Aditya holding back the women?

So.i see a lot about how cruel.is adi how he is being cruel to both the ladies doing injustice holding them back.yada yada yada and I have only one question to ask.. HOW? is he Tying them? Holding them back?.when has he ever denied them the choice.. it is upto them that they want to be with him or not and he has been firm on this with both the women ke it is their choice..

With imlie too through the whole PD track he followed her caz he wanted too there was i think a Dialogue too that if you want he can settle for her here too sab chodke tum kya chahti ho in that Jungle chase before ganna .. it was his choice to follow her to be with her leaving everything behind woh alag baat hai but he wasn't holding her back yes he wanted her to come with him but he never denied her the choice to stay apart heck it was difficult for him to leave her behind but dil pe patthar rakh ke kia tha.. he never forced her to be with him .. even in all his tricks he was playing there was no force and imlie had the conviction to take a stand for her when she thought it became too much...when she felt it was getting too much she packed her bags and left and only came back after getting clarity of where she stand.. she wasn't playing any mind game to hold him to tie him up.to her when she left.. neither was she tying herself to.him

Which can't be said for the other party who did this whole I need a break but kept coaxing him for reactions be it those phonecalls the letters the elaborate move by cutting herself to cling onto him and now hatching another grand plan of cheating on him to tie him up to her... the plan was simple guilt trip him to such an extent that he will never raise his eye and head and be her ghulam and always grovel and now to get a reaction so how is it same why is he being called cruel in this when it is the other party twisting the knife to make sure he doesn't get away and move past it.. and abhi bhi his stand is clear ke malini ki choice hai..

Then how is it ke he is blamed for something that is the choice of the 2 ladies they want to be with him not him holding them back.. he wants to get done with the truth and be free but nahi fault phir bhi uski hai just caz he made a blunder by making one impulsive decision that he feels responsible for and takes onus of.

Imlie got her clarity her faith hence she is back to him.to.the house even if she can't directly claim.him.yet she now has the haq over him that he rightfully gave her and he will not object to her choosing to leave and break the relationship if it comes to that.. sure it will hurt him he will try to manao her like he did in PD but eventually it remains with her .. just like it happened then... caz eventually it is her life and he can't tie her up that is not this man's belief system

Same with malini he has been convinced and always have been attal on it is malini's choice.. he still said unki marzi whether she comes or no he will not force caz the family wants her back.. he gave her the choice and went like ok break didn't tell her to.leave even though that was step 1 of her reverse psycology ke main kahoongi he will grovel and my goal.will be achieved.. she is the one pulling random stunts and then crying ke oh so he doesn't care not him.. so how is it his fault.. why is he cruel.when actually someone else is being cruel.in playing dirty mind games and doing such claculative moves to shut the doorway for him to leave

Ajeeb nonsense hai yeh.. if itna hi zulm ho raha hai didi pe toh why can't she take the initiative and actually break apart and choose to live her life happily since she doesn't love him as per her own claim that now I have someone else who is bada and more important to me.. not like she can't survive on her own .. what about all those I an independent mature woman bakwaas.. when she hangs onto him.like he is her fav teddy out of desperation and not love and made it some ego battle ke ab mujhe apna fav toy sambhal ke rakhna hai🙄🙄 adi is not stopping you have not even once . If you feel zulms and injustice break free but nahi inko rehna hai tied up and ilzam lagane hain Aditya pe.. and uss masoom bachi pe who for all weaknesses and self sacrificial tendencies still had enough dignity and self respect to know when to take a stand cut the cord and move out.. and also stick to her resolve and not use it as some manipulative tool to get your man to follow you or use is to play some.mind game on him as some.ace card..

Yet somehow they get blamed with the clearest of thoughts and intentions amazing world it is

Aa gayi Aditya Babu ki defense lawyer - Fary, LLB😛😆....J/K....haha

Honestly I don't get all these generic extrapolations either....the story is messy but this presumption that Adi ne kisi ko BAANDH ke rakha hai apne saath is one I frankly don't get one bit.

Everyone is suffocating right now, no doubt, including Adi himself....but Adi is hardly the one who's deliberately deciding the course of anyone's life, is he?

Malini ke case mein toh we can all see that she is the one clinging to a dead relationship that Adi has made plain in a 100 different ways is done from his side....so again, he isn't asking her to cling to the technicality of marriage....that is her CHOICE.....as he repeats in every other scene....he is giving Malini the choice to decide what she wants to do and he will accept her choice.

