Originally posted by: inlieu
Pallavi's dreams were shattered, she's been struggling for two years but he's be struggling for ten. She lost a husband she knew for a few months, but he lost half the family he was born into and grew up with.
I don't think you can ever compare or judge the trauma that two different people go through and it's not fair. No grief can be quantified as bigger or smaller than the other because it is subjective to the person involved. However, the fact is that the 17-year-old Raghav is still very much alive in his heart and mind who hasn't recovered even a bit from the burden on his soul. I don't expect him to think about law and order here at the expense of losing his sister. He just can't bring himself to do it and it would be extremely strange if he did.
I am glad he pointed that out because she clearly never thought about this when saying his love for his sister is blind. No, I don't think it's blind, rather he's ensuring his ears are deaf to all her words, accusations, taunts, and the rest because he'd never able to live with himself if he lost his sister and maybe even his mother because of all this.
I don't expect Pallavi to have to compromise or side with him just because she's a woman/his wife, but I do want to see that she fully understands the context in which he's operating just the way he understands her. Otherwise, it feels lopsided.
this is a long one sorry - I probably went on a few tangents here, my bad. LOL
@bold: I think you brought up some great points (in previous comments too) but why does she have to understand him? She and D fam are the victim's family here, they have every right to know and seek justice and every right to question anyone who is involved in the crime (cover up or the crime itself). This includes her now questioning Raghav. I just am not sure why she has to understand him. She is the wronged party here. She is the one who isn't getting the closure she and D fam actually deserve in this situation. Raghav saying to just use him as the scapegoat, is like putting a band aid on top of a gun shot wound. Who is it going to appease? What is it going to resolve? Who would get closure? What about Pallavi's behavior toward him made Raghav think that it would be a good enough for her?
He understands her because all of her feelings/thought process are valid and her actions are right. If the roles were reversed, he would 1000% act this way too. (Tangent - but how much do we wanna bet that they're gonna make this all come full circle and that Rao villain guy is somehow related to Pallavi - how would Raghav act then...)
She can understand his feelings and his thought process (I agree with you on why he feels this way and how his trauma is causing him to react this way), but his actions are still wrong. I think she does understand why he's doing this and the context in which he's doing it - she said as much when he was faking being drunk. Today's outburst of hers is just her trying to convince him that what he's doing is wrong and is going to ruin his life.
I think what she doesn't understand is how he can actually ignore her pain this much. He gave her one option - him as the scapegoat - but if he knows Pallavi so well - how could he not have anticipated she would react that way? I think even a part of him knows she won't ever turn him in.
Also, she hasn't even gotten a SORRY from Keerti. That's the the least he could make Keerti do. He's not seeing the vampy side of Keerti. So yeah, there is truth to what Pallavi said about him being blinded by his love for his sister. He can't see that she hasn't even been remorseful to Pallavi about it.
Like how has this not come up in the show at all?! I get he has loose morals but they aren't that loose where he doesn't care about an innocent's persons life. They show scenes of him helping people - even Mandaar - to show that. He's not ruthless in that sense. He said he understood Pallavi's pain. But he's also showing her that he won't do what he is capable of to actually ease her pain. We all understand why. Pallavi understands why, but it won't stop her from feeling hurt about it. She is invested in this relationship and bettering him. He said he would commit to her happiness & change for her. Yet, here, when he should be a husband to her & be that changed man, he can't, because he's too busy being a brother to Keerti.
He brought up the abortion thing - in the end its not the best example to use to justify his rationale- no one is going to jail for an abortion. There is no victim's family that is left waiting for closure. That "life" didn't share 20-25+ odd years of memories with other people. It didn't leave a void in someone's life.
Regardless of all that's happening and the different sides/perspectives/opinions on the characters - I am so glad this is happening LOL. I live for angst. This is setting up the story quite nicely IMO of them drifting apart and Mandaar entry to shake things up. That's going to put Raghav in the position of whether to actually prioritize Pallavi in his life & fight for her, or to be noble and let her go. And for Pallavi, is Raghav worth it or was Mandaar the better fit for her? Can she live with a morally grey man (assuming Mandaar is the real Mandaar who was all good and noble) or is someone more "normal" better?
EDIT: Also, Raghav does understand Pallavi because he couldn't catch the Rao guy who's deceit is ultimately what led to the death of his father & brother. Yet, he can't look past his own trauma to help her get the justice he was never able to get for his own family. We all can see why (he needs a therapist). But Pallavi, who is going through her own trauma again right now, won't internalize that. Really, I should say she won't accept that. She's going to demand more of Raghav just as she always has.
Edited by fria319 - 4 years ago
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