Ab jo hoga, woh saath mein hoga - Page 12

Originally posted by: pamk06

@blue Kya baat kar rahi ho AY, date is he best way for them to save the marriage warna Dadi ki advice kaise puri hogi..🤣 😆.... That surmises the length and breath of her scope of understanding on ways of saving the marriage and I guess we should just start considering that as a good effort on her part as you know all women cannot be Jhansi ki rani or strong or smart or intelligent or have basic common sense to see things are not as they are supposed to be and need more due diligence.😆

Totally second everything in the bold.... she always keeps referring to life before marriage and how happy they were but how much time did they actually spend together. Obviously, in that one hour or two if Aditya was not busy eating, he must be talking to her or listening to her or doing moon jaap. So she felt like a queen. After marriage, things have changed and as you said, one cannot stay back in the past. One need to learn new things about each other, adjust adapt and thats how the marriage car run, not because you are similar. But, Malini does not want to move forward, does not want to change because she was happy with no disappointment, no unhappiness, no sadness, in her bubble with required amount of pampering from Aditya as and when needed because looks like date bhi yehi plan karti thi. Now, after marriage too, she wanted the same and when she is not getting it, she creates these situations either by putting Aditya down or by these dates/parties where she gets appreciated. Sach sunne ke liye himmat honi chahiye and Malini does not have it. nor wants to.

Her requirement from a life and definition of a happy marriage. Daily dose of pampering and Aditya to dance on her tunes. Jab woh band ho gaya to dooriyan aa gayi hain.😆

Edited : The core difference between her and Imlie is that Imlie has no expectations and never demands , hence she is happy in the little she gets whereas Malini has such high expectations and high demands that she is not happy even when she gets everything. Hence Aditya wants to give things to Imlie because he know she will never ask or complain but with Malini he knows she will always ask or complain.😆

@bold: Damn🤣......My bad....I didn't realize that expecting basic comprehension ability from a woman is expecting her to be Jhansi ki Rani.....😆.....but ab samajh gayi main why Didi is well within her rights to be this clueless😆

Re: core differences b/w Imlie and Malini....lol I would just disagree with one point....it's not that Malini has high demands and expectations😆.....she has SUPERFICIAL expectations. Everyone has the right to their own expectations....but when you IMPOSE them on someone, that's where it becomes a problem.

Aditya is the kind to gladly go above and beyond for someone mann se....but if you COMPEL him, toh gestures bhi us level ke hi milenge. So the main difference is that Imlie has never COMPELLED him for anything....and yes, she doesn't expect or ask for anything either, demand toh door ki baat hai....but that lack of compulsion from her is what draws Adi to her more. Cuz otherwise Adi has only known compulsions and guilt trips for 7 years😆. Honestly woh Malini ki saari expectations sar aakhon pe rakh ke puri kar deta if she herself hadn't insisted on adding the compulsion factor to everything.....doing anything for Malini has a quality of a burden to it....while with Imlie, it always feels like doing something for her has a soaring quality for him....there is a sense of freedom in it for him.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: Damn🤣......My bad....I didn't realize that expecting basic comprehension ability from a woman is expecting her to be Jhansi ki Rani.....😆.....but ab samajh gayi main why Didi is well within her rights to be this clueless😆

Re: core differences b/w Imlie and Malini....lol I would just disagree with one point....it's not that Malini has high demands and expectations😆.....she has SUPERFICIAL expectations. Everyone has the right to their own expectations....but when you IMPOSE them on someone, that's where it becomes a problem.

Aditya is the kind to gladly go above and beyond for someone mann se....but if you COMPEL him, toh gestures bhi us level ke hi milenge. So the main difference is that Imlie has never COMPELLED him for anything....and yes, she doesn't expect or ask for anything either, demand toh door ki baat hai....but that lack of compulsion from her is what draws Adi to her more. Cuz otherwise Adi has only known compulsions and guilt trips for 7 years😆. Honestly woh Malini ki saari expectations sar aakhon pe rakh ke puri kar deta if she herself hadn't insisted on adding the compulsion factor to everything.....doing anything for Malini has a quality of a burden to it....while with Imlie, it always feels like doing something for her has a soaring quality for him....there is a sense of freedom in it for him.