In Imlie's case also, it is her own faith that makes her hold on to this relationship....Adi never imposed any of it on her.....yes, after realizing his love for her, he has shown his possessiveness, his yearning for her...yes, he emotionally blackmailed her into coming back to the house once she came back to Delhi.....but he's hardly tying her to the house, right? It is his preference that she not leave but again, he isn't exactly physically holding her back.....it is Imlie's choice to stay on for a variety of reasons.....the main one being that she DOES consider this to be her home and family even if she isn't staking claim on them....Adi senses that and it's part of the reason he insisted on her coming back too.

And in Imlie's case also, he's repeated a bazillion times that it is her CHOICE if she wants to claim her right on him....it is her choice if she wants to support him but he will always support her.....again, that word choice is repeated so often by him.....

So I'm frankly at a loss when I read claims of how Adi has tied both women down and destroyed their lives😕😆....yes he made mistakes that caused pain to both of them and he deserves to feel the Karma for that but I don't agree with the accusations that Adi is responsible for the current static state in both women.....they are both choosing the current static state for their own reasons.

Again, let's not as usual take away all agency from these women like they are just mannequins standing there waiting for Adi to decide their fate😕😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Aa gayi Aditya Babu ki defense lawyer - Fary, LLB😛😆....J/K....haha

Honestly I don't get all these generic extrapolations either....the story is messy but this presumption that Adi ne kisi ko BAANDH ke rakha hai apne saath is one I frankly don't get one bit.

Everyone is suffocating right now, no doubt, including Adi himself....but Adi is hardly the one who's deliberately deciding the course of anyone's life, is he?

Malini ke case mein toh we can all see that she is the one clinging to a dead relationship that Adi has made plain in a 100 different ways is done from his side....so again, he isn't asking her to cling to the technicality of marriage....that is her CHOICE.....as he repeats in every other scene....he is giving Malini the choice to decide what she wants to do and he will accept her choice.

In Imlie's case also, it is her own faith that makes her hold on to this relationship....Adi never imposed any of it on her.....yes, after realizing his love for her, he has shown his possessiveness, his yearning for her...yes, he emotionally blackmailed her into coming back to the house once she came back to Delhi.....but he's hardly tying her to the house, right? It is his preference that she not leave but again, he isn't exactly physically holding her back.....it is Imlie's choice to stay on for a variety of reasons.....the main one being that she DOES consider this to be her home and family even if she isn't staking claim on them....Adi senses that and it's part of the reason he insisted on her coming back too.

And in Imlie's case also, he's repeated a bazillion times that it is her CHOICE if she wants to claim her right on him....it is her choice if she wants to support him but he will always support her.....again, that word choice is repeated so often by him.....

So I'm frankly at a loss when I read claims of how Adi has tied both women down and destroyed their lives😕😆....yes he made mistakes that caused pain to both of them and he deserves to feel the Karma for that but I don't agree with the accusations that Adi is responsible for the current static state in both women.....they are both choosing the current static state for their own reasons.

Again, let's not as usual take away all agency from these women like they are just mannequins standing there waiting for Adi to decide their fate😕😆

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As you said adi has made his fair share of.mistake and am not denying those or saying he is some dhoodh ka dhula Noone in this story is.. but still jo Kasoor hai hi nahi woh Lagana is unfair just caz he may not behave like one would want him too...

Again it comes down to consent.. adi is hardly holding both the women down by force or emotional torture if they feel they are so pained and hurt take the legal route separate.. his mistake is as simple as he went ahead and married malini which he shouldn't have in first place .. still if she feels she is getting neglected her relationship is over and again I am quoting her only caz she was the one who kept repeating ke sab khatam ho gaya and then doing this so he takes her back and begs to her hardly makes him the cruel party instead it makes a plan to extract revenge get one up get her vengeance out.. so who is cruel party then.. why no lihaaz of the 7 yrs relationship then. Sabka theka Aditya ne lia hai kya?

