Is it Love or Infatuation?

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I always used to believe that Virat loves Sai and the feeling he had for pakhi was just an infatuation . After all who fell in love in just two days and start imagining a married life with that person. It is my idea of love I can't relate with the concept of " Love at first sight " . Love is a feeling which you feel when something touches your heart.Nothing can touch your heart other than emotions. Emotions come with experiences .Experiences demand time. So basically my theory is love happens with time.

But that doesn't mean spending quality time with someone always makes you fell in love with that person. Love is a complex emotion so I just try to comprehend the foundation of Virat's love for Sai

Is it love or an infatuation?

It is Love :

1. They have spend enough time together. They share laughs , meals, Inner feelings , sorrows, and angers with each other. Their bond is organic

2. They bring best out of each other. She makes his life better

3. Virat feels alive in her company.

4. Virat can't imagine his life without her.

5. He wanted to see her face before and after that dangerous mission.

6. He feels jealous when he sees her with another guy that means he fears the idea of getting replaced in her life with someone else.

It is Infatuation :

1. She was brought in his life . She wasn't his choice . She was his responsibility and is his wife so it is easier to name your feeling as love when you start enjoying the company of your wife and love the charm and freshness she brings in your life.

2. Virat knows sai felt hurt when he told her before their marriage about him being in love with someone else. She herself shared it with him in anger. Why can't he clear her all apprehensions and cut all the ties with his ex in front of her.

3. You claims to be in love with your wife then how can you think about the feelings of other woman when your wife is in your arms and you are living the moment you have always dreamt .

4. Does Virat lose his true self in sai's company? I don't know is it a better version of Virat who cares about his sister and take stand for his loved ones or this is just sai's influence?

5. Why so soft with pakhi? If she is your sister in law and you can't be rude to her as she is part of your family then start calling her " vahini" and if you feel sorry for her and find himself responsible for her miseries then please don't compromise with your wife's self respect in all this. Virat can't weigh sai and pakhi in the same scale other wise his love for Sai also looks just an infatuation.

6. You don't throw the person you claims to be in love with out of your house in the middle of night .

So what you Guys think Is it love or Infatuation?

It’s definitely not love or infatuation . He is just habitual of Sai being around.

You are right actually !!

It's just a timepass thing not love nor infatuation. Usko to attachment bhi nhi hai.

It's the first stage of love. He loves her personality, he is strangely attracted to her since day one even when he thought he was in love with his two days yoga wali. He likes her company, her chirpiness, her gussa, her kindness, her boldness, her wildness, her fighting spirit, her childness too. He has started liking everything about her and wants to give it a try. Are they compatible ? Maybe not but sometimes love is complicated. Heart wants the complete opposite of what you ever wanted. It's definitely beyond infatuation.

It is not infatuation. He is a confused soul who loves and wants Sai, to spend the rest of the life with only her but doesn't know how to act many times. He is an emotional person and also a person who holds himself responsible for the happiness of the people he is related to. He thinks it is his duty to keep people around him happy, he would like to address issues when it flags up atleast. All he needs is a push or that it should come out in front of him and if someone else helps that person, he will let it be, won't get involved but if he finds that person too upset and when especially there isno one to help them, he will jump to help them.

He acts in extremes with Sai because the emotions for her is making him take too much liberty on her, making him keep very high expectations from her, making him take her for granted. His behavior with her is also probably because it all started as him taking her responsibility, he considered that he is responsible for her safety, for all her actions and so used to ensure that she doesn't go wrong or doesn't create any issues. In the process of ensuring this, he has crossed lines, he has acted mad, lost control over himself. Unintentionally or unknowingly, the age factor between them, her young age, her dependency on him made him take charge of situations or made him show his authority or upper hand. I must say that it does not come out with a malign intention to hurt her or to put her in place, it comes out because he has no control over his emotions, loses himself and becomes easy for him to act that way since he can act unlike the case of his family like Kaku or his Dad or Omi. He is subconsciously aware of the effect of his anger on Sai, aware that even she gets scared, aware that he can overpower her or show his authority on her due to her status and age (when I mean status, I mean she is his wife, not Kaku).

My first sentence about how to act, he is like an object in an experiment. The object behaves differently based on the parameters, Virat is also subjected to various different parameters after he married Sai. He is in the process of learning how to behave/act under varied conditions and is failing many times in this process.

One such parameter is his ex with whom he is still learning as how to deal with. He is just acting as per his emotions without giving much of a thought as what would be the consequences of his actions. He is a person who would not forget or ignore other's misery because he is happy.

Let's look at the difference. Her cries in the hospital or in his room didn't bother him much because he knew that she was wrong, because she was expecting unreasonable things from him. Even when she cried when he had gone to request her to participate in the skit, he didn't care when she cried because she had brought the past and he didn't like her doing it wspecially when he has clearly told her.

But I think in today's episode, he probably felt that she was crying because he doesn't care about her contribution and only cared about Sai's contribution. He probably thought that she shouldn't get upset thinking he would praise only his wife. Hence he felt a need, felt an urgency to thank her. I gave it a thought and I think he wanted to thank her right away, right after she helped him, was only right on his part to give her the credit she deserved. As much as he was thankful to Sai to have helped him uniting his sister with her daughter, he felt thankful that Pakhi went out of her way, kept her ego aside, kept her bitterness for Sai aside and acted in the skit with Sai.

None of these means that I am happy with the scene 🤣. I am talking about Virat the character, what he did was not needed though. It will only boost Pakhi's hopes and he is under estimating the situation.

