Suprabhat Bhagininno! 🌺🌻
Memory erasure -- today's episode seems perfectly placed between yesterday's and tomorrow's episode. No, no, I haven't snorted the dum 😅 but clearly, it was meant to distract from the immediate memory of Vahini-Dir honeymoon travels that left almost all of us fuming at various people 😄 so the topic of honeymoon travels to be continued after some of the immediate past memory has been replaced by red roses 🌹🌹
But hum log bhoolne walon mein se Hain kya? 😀 Sai bhi nahi bhoolti...
I thought the entire part, right from the moment she got off the jeep at a distance from the college that morning (shown yesterday) to her conversation with Pulkit about life and her 'marriage of convenience' and thereafter her reluctance to participate in celebrating 'love' isn't just her aversion to Valentine's Day or her idea of 'love Ka ek din kyun'... (Before I comment, I would like to say I have never fancied February 14 for anything other than being the absolute mid of the month so I am not speaking from the perspective of her not feeling excited about the day. It is normal to not join in the hype) ... But Sai's case isn't that of someone who wouldn't take a chance to celebrate what she really believes in. I think her reluctance came from the inner feeling of 'never knowing love' -- how does one celebrate what one has never experienced? And with Aaba, everyday for her was fun and frolic, valentine's Day not needed.
I thought the Pulkit Sai conversation would continue but well, it just ended with Devi tai be bohat Saha hai🙄... So since there was no continuation, I want to point out to her "Kya har Shaadi nakaam Hoti hai?" question to the professor. Of course, perhaps, no other person of her age in that college would know the answer to that question. But that question had conveyed so much of her emotion that it completely took away any alibi for husband Chavan for me yesterday.
While we want to give such a long rope of understanding to Virat for not understanding his emotions, being a typical man but having his intentions right and for feeling confused at 27-28 years of age after suddenly feeling 'attraction and attachment' for his dealwali wife, what does it mean to an 18-19 year old to have 'decided' to marry a man who 'saaf saaf bata diya tha ki wo apna dil aur apni zindagi kisi aur ke naam kar chuke hain'?
Virat himself is experiencing many of these feelings for the first time but isn't he supposed to be the more 'aware' of the two and address the issues that he brushes aside despite having cues. So, while they need their own time to come around their emotions and acknowledge them, the need is to avoid conveying a message that is not intended -- from both ends.
But it's also true that Virat ends up miscommunicating his feelings unintentionally as compared to Sai, who does it deliberately because she really believes in a lot of it. She's feeling drawn towards Virat. She can sense the changing equation between them.She definitely wants to experience the intimacy that they are both beginning to desire but then at the back of the mind, there is the reality of the "deal".
She is a girl who has never seen an ideal marriage -- she never had a mother, her father fostered a deserted woman as his sister, her well-meaning 'husband' denied her the conjugal rights to begin with in the marriage that she had to choose at 18-19 as her only way to escape a tragic situation life had put her in, the marriages in her sasuraal are hardly functional or an example to look up to, the three daughters in the house are lonely for their own reasons... Has she seen anyone in love? It takes me back for a fleeting moment to the few minutes of PDA that she witnessed between Shivani and Amey- it made her blush and look away. Hasn't life robbed her of such a sweet experience that most adolescents and youngsters feel? Will she be able to live the prime years of her life knowing love as it should be? And for that matter, even Virat, who's soon reaching the end of those 'prime years'.
Her awkwardness about Virat handing over the bouquet of roses to her was natural feeling. She has never been at the centre of any kind of PDA, even mildest of it. It would be a lie to say that she didn't want it but she was doing what she does best -- denying that she wanted it from him.
Also because, they are very good at registering each other's hesitations -- he saw Sai's reluctance at Aniket's suggestion first and brushed it off as being a thing of 'college goers' and she caught on to his reluctance and connected it with "Hamare beech mein koi pyaar Nahi hai". It was said in a genuine moment of the awareness that everyone was watching and pushing Virat to give her the flowers but their eyes tell such a different tale that both of them seem to dismiss without asking each other the right questions.
And of course, serving jalebis is now a mutual activity. So, "pyaar parivaar ke beech me hota hai, doston ke beech me, Pati Patni ke aur unke bhi jo ek doosre ke liye accha sochte Hain, chahte Hain" chalo, now hopefully they will both latch on to the fact that they are in well-wishers wala 'love' stage😅
But not quite. Madam ACP has latched on to 'pyaar doston ke beech bhi hota hai' and walks up to him to say exactly what she feels. "Aaj Ghar jaate huye ek rose lekar jaana"... "Kyun"... "Pakhi Didi ke liye"...
Now, instead of asking her why she said what she did, Virat turns around with a clenched jaw and leaves. Why is he so reluctant to probe her need for such suggestions?! Why does he assume it was a taunt. It genuinely wasn't a taunt. I thought she was asking him to do so out of good intentions which come from her own misconception that his gyaan about 'pyaar' is about his feelings for his 'best friend'. Has he said Spashthly yet that it isn't? Even we don't know yet... But is it too much to ask of him to just ask, "Why are you saying this?" It would probably help clear the picture of where they both stand in their assumptions of each other's feelings. Sai's mention of 'best friend' is enough to annoy him but today it did not sound misplaced to me. She really believes that Virat still loves his 'best friend'... And, she will continue to live in that belief till he walks across that bridge and tells her what he really thinks about their relationship and marriage, till he clarifies that he never meant to let her go and the feeling has only turned more compelling since they have begun to cohabit with each other.