And while one can give the excuse on imlie's behalf that she is stuck in a situation given her family at PD also doesn't know the entire truth and also that she is too young to get legal help on her own in a big city without any such resources or help .. he still isn't denying her the choice never had.. he isn't forcing her to nibhao this relationship with her.. he says his truth and that it won't change.. rest it upto her

So while he gives her haq he states he will forever be behind her for her saath and she can count on his she is free in making her decision . Just like for her the shaadi is faith it was her belief on it and SM ka banaya rishta for him too it is that now.. the following hardly looks force to me of any kind or zabardasti kisi ko hold back karna

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

So.i see a lot about how cruel.is adi how he is being cruel to both the ladies doing injustice holding them back.yada yada yada and I have only one question to ask.. HOW? is he Tying them? Holding them back?.when has he ever denied them the choice.. it is upto them that they want to be with him or not and he has been firm on this with both the women ke it is their choice..

With imlie too through the whole PD track he followed her caz he wanted too there was i think a Dialogue too that if you want he can settle for her here too sab chodke tum kya chahti ho in that Jungle chase before ganna .. it was his choice to follow her to be with her leaving everything behind woh alag baat hai but he wasn't holding her back yes he wanted her to come with him but he never denied her the choice to stay apart heck it was difficult for him to leave her behind but dil pe patthar rakh ke kia tha.. he never forced her to be with him .. even in all his tricks he was playing there was no force and imlie had the conviction to take a stand for her when she thought it became too much...when she felt it was getting too much she packed her bags and left and only came back after getting clarity of where she stand.. she wasn't playing any mind game to hold him to tie him up.to her when she left.. neither was she tying herself to.him

Which can't be said for the other party who did this whole I need a break but kept coaxing him for reactions be it those phonecalls the letters the elaborate move by cutting herself to cling onto him and now hatching another grand plan of cheating on him to tie him up to her... the plan was simple guilt trip him to such an extent that he will never raise his eye and head and be her ghulam and always grovel and now to get a reaction so how is it same why is he being called cruel in this when it is the other party twisting the knife to make sure he doesn't get away and move past it.. and abhi bhi his stand is clear ke malini ki choice hai..

Then how is it ke he is blamed for something that is the choice of the 2 ladies they want to be with him not him holding them back.. he wants to get done with the truth and be free but nahi fault phir bhi uski hai just caz he made a blunder by making one impulsive decision that he feels responsible for and takes onus of.

Imlie got her clarity her faith hence she is back to him.to.the house even if she can't directly claim.him.yet she now has the haq over him that he rightfully gave her and he will not object to her choosing to leave and break the relationship if it comes to that.. sure it will hurt him he will try to manao her like he did in PD but eventually it remains with her .. just like it happened then... caz eventually it is her life and he can't tie her up that is not this man's belief system

Same with malini he has been convinced and always have been attal on it is malini's choice.. he still said unki marzi whether she comes or no he will not force caz the family wants her back.. he gave her the choice and went like ok break didn't tell her to.leave even though that was step 1 of her reverse psycology ke main kahoongi he will grovel and my goal.will be achieved.. she is the one pulling random stunts and then crying ke oh so he doesn't care not him.. so how is it his fault.. why is he cruel.when actually someone else is being cruel.in playing dirty mind games and doing such claculative moves to shut the doorway for him to leave

Ajeeb nonsense hai yeh.. if itna hi zulm ho raha hai didi pe toh why can't she take the initiative and actually break apart and choose to live her life happily since she doesn't love him as per her own claim that now I have someone else who is bada and more important to me.. not like she can't survive on her own .. what about all those I an independent mature woman bakwaas.. when she hangs onto him.like he is her fav teddy out of desperation and not love and made it some ego battle ke ab mujhe apna fav toy sambhal ke rakhna hai🙄🙄 adi is not stopping you have not even once . If you feel zulms and injustice break free but nahi inko rehna hai tied up and ilzam lagane hain Aditya pe.. and uss masoom bachi pe who for all weaknesses and self sacrificial tendencies still had enough dignity and self respect to know when to take a stand cut the cord and move out.. and also stick to her resolve and not use it as some manipulative tool to get your man to follow you or use is to play some.mind game on him as some.ace card..

Yet somehow they get blamed with the clearest of thoughts and intentions amazing world it is

It is hard to understand the depth of character that Mr Serious Patrakaar is. If I have to define him I would call him feminist! Big word but hear me out!

He has been respectful to all the women in his life. I have never seen him question Rupi do or Nidhi on their life choices. Always respectful and always supportive. That’s a very good quality to see in a man.

