Originally posted by: Fallen-Embers
@Lonewalker: Amazing post. I commend you for being able to understand your mother, otherwise it just leaves one bitter. Even I did not grow up with my parents, I was brought up by my grandparents as both my parents were working. But since I had them, I really didn't miss my parents. In fact, I was more pampered than my friends who grew up with their parents were. So...
However, slowly my mom started to take over household responsibilities since my grandparents were growing older, that was when I was in my teens. N yes, I'm more dependent on my mother than I am on my father. I couldn't care less even if he went missing for days, but if my mom is missing for a few hours, I become cranky. Lol. That makes me sexist both ways, I guess. 😆
N I agree, a child needs to have one of their parents with them at least. No matter how rich they are, or how poor.
N frankly, as for the jobless guy thing, I wouldn't mind marrying a jobless guy if I was as rich as Shahid. But I'm not, so of course, it is only practical to marry someone who is able to contribute and sustain a family along with me.
😆😆 I wouldn't mind that too if I was rich enough. But well, I am not. So, I have to know my limit😆
Thank you for understanding. I was apprehensive whether I will be mocked or being moral policed for unappreciative of my mother. People here have tendency to react first & read the rest later😆 I just wanted to explain how child psychology works.
You were lucky to have your grandparents to spend the day with. While no one can really feel the void of parents, grandparents certainly make up a lot of it. 😳
Ours was a micro mini family with just my parents & my elder sister. With both my parents working & my sister being in school, it was just me & an Ayaa when I was very young. My sister used to return from school first, but I guess she didn't like the idea of babysitting me after returning home (I don't blame her, she was a kid too), so she just used to go to her room & lock the door😆 I was like....wth 😆 no one likes me or what?? 😆 That's how kids' minds work. They can not understand others' situation. They just notice that they are being ignored. Well...few hours after that, my Mum would return.... My Ayaa will go home... & My Mum would be mostly irritated with every mess I created.😆 My father used to be on work trips often & used to return very late in the evening whenever he wasn't on trip. He was the only one who liked to participate in my nonsense chattering & whatever I would be interested in playing with. My Dad was the only one whom I used to like back then 😆 He was like my hero, because he few times effectively saved me from Mum's beatings😆 But unfortunately time with him used to be very short-lived since he used to travel a lot due to work & I was left mostly Mummy ke bharose😆😆 Things changed for better when my father finally settled down with a less demanding job & my Mom took voluntary retirement due to a health condition. That was when I was in high school. I was actually apprehensive of the idea that Mum's gonna stay at home all day because that could only mean more scolding & nagging 😆 But I was surprised to discover she was not that grumpy anymore & she actually seemed to start liking me / showing interest in my life ...? I don't know how to put it, but my mother's nature started becoming a lot more likeable since then. And now I am really glad that I have her as my mother❤️
Now I understand, it's because she didn't have to manage work & home simultenously anymore. The pressure on her reduced a lot & so she could finally relax, rest & be herself. Balancing both job & home at the same time is a very very tough task. Whoever successfully manage both, I salute them. By saying "oh everyone does that! It's not a big deal!", we are just taking them for granted & not appreciating them enough. It is a big deal actually. And people who have other choices, should be allowed to make that choice & be happy in their choice.
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