He loves Sai but his love lacks a lot of elements, may be due to his nature. She should go away for sometime after the precap for him to think as how to behave in the future. He cannot continue to extend support or act empathetic towards Pakhi. He should learn to involve the woman from his family or Pakhi's family to do that job.

Originally posted by: laksh

It is not infatuation. He is a confused soul who loves and wants Sai, to spend the rest of the life with only her but doesn't know how to act many times. He is an emotional person and also a person who holds himself responsible for the happiness of the people he is related to. He thinks it is his duty to keep people around him happy, he would like to address issues when it flags up atleast. All he needs is a push or that it should come out in front of him and if someone else helps that person, he will let it be, won't get involved but if he finds that person too upset and especially no one to help them, he will jump to help them.

He acts in extremes with Sai because the emotions for her ia making him take too much liberty on her, keep very high expectations from her, making him take her for granted. His behavior with her is also probably because it all started as him taking her responsibilities, he considered that he is responsible for her safety, for all her actions and so used to ensure that she doesn't go wrong or doesn't create any issues. In the process of ensuring this, he has crossed lines, he has acted mad, lost control over himself. Unintentionally unknowingly, the age factor between them, her young age, her dependency on him made him take charge of situations or made him show his authority or upper hand. I must say that it does not come out with a malign intention to hurt her or to put her in place, it comes out because he has control over his emotions, loses himself and becomes easy for him to act that way since he can act unlike the case of his family like Kaku or his Dad or Omi. He is subconsciously aware of the effect of his anger on Sai, aware that even she gets scared, aware that he can overpower her or show his authority on her due to her status and age (when I mean status, I mean she is his wife, not Kaku).

My first sentence about how to act, he is like an object in an experiment. The object behaves differently based on the parameters, Virat is also subjected to various different parameters after he married Sai. He is in the process of learning how to behave/act under varied conditions and is failing many times in this process.

One such parameter is his ex with whom he is still learning as how to deal with. He is just acting as per his emotions without giving much of a thought as what would be the consequences of his actions. He is a person who would not forget or ignore other's misery because he is happy.

Let's look at the difference. Her cries in the hospital or in his room didn't bother him much because he knew that she was wrong, because she was expecting unreasonable things from him. Even when she cried when he had gone to request her to participate in the skit, he didn't care when she cried because she had brought the past and he didn't like her doing it wspecially when he has clearly told her.

But I think in today's episode, he probably felt that she was crying because he doesn't care about her contribution and only cared about Sai's contribution. He probably thought that she shouldn't get upset thinking he would praise only his wife. Hence he felt a need, felt an urgency to thank her. I gave it a thought and I think he wanted to thank her right away, right after she helped him, was only right on his part to give her the credit she deserved. As much as he was thankful to Sai to have helped him uniting his sister with her daughter, he felt thankful that Pakhi went out of her way, kept her ego aside, kept her bitterness for Sai aside and acted in the skit with Sai.

None of these means that I am happy with the scene 🤣. I am talking about Virat the character, what he did was not needed though. It will only boost Pakhi's hopes and he is under estimating the situation.

He loves Sai but his love lacks a lot of elements, may be due to his nature. She should go away for sometime after the precap for him to think as how to behave in the future. He cannot continue to extend support or act empathetic towards Pakhi. He should learn to involve the woman from his family or Pakhi's family to do that job.

Okay, when I read your posts or basically of love on ghum forum, it seems love is beautiful sometimes😆

But when I see ghum, love seems so dangerous, and my brain yells, "na na ,Shristhi, bacche, tere bas ki baat nahi hai"🤣

Yeah !! This can be seen as first stage of love . Their relationship needs time to flourish . I agree sometimes you find your soulmate in a person who is complete opposite of you . Sometimes you desires to behave out of your own personality and wants to inculcate certain characteristics in your personalities but due to some reasons you just resist and when you meet the person with those characteristics you feel complete.

Originally posted by: Shristhi2002

Okay, when I read your posts or basically of love on ghum forum, it seems love is beautiful sometimes😆

But when I see ghum, love seems so dangerous, and my brain yells, "na na ,Shristhi, bacche, tere bas ki baat nahi hai"🤣

Love is like that dear, beautiful sometimes and is painful too 🙈. Misery makes us appreciate happy moments even further. Just like how one realises how much lucky they are when they kniw that there are others who don't even have 10 percent of what they have.

Love is beautiful, full of emotions, a person can get carried away in it in both good and bad ways, just have to understand the necessity to have a control on those overflowing emotions when it is going in the bad way. We don't become scholars in class 1 of school 🤣, have to finish schooling and have to graduate too. Not all can become scholars without having to attend schools and colleges. In Life and relationship, we will always be in the journey of learnings by watching others or some really good examples or by making mistakes or by learning from looking at other's mistakes.

Kuch zyaada hi gyan ho gaya, I know 🤣🤣🤭.

Originally posted by: laksh

Love is like that dear, beautiful sometimes and is painful too 🙈. Misery makes us appreciate happy moments even further. Just like how one realises how much lucky they are when there are others who don't even have 10 percent of what they have.

Love is beautiful, full of emotions, a person can get carried away in it in both good and bad ways, just have to understand the necessity to have a control on those overflowing emotions when it is going in the bad way. We don't become scholars in class 1 of school 🤣, have to finish schooling and have to graduate too. Not all can become scholars without having to attend schools and colleges. In Life and relationship, we will always be in the journey of learnings by watching others or some really goid examples or by making mistakes or by learning from looking at other's mistakes.

Kuch zyaada hi gyan ho gaya, I know 🤣🤣🤭.

WowYou sent me back to dreaming🤣