Malini - he never treated her bad.. his confusion with love is one thing but when he was with her he was completely hers.. he never felt jealous.. he never stopped her from meeting her friends.. always supported her career.. he didn’t go find love cos he was upset with their so called marriage.. love happened to him. But once he is clear in his thoughts and feelings he has given her choice. Choice to stay at T house or C house. Choice to take a break or not take a break. He is still trying to on her side. A man can have affair but never be ok with his wife loving another man. Here you see he accepting Malinis so called grand love for invisible Prince Charming. Still giving her choice to do whatever she wants with her life. This is called feminist..

Imlie - the girl who’s mere existence was telling his helplessness to him.. he didn’t hate her but that feeling.. that made him lash out at her.. but every time he did that u could see the guilt engulfing him.

The moment he found about her intelligence and her passion for studying.. he is the one pushing her. People have pulled her down by saying she came 2nd not 1st but he never did.. he wanted to part of that journey.. even it meant that he will be walking behind her.. he is ok but he wants her to do what’s best for her. He says to himself that if Imlie can be so strong to let him go then he will respect her decisions and he does. He waits for her to call him before forcing her hand. He waits.. and that my friend is a quality to admire in a man!!!

He even fights with her to go to collage when she doesn’t want to go.. he wants to take the relationship to next level but waits for her to walk with him as it’s her life too.. that patient and determination is admirable!!

He is giving equal footing to both his wives. Giving them freedom to choose their path.. their journeys and he wants to support them.. and that makes him a feminist!

So how can he be holding them back???

I frankly don't understand the need to extrapolate every problem in a woman's life to the man involved in her life.

Both Malini & Imlie have agency of their own to make the choices that they want to. And they both do this frequently. Adi is not the one who is holding or forcing them to be in a relationship with him.

In case of Malini, Adi has given her 1000s of reason that show her that he does not love her & wants to separate from her. Yes, he has not told her the god damn truth. But her own instinct is working just fine & she has come to the same conclusion. It is just that she doesn't want to accept the truth that her marriage is over & using twisted means to hold onto Adi. She is the one who is forcing him to continue being in the relationship. Malini has all the advantages in life- she is beautiful, well educated, working & comes from an affluent background. She has all the options in the world open to her but she is just herself getting fixated on not having Adi.

In case of Imlie, she has always stuck to her own decisions regarding her view of their relationship giving two hoots about what Adi wants. Earlier when Adi wanted her to let go of her faith in their marriage, she refused & maintained her faith in her relationship. When Adi went on to tell her to move on with someone else, again she refused to give up her faith & belief in their marriage & left Delhi itself because she wanted to live her life on her own terms. Yes Imlie does not have many options & privileges but that has never stopped her from following her own convictions. Now that Adi loves her & wants to reveal the truth & give her rightful place of his wife again she is refusing to comply due to her own morality.

So where has Adi taken away her choices. Yes, he emotionally black mailed her to return back to T house but it only worked in her because she herself wanted to go back to the family & Adi but was just denying herself. In Imlie's case there will always be a lot of self denial & so Adi will be the one who will try to get the things & haq that she wants for herself which can come off as him forcing his will on her if people just ignore what Imlie actually wants rather than what she says she wants.

He just said returning or not returning was Malini’s choice in the last episode. The only reason he left Imlie in PD was because it was her choice. Yeh choice na dene ki baat hi kahaan se aa gayi?

Originally posted by: _Seera_

It is hard to understand the depth of character that Mr Serious Patrakaar is. If I have to define him I would call him feminist! Big word but hear me out!

He has been respectful to all the women in his life. I have never seen him question Rupi do or Nidhi on their life choices. Always respectful and always supportive. That’s a very good quality to see in a man.

Malini - he never treated her bad.. his confusion with love is one thing but when he was with her he was completely hers.. he never felt jealous.. he never stopped her from meeting her friends.. always supported her career.. he didn’t go find love cos he was upset with their so called marriage.. love happened to him. But once he is clear in his thoughts and feelings he has given her choice. Choice to stay at T house or C house. Choice to take a break or not take a break. He is still trying to on her side. A man can have affair but never be ok with his wife loving another man. Here you see he accepting Malinis so called grand love for invisible Prince Charming. Still giving her choice to do whatever she wants with her life. This is called feminist..

Imlie - the girl who’s mere existence was telling his helplessness to him.. he didn’t hate her but that feeling.. that made him lash out at her.. but every time he did that u could see the guilt engulfing him.

