Discussion: Am I missing something here

Sai has made it very clear at the hospital and even when she was at CN that she doesn’t share any relationship with the CN or it’s members . She came back only to take care of Virat as it’s her responsibility.

1. Is it wrong to question on what rights she decides to involve herself in Devyani’s matter and expects people of CN to oblige her demand to invite Devkit for lunch ?

2. She has come to take care of his health but she is not bothered that the drama that would unfold when Devkit come home might effect Virat’s health . She saw how he was struggling to talk when CN created the drama when he came back home . Is she as insensitive as CN members when it comes to his health ? Is few rasams important than someone’s health ?

3. She disregarded Virat’s opinion on Devkit matter . Is it easy to be married to people who wants to control everything and wants to do everything their way without paying heed to partners opinion. Is this a sign of healthy relationship?

In a relationship one person is always dominant. Here that person is Sai. So I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

So agree with you. Rolled my eyes today. She even dared to question why is she in the CV if she is not allowed to reunite Devi with her family. Duh, I thought she came for Veeru's health.

Bechara Veeru na family chain se jeene dete hain na Sai. 😳

If the rasam is so important then why not do it on her own as a saas like she did during the wedding.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

In a relationship one person is always dominant. Here that person is Sai. So I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Disregarding your partners opinion every single time is not the sign of a healthy relationship. It doesn’t work in a long run . The person who is submissive will feel disconnected with his partner when his or her opinion is not given importance. They might stay married but definitely would he happy couple

Being dominant in a relationship, does not mean you super impose your views on your partner. It is much nuanced than that.

Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion

So agree with you. Rolled my eyes today. She even dared to question why is she in the CV if she is not allowed to reunite Devi with her family. Duh, I thought she came for Veeru's health.

Bechara Veeru na family chain se jeene dete hain na Sai. 😳

If the rasam is so important then why not do it on her own as a saas like she did during the wedding.

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

Being dominant in a relationship, does not mean you super impose your views on your partner. It is much nuanced than that.

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

Sai has made it very clear at the hospital and even when she was at CN that she doesn’t share any relationship with the CN or it’s members . She came back only to take care of Virat as it’s her responsibility.

1. Is it wrong to question on what rights she decides to involve herself in Devyani’s matter and expects people of CN to oblige her demand to invite Devkit for lunch ?

No I guess. Because if she doesn't consider CN as her family, she should not try to oblige them to be happy with Devi.. even if it's for Devi, it's still wrong, Devi isn't ready to meet her mom. She's going there on the bharosa of Sai, and anything happens to Devi, it should be Sai's zimmedari.

2. She has come to take care of his health but she is not bothered that the drama that would unfold when Devkit come home might effect Virat’s health . She saw how he was struggling to talk when CN created the drama when he came back home . Is she as insensitive as CN members when it comes to his health ? Is few rasams important than someone’s health ?

"SAI SAHI HAI". Answer to this question. CN members won't question Sai, they'll question Virat about his wife. She's conveniently forgetting that it's Virat who will answer their not her, expectations will be on Virat by the family to answer the questions, not her. I don't even want to talk about this .

3. She disregarded Virat’s opinion on Devkit matter . Is it easy to be married to people who wants to control everything and wants to do everything their way without paying heed to partners opinion. Is this a sign of healthy relationship?

I'm not even talking about this. I'm not married or being in a relationship. But I know marriage or dating, it's a relationship of equals. A boy oppressing a girl or a girl oppressing a boy isn't correct. As Virat wants to control Sai's decision with his anger then Sai also wants to control Virat with her emotional blackmail.

Honestly I don't even want to talk about this matter because it's almost an unsaid rule here that we should not question Sai's actions..

Originally posted by: Lostin90s

In a relationship one person is always dominant. Here that person is Sai. So I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

That I oppose, because marriage is a relationship of equals, there should be no one dominant.

3. No, it is very difficult. Much as I love Sai Joshi’s pure kind soul & righeousness & coursge & honesty, she wld not make a good spouse (or for that matter, colleague or teammate). No consultative approach, never takes advice even from known well-wishers, wants to do everything her way, is rude when crossed, & disregards others wishes. Though well meaning she consistently undermines & undervalues others. I would not want to work in her team in the hospital or be her roommate either.