Bhool jao mere Adi ko - Page 18

Originally posted by: countryapple

Now that all the cats are out of the bag, all the truths revealed to everyone, the hide and seek game is over…

Only one truth remaining is didi’s lies about KC, so once revealed she will get a felicitation from everyone🤣🤣🤣

And Adi’s guilt trip starts. I wish story proceeds in a progressive way on how both the girls proceed in their life and succeed.

Ye to mast hoga😆Imaliya will start drawing parallels😆i damn sure😆

And BS Malini Malini😆

Originally posted by: Loony_lovegood

Let me put in my thoughts also here Aps! Let me know what you think 😃

Even I was wondering if Aparna was having a similar dilemma like Adi had when he was in denial. Because I also did not miss those emotions passing her face when Imlie was speaking to her. At times I have felt even Radha resonates with Apu's emotions. So I thought to start from Adi to understand how much they are similar.

Adi himself confessed that Imlie reminded him of his tarnished false pride, his helplessness at having gotten married on gunpoint and his guilt at not being able to come clean with Malini. He was weighed down by the frustration at having to lie about her to everyone. So he made a point to vent all his frustrations on her by insulting her. He just wanted an exit, and thats why he insisted her to leave his home. Even when he handed over the money to her in PD, he had this genuine concern for her, and a concience that her education should not be affected because of him and he was ready to take the responsibility. But ensuring she stays far away from him so that he is not reminded of the past.

But today when we try to draw parallels on both Adi and Apu, we should also take into consideration on what basis they were rejecting Imlie. Adi was reminded of his past and he wanted her out of his life. It was not out of contempt/prejudices. He never verbally belittled her because she was an illegitimate child, or her social status. When he got married to her, he never judged her or insulted her on those grounds, he just wanted to keep her at bay so that he will not feel like he is betraying Malini. Adi's denial/love was not conditional like Apu's. Again the similarity is that we see Apu rejecting Imlie on the basis of her broken "pride" on her son marrying a girl "below" her social strata which is the conditioning that you talked about. That false pride did not stem from feeling helpless like Adi. She on contrast to Adi was not weighed down by any guilt on betraying Malini because for her Malini moved on with Kunal. Because of this social conditioning she will have to lie the society about her bahu's status unlike Adi who lied to keep his personal life on his control.

Even though their thought processes were similar, that alone will never make her be like Adi. He will never hide Imlie from the world because her social status did not match his. We could say that Adi and Apu are similar in PROCESSING their emotions, but they are ethically and in their beliefs very different from each other. So the redemption should also be in a totally different line, not like Adi's.

I get where you are coming from. The reason I said that their journey will be similar is because both tried to reject a truth that was clear to them from day one - That Aditya was married to Imlie. Adi rejected it because he was committed to Malini & his pride & ego took a huge hit. Aparna is rejecting it because her social conditioning does not allow her to easily to accept someone below her social standing to be called her son's life partner. Both of them use their inherent issues to lash out at the easiest target - Imlie. While Adi's ego was hurt, Imlie had no hand in that and had even worse consequences to face than he did. It is actually easier for me to understand Aparna than it was for Adi. Adi lashed out at her and continuously broke down her self respect as a punishment for his bruised ego and self respect, for which she was in no way responsible. She had no one to turn to then and was continuously alone, as she could not even tell her own family about anything. She was in a much worse state emotionally then, than she is now. That time when she had no one, Aparna supported her and loved her like a mother, and even stood up to her son multiple times for mistreating her.

Aparna does not inherently believe in what she is saying right now. If she did, she would have never berated Adi for keeping Imlie out of his room, for whatever reason. The issue now is that Aparna is unable to accept Imlie as her bahu. Not because Imlie did something wrong, but because she is afraid of facing the society and defending her son's decision. She feels that society will judge them and she is not prepared to face that. So she is using every trick in the book to alienate Imlie to either give up or move on from her son. This means that she will not have to do anything and things will be back to status quo, including her behavior with Imlie. But now Imlie has a solid support system, with a lot of people behind her, biggest of which is Adi, who is willing to go against everyone just to get her the place she deserves. This makes Aparna feel even more like things are going out of hand, so she tries getting more vicious to convince herself and others that Imlie is not worth being with them because of her paidaish. She is trying to throw everything on the wall to see what sticks. But beech beech mein that façade slips, when Imlie tries to reason with her or reach out to that mother in her who is attached to Imlie even now. That is why she reacts exactly like Adi by bargaining with her, so that again things go back to status quo.

So while I agree that Aparna's redemption will be different to Adi's, she is also suffering like Adi was. Rejecting years of conditioning and mindset is the most difficult thing to do, specially when you are challenged on your belief system everyday. You know your conditioning is wrong, but most people do not have the courage to break it easily. Imle and Adi are right now trying to chip away at that conditioning to get back the purane T family who fell in love with Imlie and still care for her even today.

Originally posted by: FlowerHater

Ye to mast hoga😆Imaliya will start drawing parallels😆i damn sure😆

And BS Malini Malini😆

lagta hai apka fav moments honge ye🤣

Originally posted by: Panchhi1

She isn't wearing sindoor- MS in BTS??

Now it feels Babusahib needs to publish article in Bhasker times😆

she is not in BTS with ritu and Ashita... she is in her single get up..

Originally posted by: Panchhi1

I hope makers will give us some Adilie scenes in that Kona .. otherwise it's meaningless #bsinimliekakona

They are totally focused on drama only ..they need to balance it with Adilie scenes ..not asking for cliche one but there needs to be something only Adilie..

Agree. We need a shot of some Adilie scenes as a fix for our addiction. Too much drama going around otherwise.😆

Originally posted by: FlowerHater

Ye to mast hoga😆Imaliya will start drawing parallels😆i damn sure😆

And BS Malini Malini😆

"abhi gau basaa nahi , lutere pehle hi aa gaye"😆

No more Malini jaap from BS plz !!

Sochne me bhi darr lag rahaa hai ..😕

Originally posted by: _Seera_

Question is why Imlie is back in her single get up? Ab kya ho gaya ki she decided not to wear her Sindoor?

Someone said they may be doing some FB scenes with Imlie & Aparna, so that may be the reason.

Waise toh Adi has declared in college that she is his wife, so honestly I don't think she will remove it unless it is something like that.

Originally posted by: Panchhi1

Bhai is read with best Bahu competition 😆 kitna drama Hoga??

Aur it is to show Apu's flip 🤔?? They will humiliate Imlie badly with new entry and suddenly Apu come to defend Imlie😆

I do not want to raise my hopes, coz these people will highly likely dash them as well.

Originally posted by: countryapple

May be Ts asked her to remove for Nishvi’s function

but that function dress she is wearing sindoor n MS.. so thats not the case

Originally posted by: Apsvenky

Agree. We need a shot of some Adilie scenes as a fix for our addiction. Too much drama going around otherwise.😆

Matlab bhau cliche platonic ke naam pe only drama serve kar rahaa hai ..

Someone said on Twitter " organic ke naam pe gober hi de rahe hai " makers😆

Bhaulead pair has amazing chamistry Thora bahot use bhi Karo..come-on its been more than 200 episodes and here we are not getting normal convo between them even..

I so miss PD3 trip