And it is not like she defends him anywhere when needed despite everything he previously did for her. Even though compel karne ke baad he did whatever he did, other than token defenses of Aditya, when has Malini ever done anything FOR him. Bare minimum is to get your mom to back off from insulting him or the family. Does she say a couple angry lines? Sure. Does she do anything to plug it? Nope. Not that she needed to do jack about his cooking but the least she could have done during the kadhi episode is not join in the laughter that was going around. But she did. One way expectations jo hain didi ke, ab kya kehne.

Missed tagging Pam

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I think part of the reason that Adi was that way was that no other person in life interested him enough to look beyond himself😆.....you can call it selfish, you can call it self-absorbed...but that is a big part of his "my way or the highway" persona too.

In Imlie, for the first time he sees an EQUAL....ironic as that may sound considering the age and background differences between them and all the bossing around he otherwise does with her😆....but on an instinctual level where it actually counts, he sees in Imlie, someone who matches him in ideals and convictions....heck even outdoes him in convictions😆.....that is where the admiration took root and has now blossomed into this love that makes him want to go to any lengths for her.....Adi has always been a man of passionate convictions.....Imlie has now become his biggest conviction, that is why he is doing something above and beyond himself for the first time in his life for someone else....cuz in her, he sees the actualization of all his ideals as well....she is the personification of all the values that have mattered to him in life.....that is why she is the most special to him now.

Word to all the above...especially the bold...👏

Imlie is his true partner because she believes and follows the ideals that he has lived by till now... and she has no qualms about following them inspite of koi aur kuch bhi socha.. Aditya is also that way that he will never waver from the path that he feels is right and Imlie matches that step by step based on her own conviction and ideals. Hence they understand each other so well too without having to spell out.

She has actually become very special to him that he will really go up above and beyond for her even to his own detriment. He does not even care about consequences now nor about anybody else as part of his self absorbed "my way highway" persona. He has only stopped because of Imlie as he knows that revealing the truth is their joint decision. Bas Imlie "haan" bol de and yeh nikla sach batane ke liye sabko in one of his impulsive stunts. 😆🤣

Originally posted by: MuteButton

And it is not like she defends him anywhere when needed despite everything he previously did for her. Even though compel karne ke baad he did whatever he did, other than token defenses of Aditya, when has Malini ever done anything FOR him. Bare minimum is to get your mom to back off from insulting him or the family. Does she say a couple angry lines? Sure. Does she do anything to plug it? Nope. Not that she needed to do jack about his cooking but the least she could have done during the kadhi episode is not join in the laughter that was going around. But she did. One way expectations jo hain didi ke, ab kya kehne.

Missed tagging Pam

Defend to door ki baat hain but she always puts him down in front of his family members just to elevate herself. That is where I give up on her because why would someone else respect your partner if you yourself are leading the bandwagon. Look at what she did at the breakfast table. She just presented all Aditya's good intentions in the bad light so he was portrayed as a unreasonable person in front of his whole family.

On the other hand, Imlie since the beginning has always had that line of respect for Aditya. In the privacy, she has never backed down and always put her views forward but in front of others she has never crossed that line. Even on the breakfast table, when Aditya said "kuch jyaada nahi bol rahi ho", she stopped. She showed him her irritation by making that face but she stopped. Even yesterday, when Aditya told her to go get ready in the middle of that argument, she stopped and she went. She wanted to put forward her point and continue but she went because there was third person there and mano ya na mano, Malini is the other person in their relationship. Call me old school but this is the difference that really elevates Imlie for me that she keeps that maan samaan in a relationship and hence she gets that in spades in return. 😊

Missed tagging AY😆

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Flitted through a few posts - I’m guessing I'm not the only one who found that entire mirror conversation cringeworthy 😆 Or whatever talk Malini had after with Imlie about her date. Who talks like that? 😆 Especially with a person she thinks to be a maid. I do not care one iota for her pride that she supposedly has for Imlie’s success.

A lot of times the complications in this show makes me uncomfortable but yesterday only that conversation did. I rewatched it and nothing changed. Malini feeling the need to lay out her drummed up fantasies in front of Imlie was obviously for everything that transpired later but so so dodgy. Her grey also has plenty shades but nothing that comes off as well done.

I try not to talk about Malini because it gets me going off on unnecessary rants but that scene was all kinds of wrong.

Am I the only one who thought she lagaooed extra mirch masala to sunao to imlie so she feels bad too. All the exaggeration she was doing about pyar ki baatein and sirf hum dono hum dono

Originally posted by: AreYaar

100 baaton ki ek baat, Pam....what kind of woman trying to "save" her marriage thinks a DATE will solve the issue when her husband STILL hasn't answered for those 4 missing days?😆.....She STILL doesn't know where he went, but she's planning romantic fantasies instead?😆.....she really thinks doing some mushy talk over dinner will rekindle their relationship when he is LYING to her?😆.....that is where I find it even harder to believe if she's actually wanting to save her marriage or just needing some pampering to satiate her own need for attention.

