreciate Shaurya taking his pillow and heading their fight outside their room.
Shaurya's annoyance is reasonable too.
Shaurya is confused and upset too.
He is unable to understand why things are changing between them after marriage and what exactly are Anokhi's expectations from him. It is natural.
Let's be honest, Shaurya thought it would be easy to stand up for their relationship and support her dreams, not only because he worked on himself and changed... But because he did not include his family in his rapid calculations. Living with the family was their happy decision but he forgot that clash of ideologies was not just between Shaurya-Anokhi but also between Sabherwal clan and Anokhi.
When there are constant fights, accusations and taunts thrown at a person who can stand tall and call out the bullshit, there are gonna be after shocks. Here, the after shock is ShaKhi fights. Anokhi cannot and should not compromise while Shaurya should start to understand that his 'under the carpet' attitude does more harm than good.
Anokhi is trying to fit in this new family while trying to keep her real self intact, it is obviously going to cause friction between Sabherwals and her, also in the husband-wife relationship. They are living under the same roof, sharing the same food, so clashes will happen.
The fact is, had there been more time, makers would have taken it slower and given us everything we need but we know the unfortunate truth.
I genuinely respect the fact that they are trying to cover the MAJOR patriarchal issues they originally had planned to show post-marriage. Yes, we want romance and intimacy in this last leg of the show, but as a member of the audience who loves SAAKK for keep the tracks rooted to reality, I am completely in sync with everything.
Married logo se pucho, newly married phase mei kitni ladaiya hoti hai..! It is because both are adjusting and getting to know each other. Romance dikhane mei makers ka kuch nahi jata, but pyaar sirf touch mei nahi feel mei bhi bayan kiya jata hai. And ShaKhi are expressing their feelings too well.
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