Originally posted by: 404_NotFound
Laksh, I couldn't copy the entire post but here is my response
1. She may have repented but Virat is not aware of it. She did not convey either through her actions or words. I remember her first reaction when she saw Virat in the Shaddi mantap . She was rude to him and nowhere it felt like she was trying to convince him. Her reaction was “ so what do you expect me to do “. She knew he is right to react this way because he doesn't know the complete picture . It did not look like she was trying to convince him. Let me clarify I am not saying what Virat did is right but I don't agree that she appeared to be apologetic.
Please rewatch the episode when Sai meets him after reachin home and check how many times she started Virat sir even after many many things he said and the most important repeated statement that she cannot be let in.
When he said tumne dhokha diya hai too, she immediately could feel that he must be feeling betrayed and tried to explain to him.
I would definitely recommend you to rewatch the episode if you really want to understand Sai and if you really want to reconsider your opinion of whether she was apologetic or not. It was quite visible and I wouldn't even be defending her behavior if she wasn't. I would have frankly told you that yes she wasn't and it wasn't fair on her part.
1. I disagree when you say shaming someone’s character is less of a mistake than ousting. Both are equally wrong. Character assassination has long-term impacts and it can be termed as mental harassment as well.
Taking away someone's roof and insulting or shaming some are one and the same? He had depirived her of a basic necessity.
Both are in no way equally wrong.
Virat's act has cruelty in it, it is an inhuman act.
And it is no way equal to Sai shaming him. Please do not try to equate to make Virat look better or Sai look horrible because his act cannot be defended.
Character assassination makes sense if he doesn't encourage Pakhi's advances in anyway. I have mentioned how he does encourage it wantedly or unwantedly. We have already had a conversation long time back and I told you that one can be friends with ex only and be as supportive as Virat now, only when they are sure the ex isn't still holding feelings for them or when they are not pursuing them. Virat isn't doing what he is supposed to do wrt Pakhi.
2. I understand her insecurities when it comes to Pakhi but the question here if she believes they are having an affair then why did she get intimate with him? I am talking about physical and emotional intimacy.
Let me ask you, there have been times in the forum when almost all used to believe that Virat was two timing. Did you too believe it?
Why did he get intimate with Sai inspite of him having feelings for Pakhi?
Infact all physical advances were made by Virat.
The night he had peeped through the pillow walls, what was it? An attraction? Attachement? The next morning he said it was a mistake to have gone to GC, he wouldn't have been made to marry Sai if he had not gone there. He wouldn't have lost his pyaari cheez if he never got posted in GC.
The same day, after returning from DIG office he went to call Sai back to his room.
What is it? He himself didn't know what he felt but wanted Sai to stay in his room? What is it? Two timing?
After Pakhi left to maayka, he again told Sai what will you know what loves means. He also slipped the word "pyaar" while taking the name of Pakhi and then corrected it to "dost".
That same night, Virat was thinking about Sai in the bed and when she coughed, he said take care you don't roam in wet hair and all that.
What was that? Two timing?
The next day once Sai returned from Pakhi's house, he flirted with her in their room, insisted she stays in their room because he didn't like her not being in the room? Again, what is it?
Once Pakhi returned from her house, he went and met Pakhi. He opened the door of his brother's wife just like that, though he was married and turned around as soon he saw Pakhi.
And then also looked at Pakhi in the mirror? There was an analysis, he did look at her because of their past relationship, he wanted to see Pakhi, only that he didn't find that attraction for her anymore in it which he himself realised only after looking at her in the mirror. How can he? One day he flirts with Sai and the next day, he looks at Pakhi like that?
The next minute, he went to his room and started to act attached to Sai. That night, he got attracted looking at Sai, his lost look
"Usse accha gift to koi ho hi nahi sakta".
How? What's all this? Growing attraction and flirting, getting attached, not willing to let Sai go out of the room, inspite of taking Pakhi's name, inspite of considering Pakhi to be his love somewhere in the corner of the heart, and later inspite of having residual feelings during Mahashivratri too.
Even on the day of Mahashivratri, he froze for a minute, you can claim it that it was Samrat, it also looked that he was hurt because of his past.
What is worse?
Sai having insecurities and no clarity about Virat's and Pakhi's relationship and still getting intimate (emotional and physical which is always initiated by Virat)
or
Virat having feelings for Pakhi and still getting intimate (emotional and physical) with Sai?
Only in the latest holi physical intimacy, did he not have feelings for Pakhi at all.
If you could understand Virat's growing affection towards Sai inspite of having past in his heart somewhere, how can Sai's position not be understood?
If Virat's behavior and emotions are human, so are Sai's. It is simple, the stage that Virat used to be long before, Sai has been in the recent past.
Let me tell you, I never thought it to be two timing, I could understand his turmoil and his feelings, the same way that I am able to understand Sai's turmoil and her feelings.
When I didn't have an issue in understanding Virat much, why will I have with Sai. Just that, I was a little disappointed with a few statement of his and only on the day of MS, I was shocked and didn't know how to perceive it as. You clarified even that to me saying that it was just a natural feeling.
It is just that, Virat's actions alone are not making us believe him, faith in his goodness and his values are making one believe him. The same faith is needed to be applied on Sai and her values as well. Sai's behaviour might be wrong, she is impulsive, doesn't mean she has no good values.
She has values that even Virat doesn't have and he too knows it and has always liked her for them.
None of Virat's actions can be actually understood by many in the forum and it makes him look like a two timer. Only a person who has faith in the character, wants to give benefit of doubt to the character, can understand a character.
Sai having doubts about him and Pakhi is his kartoot too. Neither has he clarified it to her, nor is he doing anything about Pakhi and her all kind of ad advances.
If it happens once I can understand the got carried away. If she expresses this in front of him it's insecurity but in front of neighbors and family if she does it's clearly to seek revenge. Either she is stooping low or she lacks self respect in this case.
I told you what provoked Sai to let the neighbours know that he ousted from the house. She stayed back the whole night thinkin he might cool down or correct his actions, would apologise and take her in and he didn't, she got provoked and did that.
Bringing about Pakhi and Virat in front of the neighbours, it was again Pakhi's doing and Virat's in a way, as you might have noted in the episode. It was a jealous wife who couldn't take it anymore, especially with the hurt that she is leaving the house and the lady was getting more bold with her huband. She and Virat took so long to hold one other's hands. And she just witnessed that this lady has so much guts to pull him and that was enough to trigger her to speak about it. Virat might have had his own reasons to not shrug off Pakhi, but who had given her so much of guts? Virat himself. Please watch this scene too again.
If Virat had corrected all of these inside the house, all the while when they were living togther, neither of them would be in this position today.
"Either she is stooping low or she lacks self respect in this case. "
Hence none of these. If Pakhi had not held his arm, this wouldn't have happened.
It was Virat who stooped low by calling Sai mad and saying she needs treatment in front of everyone.
That remark was below the belt.
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