Her entire excitement over that date, the way she was giggling/gushing to herself about "aakhon ke ishaare"😆, she was acting like a giddy teenager rather than a worried wife who should be happy ki ek chance milega again to ask him for answers.

This again brings me back to what I said some time back....Malini has never been ready for marriage....she is still a teenager in her mind caught up in romantic fantasies rather than understanding the realities of how to nibhaao a marriage. In her head, she just wants to go back to the time they were dating cuz she felt pampered by things like that....marriage is a reality check where you get caught up in the daily grind and that is when you truly get the measure of a partner who can stand with you. Malini has shown so far that she is totally incapable of dealing with the daily grind of marriage unless she still keeps getting her dose of pampering now also.....which is why despite such a big obvious chasm between her and Adi right now, her idea of "solutions" is a mushy date😆.....the wheel of time only moves forward, Malini didi....it doesn't go back. You will need to grow up to accept this reality.

What irony na....that she's older than Imlie, but her fantasies are even more childish than Imlie's😆....Imlie, despite still being so young has a mature samajh of life and relationships....a rooted approach to life rather than being caught up in teenage fantasies.

I was also finding it very amusing that Malini even feels the need to get pampering from Imlie who is younger than her😆.....the way she was preening over Imlie complimenting her over her outfit/getup for the date😆....so happy to be basking in attention/compliments from someone....that is all Malini really wants at the end of the day....the marriage is incidental😆.....the marriage just became a means to "lock down" Adi to herself but otherwise what she really wants is just a daily shower of compliments/attention and she thinks that's the sum of life😆.....woh mil jaaye toh baaki sab theek hai.....chaahe pati jhoot bhi bol de😆....it's obvious she really doesn't want to know the truth....she just wants attention/pampering from Adi and she will be willing to ignore any lies for that😆.

So much word.. malini treats this as worse than one treats a live in relationship too. For her it is more like that dating and live in hi jahan na bani toh apne raaste nikal liyo.. rofl at her aaj sab pehle jaisa Higa just caz he said ok then decide and text 😆 itne main hi sab pehle jaisa ho gaya for her. Is she for real... 😆 as I was laughing few pages back she really said ek dusre ko janane ka mauka milega.. like let's brush all problems aside and think ke bas thodi daer ke liye baahar jaana means no problems .. baaki am 100% with you both on didi matters and Don't want to repeat what you guys said

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

So much word.. malini treats this as worse than one treats a live in relationship too. For her it is more like that dating and live in hi jahan na bani toh apne raaste nikal liyo.. rofl at her aaj sab pehle jaisa Higa just caz he said ok then decide and text 😆 itne main hi sab pehle jaisa ho gaya for her. Is she for real... 😆 as I was laughing few pages back she really said ek dusre ko janane ka mauka milega.. like let's brush all problems aside and think ke bas thodi daer ke liye baahar jaana means no problems .. baaki am 100% with you both on didi matters and Don't want to repeat what you guys said

@bold: That was 🤣.....SAAT SAAL ke baad bhi Jaanne ka MAUKA hi mil raha hai, Didi? 🤣....toh phir saat saal mein kya bas kanche khele aapas mein? 😕🤣......If you're only NOW beginning to get the CHANCE to know each other, toh you have WAY bigger problems, lady😆

I love how neither her nor Adi pause even ONCE to reflect that they actually have GHANTA understanding aapas mein even after 7 years....lol Adi ko Imlie se preoccupied dikhaa rahe hain to deflect from acknowledging this truth about him and Malini😆.....and Didi toh mashallah lala land mein next level always😆.

Bottom line....they never really knew each other in 7 years, they are INCAPABLE of knowing each other given their fundamental personality differences.....jab tak yeh realization nahin hoga, yeh bojh aise hi dhote rahenge😆.

