Originally posted by: Indira12
From the episode, all the last hopes of seeing Ani realize has gone down the drain. It has clearly taken the route we were expecting. Bon asking for forgiveness. The whole episode revolves around making Bon the guilty one and Ani the sacrificial one. Even though I had a intuition of it, I couldn't really bear the whole of white-washing that happened. Even whitewashing is a small word for what was portrayed today.
Manorama said the words which we have used for Ani for the last one year. All the praises we had for Ani was delivered through Manorama. How he is a man of high principles, a good human being, a great feminist and what separates him from the rest of the husbands - everything. I don't know what was the need of showing it on the screen when for one year they did not have to. Maybe now they felt the need because there has been criticism going on his character. Instead of amending him, they are making us understand how exactly Ani is. Ironical.
We got the much anticipated dialogue of Bon, "sab galti mere hi hai", "ap bohot accha hai", "mere patibabu mere saath kabhi kuch galat nahi kar sakte", etc etc.
But the one question which stood in my mind all this time and is still there is - what exactly was the pain Ani felt after marrying Manorama? In Manorama's words, "humari jhooti shaadi khud Anirudh ke liye ek bohot badi saza thi jiska dard usne chup chap saha hai, akele". I don't get how a real marriage is called a nakli shaadi? I don't understand how it was a 'saaza' for Anirudh to be bonded in a second marriage and that too with a gril he loved? He though the society would blame him, that didn't happen too. Bon too accepted it and was behaving normally with him. Then where was the bearing of pain? Maybe the pain of controlling his emotions after seeing Manorama and still not able to convey it to her. But Manorama did not know about it, so which pain is she referring to?
ALSO, the bonding of Manorama and Bondita was a beautiful one. Their scene exuded positivity and friendship. It would have been better if Mano was only a friend of Ani and the marriage did not happen in real, in front of Bon's eyes. Maybe Ani-Mano running away and coming back with a fake shaadi would have made sense. But can't really forgot the pain and trauma Bon felt during the real wedding that deemed her unconscious. A little girl, standing there and watching the relationship she valued the most getting broken into pieces before her own eyes is something too disturbing to take. Can't really forget that episode. But makers behaved as if nothing like that happened, EVER. All the humiliation and emotional abuse have been made a complete zero.
Thought would get a justification for all the wrongs. But there does not seem to be any trace of it. Can't support a show which glorified public humiliation of women, child mental abuse and polygamy in the name of woman empowerment and does not even find it important to rectify it or provide a justification to it.
P.S. Manorama is alive.
Yes Ani and Mano completely white washed.
Did you notice, how easy was it to convince Bon?
Sumati could have easily said all these right. It was much more easy than I ever thought , to convince her with regard to convential marriage norms she expected is not actually right.
Makers why chose a whole sadistic plot for this?
Again that Zindagi Bhar ka pyar leave a sour taste to many. And was clearly not needed in this if only Ani's plan has to be supported. So I suppose this handle is for future. Ani realization is never gonna happen. We got Bon realization instead.So the whole ZBK pyar realization might have kept for post leap.
Just one doubt in all this, why a major plot of marriage revelation was revealed. What good it did? Bon still seems to have no effect of it. Was it just to make Bon ,go hysteric in her actions .And finally to accept Pati babu is hers only. Again may be left it open for future for Bon to introspect on it ,after her realization of what love in marraige is.
But one thing I must stay, how cleverly makers have changed the plates to give a closure they wanted.I never imagined this way though. Now let whatever be Bon's changed emotions, induced or inspired or even if a tint of reality, she would not dare to go back, right. Because Mano has made her realize its only Barrister Babu centric( which should be to an extend), that is ideal, Feelings and the social norms got mixed up now.Like even her organic transformation of feelings will be withhold by her. And Ani will be at ease,no need of realization part for him until a grown up Bon. I was wondering how they get that back to equation. Simple Bon mafi mangegi and all become on Ani's terms, he can ever treat her like a child only dominating shikshak mode, But she will call him patibabu, atleast until annulment (Disclaimer:Pls dont mistake it, I am not wanting any romantic angle here.).
I don't know what was the need of showing it on the screen when for one year they did not have to.
@ bold: The whole one year we stood in the same frame as that of Ani, now our frame is with Bon. So this for Bon and us. Even praises and Bhagwan mention of Ani happened before from Sumati and Sampoorna .
what exactly was the pain Ani felt after marrying Manorama? In Manorama's words, "humari jhooti shaadi khud Anirudh ke liye ek bohot badi saza thi jiska dard usne chup chap saha hai, akele".
Rememeber all the times he cried before her, he denied marriage proposal and her direct query to him on you wont be hurt by hurting Bon, clarify her she is samajhdar. And even the last Dalhousie farewell justification, Bon sab kuch ban gaya tha.Toh from Mano's eyes it is obvious Ani was pained in the process.For her this marriage from his side was purely for on and hers for her mission
I don't understand how it was a 'saaza' for Anirudh to be bonded in a second marriage and that too with a gril he loved?
Indira, the biggest loop hole here which we sees is his love confession.This was a dark secret of his heart which we only knows.So getting married to the girl who loved cant come from Mano, right.
He though the society would blame him, that didn't happen too. Bon too accepted it and was behaving normally with him. Then where was the bearing of pain? Maybe the pain of controlling his emotions after seeing Manorama and still not able to convey it to her.
He thought society would blame him.Honestly whole polygamy was scripted by Ani.If society involvement was shown on Ani and Bon, the track would have been on the ill effects on polygamy.Even Ani's wrong decision could have got questioned.But all it planned was for sutharophying Bon.
So makers explicitly saying Polygamy is a drama and is dusted by today.By the way did not Mano failed Ani's plan by returning gifts, He wanted her to live this illusion of polygamy right? (And when did she even placed all those gifts back..too logical for a serial, I know)
Now the pain, Ani wanted himself to be portrayed in the light of being ideal. Even if Bon not in picture. Him breaking the ideals is painful for his image consciousness, right?
Maybe the pain of controlling his emotions after seeing Manorama and still not able to convey it to her.😂..
May be, to explore all those Mano has to be back in RC without the blast.He will never say that, it will remain as a pain of concealed emotion in his heart only.Ani, by no way can make himself fall low in the eyes of Mano, atleast now that no emotion from Mano is pakka.
Regarding emotional and child abuse there were always hint that this is not going to be addressed. So I kind of didnot have much expectation there.So less heart breaks
Edited by faja - 4 years ago