The moment he found about her intelligence and her passion for studying.. he is the one pushing her. People have pulled her down by saying she came 2nd not 1st but he never did.. he wanted to part of that journey.. even it meant that he will be walking behind her.. he is ok but he wants her to do what’s best for her. He says to himself that if Imlie can be so strong to let him go then he will respect her decisions be he does. He waits for her to call him before forcing her hand. He waits.. and tat my friend is a quality to admire in a man!!!

He is giving equal footing to both his wives. Giving them freedom to choose their path.. their journeys and he wants to support them.. and that makes him a feminist!

So how can he be holding them back???

Bingo..!! Regardless of where he stands not a question asked about this imaginary man. No when ? How? What? Which regardless of where he stands in thr marriage is his right to ask 🤷 caz all that doesn't matter he has this much faith that if it is important she will tell..

Totally agreed that he is Feminist. Just caz he does ghussa doesn't mean he is creating obstructions in ways of them to make choices.. that has been consistent.. respect and the choice.. MARZI is very important for him so even though he would want things to happen his way when they aren't he isn't doing manipulation to make them happen his way.. he truly stands by his theory of rishta pankh ban jaata hai jab saathi sahi ho.. atleast on his part he tries to be a good saathi whether he is or not is a whole separate discussion.. he tried to be the best saathi even with the detachment for however long he could with his pyaar wala delusion ab nahi hota wih alag baat hai as I said but he has remained honest honest them both.. He told Malini clearly too that he feels scared and yeh sab galat hai.. every little move of his tells he has shit off and time to actually let him him but she doesn't yet it is him who is holding back.. I don't get it smh haha

Originally posted by: MuteButton

He just said returning or not returning was Malini’s choice in the last episode. The only reason he left Imlie in PD was because it was her choice. Yeh choice na dene ki baat hi kahaan se aa gayi?

😆 arre aapko nahi pata he has tied both the women with him and cannot let them go.. doing cruelity on them both.. isi liye yeh baat nikli.. toh phir mujhe maidaan main koodna pada to defend this special specie of it's kind.. 😆 It is as if MARZI hasn't been the Freaking Keyword in each of his onversations for months now.. Adi ki marzi... imlie ki marzi and now Malini ki Marzi 🤣 again as usual ignored and Forgotten conversations and shabd

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

Bingo..!! Regardless of where he stands not a question asked about this imaginary man. No when ? How? What? Which regardless of where he stands in thr marriage is his right to ask 🤷 caz all that doesn't matter he has this much faith that if it is important she will tell..

Totally agreed that he is Feminist. Just caz he does ghussa doesn't mean he is creating obstructions in ways of them to make choices.. that has been consistent.. respect and the choice.. MARZI is very important for him so even though he would want things to happen his way when they aren't he isn't doing manipulation to make them happen his way.. he truly stands by his theory of rishta pankh ban jaata hai jab saathi sahi ho.. atleast on his part he tries to be a good saathi whether he is or not is a whole separate discussion.. he tried to be the best saathi even with the detachment for however long he could with his pyaar wala delusion ab nahi hota wih alag baat hai as I said but he has remained honest honest them both.. He told Malini clearly too that he feels scared and yeh sab galat hai.. every little move of his tells he has shit off and time to actually let him him but she doesn't yet it is him who is holding back.. I don't get it smh haha

@bold - right!!??? I mean just can’t help but respect him.. he is like that was ur past I don’t mind that.. then she elaborates further and he is like have u told him?? He wants what’s good for her.. he wants what’s best for her.. he is not best for M ... he never was.. the realization came in the PD hut.. he is well aware that he was not a good husband to Malini but he tried.. and I would take that try over all lovey doves promises!

I find it amusing that he still doesn’t touch imlie! I mean they have not gone beyond holding hands.. but he has not touched her in anyway.. he is holding himself back.. that goes to ur point of MARZI .. he still giving her choice.. space and time.. he is being patient with her.. he is loosing his sanity over it but he is still holding on to it..

I just love the character and his layers.. impulsive.. rigid.. angry bird on one hand.. and respectful.. caring.. rock solid footing.. determined on other.. extreme rare combination but super alluring at the same time!!!

Adi is holding back only Imlie 😆 . Because she is his air to breathe. He cannot even function without her. Still he gave her the choice. He left PG without her. They can't live without each other.

But Imlie had enough time to leave him when he married Malini . It was Imlies Marzi to tied with him.

Now Malini know Aditya have someone in his life . Why is not she leaving him. He gave her the choice . She can decide what she wanted. But what is holding her Aditya

And yes he is the Absolute Male Feminist in the ITV .