Originally posted by: laksh
Thanks for the tag Sera.
I didn't like Sai pushing Virat to do something that he wasn't convinced with. I am yet to watch the entire episode, have just watched a few clippings so don't have too much of details. From whatever I know that she has done, I would only say that she has to consider other's opinion/comfort and respect other's wishes too. For a change Pulkit himself wasn't sure of it and she just didn't want to think of it, as if she wanted to get it done, finish some task that she thinks she has to complete before she leaves the house.
Everything need not be her responsibility and this is none of her business now. I had written in my post as why she wants to unite Devi with the family, but other than having such thoughts/intentions it is equally important to consider other's point of view too. He knows his family better and she has herself seen how they have acted ever since they returned from the hospital. Someone told me that Virat wouldn't have listened even if Sai had tried to convince him to get Devi Pulkit married even if she had tried. Yes, even if Sai was upfront about it, he wouldn't have agreed with her, wouldn't have been able to believe if she had accused his family members of kidnapping. It wouldn't have been an easy task for Sai to let him see the true colors of his family without a proper evidence. I blame Virat that he would give more weightage to his family's words than Sai's sometimes because of which she might not have trust in him. He always need not be believing her but sometimes he really gets blinded. If that is his nature, her nature is no less. He, atleast has a reason that it is his family, but she has no reason to be this stubborn now.
Also, if she wants Devi to be blessed by these people, she could have suggested this or recommended this but should not be hurrying it up.
She should let him recover, let him think/assess the suggestion and let him take the action. She is no one to do all the rasams. Yes, she is his wife but even after whatever happened during the wedding or after the wedding, she has still not got sense to stay away from a few matters.
She has a right as a DIL of the family and do have rights whether she is here for a week or not. But right now it is not right on her part that she wants to exercise that right to bring Devi back before she leaves the house.
I feel Virat should decide this especially when she has plans to leave. Even if she isn't leaving, she can do it but only when Virat feels comfortable.
I will only say that it is not just enough to be transparent, it is important to respect the spouse's views/opinion and take a collective decision. She has forced it or I would say imposed her views/decisions and I hate it.
I would say that like how he has a few qualities due to his upbringing, she has got qualities to act stubborn because she would have been pampered by her Dad or because it all worked in their house.
It worked in her house or her Dad didn't mind but there, they were just 3 people, she, her Dad and UM and they will happily agree to whatever she suggests that are suggested with good intentions. Here, a whole big family is involved and that family who didn't even care that their son rest in his room as soon as he returned from the hospital, a family who was against Devi Pulkit marriage.
There had been so much of chaos before the wedding, she has seen their attitude towards this whole thing, she and Virat have had a conflict due to this, she has see how dangerous those people can be, what all they can do, they can plot and how they can separate her and Virat. She might not care that they separate her from Virat because she thinks she is anyway going to leave the house, but that doesn't mean that she forgets that there was a reason why she entered the house, to take care of Virat. And to take care of Virat, she shouldn't take panga of anyone from the house anymore, has to ensure peace is maintained so that Virat recovers quickly. She should ensure that she doesn't do anything which might result in them asking her to leave the house or again raise issues with her returning to the house. All of these are going to affect her main goal for which shw entered the house.
The whole ousting khaand came into picture because of that wedding, whatever happened after they returned from the hospital was as a result of their wedding, what else is needed for her to realise that it is not a good idea to do all this and especially now?
She doesn't give up "main kabhi haar maani hai?" doesn't mean that she will not give up tasks which is not meant to be carried by her or doesn't mean that she would never give up on anything. Not all has to be the way she thinks /feela is right.
If she thinks that she has to do it before she leaves the house, like the next Sunday, then that is the most stupid thing. If the plan is to stay for this short period, in this one week, her only priority should be Virat and not get some rasams done especially not the very next day.
If Devi returning house is that important, sacrifice one day of your college and get it done after 4 days lady, that is what I would say and that too only if Virat is comfortable/convinced. Why put Virat under emotional stress the very next day that they have returned from hospital 😡. Why very next day, she had put him into stress for the very little time that discussed about it with him too. Her staying with him is a big relief for him now and that helped him come out of that stress instantly but it is still not fair to bring up these now.
About repeating that she has come back to take care of him, it looks like a replacement for the word deal for now. That is more of a statement that she is telling to herself, it is a reminder to herself so that she leaves the house and not stay back getting tempted to stay back with Virat or to not get emotional and stay back.
About Sai trying to make him accept it, you could give the below a read.
https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/topic/5225734?pn=131#156991683
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