Originally posted by: pamk06

Totally second everything in the bold.... she always keeps referring to life before marriage and how happy they were but how much time did they actually spend together. Obviously, in that one hour or two if Aditya was not busy eating, he must be talking to her or listening to her or doing moon jaap. So she felt like a queen. After marriage, things have changed and as you said, one cannot stay back in the past. One need to learn new things about each other, adjust adapt and thats how the marriage car run, not because you are similar. But, Malini does not want to move forward, does not want to change because she was happy with no disappointment, no unhappiness, no sadness, in her bubble with required amount of pampering from Aditya as and when needed because looks like date bhi yehi plan karti thi. Now, after marriage too, she wanted the same and when she is not getting it, she creates these situations either by putting Aditya down or by these dates/parties where she gets appreciated. Sach sunne ke liye himmat honi chahiye and Malini does not have it. nor wants to.

@bold: I meant to quote this part earlier but forgot....that line just cracked me up🤣....cuz it's so true that in every "date" scene we've been shown in a FB ya before marriage, Adi is just busy thoosoing khaana like saalon se bhooka ho🤣.....woh jealousy waale FB mein toh aise khaa raha tha jaise ek bhi word nahin nikal sakta muh se without eating constantly😆.

So this does make one wonder ki every date pe yeh bas khaa peeke mast tha and Malini was busy talking to herself🤣.....and itne mein hi inko lagaa ki "aakhon aakhon mein ishaare" ho gaye?🤣

Oh man, there is SO much potential to go back and unravel the comically empty/delusional relationship these two have had😆....but uske liye writers ko guts gather karne honge to acknowledge the reality of Didi's mistakes and flaws😆....abhi toh it's easier to just scapegoat Adi😆

Originally posted by: MuteButton

And it is not like she defends him anywhere when needed despite everything he previously did for her. Even though compel karne ke baad he did whatever he did, other than token defenses of Aditya, when has Malini ever done anything FOR him. Bare minimum is to get your mom to back off from insulting him or the family. Does she say a couple angry lines? Sure. Does she do anything to plug it? Nope. Not that she needed to do jack about his cooking but the least she could have done during the kadhi episode is not join in the laughter that was going around. But she did. One way expectations jo hain didi ke, ab kya kehne.

Missed tagging Pam

You said it..

See baat wohi hai har rishte ki Maryada hoti hai.. sure we all love our moms and would take daant dapat and sometimes our parents being unfair too to us to people connected to us like dost and all and sab samjh aata hai ke kyon if it is once in a while or mild..but inka toh yeh norm hai... at that point one would be like ok then maybe we shouldn't meet at all.. and then it is time to do a serious talk and confront.. ke ya toh control kar lo ya phir main nahi aa rahi baar baar aone pati ki beizzati karane when he hasn't done anything bad . Thodi izzat dedo.. all her token moms se toh saala koi pet bhi behave na kare the way she does it in so meh way ke ohir suna sake I did took a stand..if it was real love or mutual respect bhi toh one cannot take their loved one being insulted over and over and not do anything g yeh toh khud continously bas sabko yehi dikhati hai adi ne isse kitna unhappy rakha hai when she always says she was aware of his nature his preferences and priorities toh phir decide kar lo are you happy or unhappy.. and woh bhi nahi hota toh maan hi rakh lo..which is the least of him being your pati

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@bold: That was 🤣.....SAAT SAAL ke baad bhi Jaanne ka MAUKA hi mil raha hai, Didi? 🤣....toh phir saat saal mein kya bas kanche khele aapas mein? 😕🤣......If you're only NOW beginning to get the CHANCE to know each other, toh you have WAY bigger problems, lady😆

I love how neither her nor Adi pause even ONCE to reflect that they actually have GHANTA understanding aapas mein even after 7 years....lol Adi ko Imlie se preoccupied dikhaa rahe hain to deflect from acknowledging this truth about him and Malini😆.....and Didi toh mashallah lala land mein next level always😆.

Bottom line....they never really knew each other in 7 years, they are INCAPABLE of knowing each other given their fundamental personality differences.....jab tak yeh realization nahin hoga, yeh bojh aise hi dhote rahenge😆.

Matlab sach main abhi bhi janana hi hai🤣🤣 jab 7 saal nahi ho sakta toh 70 min ki date main ho jaayega kya 😆 Matlab if she says this then what dhindhora they keep pitooing of understanding of 7 saal.. 😆 kaunsi kab.. as we have talked a bazillion times now the understanding was limited to.kaunse restaurant jaana hai kya order karna hai kahan shopping karni hai.. and they thought wah wah what understanding.. heck phir to meri and mere ubereats account main bhi saalon ki understanding hai behan mujhe automatic recommendations deta hai aaj kya khaana chahiye 🤣 kinda unreal such Dumbo do exist too but hey they do.. 🤣