Because truly "Pyaar anokha ehsaas hai... Usse bas mehsoos kiya jaata hai... Kisi ne sahi kaha hai, pyaar kiya nahi jaata bas ho jaata hai... Kaise hota hai, Kyun hota hai, na toh samjha jaa sakta hai na samjhaya ja sakta hai..."
It's so evident that in the loud applause he received his senses only turned towards the soundless claps of the Baiko -- it meant more than the crowd cheering him.
And now that they've begun holding each other's gaze, the eyes do so much talking -- aankhein bhi Hoti Hain Dil ki zabaan-- but then both of them end up denying what their eyes convey--Sai mostly.
But Chavan saheb should remember what he said: "Ladkiyon ki na ka matlab na hota hai... Usme haan dhoondhna band kar... Agar usse haan bolna hoga toh wo haan hi bolegi.."
Now, why should this be gender specific? It is true both ways. Ladkon ki na ka matlab bhi na hi hota hai. But unfortunately even some women don't get it right when a man says, "No", eg: we-know-who. And some women also understand it the way it has been specifically communicated -- No means no, koi umeed mat rakhna. So, regardless of the gender, the onus of communicating that a No has turned into Yes, lies on the person who first placed the embargo.
But let's wait until the two of them decide to be honest over randomly coating their feelings with sugar, spice or ice -- depending on the mood of the day.
Some questions:
1. "Sai itne famous IPS officer ki wife hai..." Someone please tell me how did an IPS officer in his first posting become so famous that he's been in newspapers even before his first posting and medical college students know who he is? 😂😅 Itna famous officer toh kabhi dekha hi nahi 🙃🙃
2. Okay, it was fun! But who all agree that Dr Naik is the only one who has clearly cleared all entrance exams and rightfully appointed as Dean. I mean, he solved the fastest finger first puzzle in one breath:
"Tum ACP Chavan ke Saath unke Ghar me kaise rehti ho?"
"Ye meri saas ke bete Hain"
A: Oh, he's your husband?! 😯
Even IPS officer was soooh impressed with the intelligence that he actually turned to nod and show his appreciation 😂😂😂
Chalo, lage haath, Mrs ACP acknowledged publicly on Valentine's Day that "ACP Virat Chavan mere husband Hain"
Waise, it was rude how Sai walked into the Dean's office, unapologetic even when questioned. I found it extremely impolite on her part to have even ignored the Dean's objection to her walking into the office 😣😣. Looks like Baiko was very aware ki ACP husband ke saamne Dean wouldn't be able to spank her much... Also, for a moment when the Romeo was brought in , did any one else feel that Madam ACP was going to pounce on him?😅
I loved the gesture where Virat pulls her aside - it was a personal touch of 'apnapan', since their "apparent closeness" had just been declared to the world. Otherwise, he would have just said, "excuse me", I guess.
3. Virat chosing not to arrest the 'romeo' and give him a chance to reform was a good move. It was definitely in line with how they work- they always try to avoid filing cases and arresting people (unless the crime is cognisable and cannot be ignored) not because of lethargy as is the general impression but because cases without evident criminal action end up without any results if pursued in court. What they end up doing is damaging the person who's the accused and probably was just a misguided young person. It can also be dicey in cases of such stalking for love because often inaction in such cases can lead to a bigger crime but Virat used his judgment of the person and decided to give him a chance. It was dramatic that he threatened to throw the guy off from the terrace, but sometimes it happens 😉 Kahan hum Soch rahe thay ki Chavan saheb would perform the Sholay scene himself with Usha maushi some day 😅😅 what are the chances, now?
4. So Chakram niwas mein there is only one couple that believes in Valentine's Day wala love - Omkar and Sonali. Baaki sab ki life toh revolves around the sheera at the breakfast table..what kind of love this Sonali and Omkar couple have that they tolerate the emotional abuse the son is going through. So as viewers, we're watching it only now but it must have been a regular way of behaviour that Mohit has been experiencing. How distasteful was Bhavani's 'badam ka halwa banao'. Even in the meanest of families, no one would treat the son of the house like that. Definitely not the mother. One can see Sonali shifting in her place and suddenly looking at Ashwini for support to become her voice while she can remain in the good books of Kaku but Sonali's silence at Mohit having to leave without eating his breakfast was appalling and unreal. I really don't understand what kind of gold mine she claims to have that cannot give enough confidence to stand up for her own son..hereon, it's foolish to expect her to redeem herself. The scene was exaggerated to bring in the 'sudden' sympathy for Mohit but it ends up depicting a rather disgraceful version of his parents, who were embracing in 'love' a short while ago. Inko apne bete se bhi lena dena Nahi hai... and of course, Mallika-e-Maturity appeared to express sympathy like her own behaviour with Sai and Ashwini, minutes ago, should be forgotten as if it happened on another day like the episode.
Also, basically Chavan Saheb and his Baiko left for their respective jobs without breakfast, it means? 😑😐 But today toh they can have love, fresh air and roses also 😅
Also: wo photo Chavan WhatsApp group pe Aaya hai ya Aai ke personal WhatsApp pe? 😂😂😂 Can't wait for the suspense to unfold.
5. Did Virat test Aniket's strumming skills today or was he too busy eyelocking with Baiko? 😅
Meanwhile, in his jeep---
ACP: Alexa, how much oxytocin is released in a mutual gaze between 'ek doosre Ka accha chahne wale' Pati Patni?
Alexa: Research on love and attraction has found that mutual gaze—staring into each other's eyes—is a good predictor of two individuals being “in love.” Deep eye contact, or holding your gaze for at least four seconds, may indicate feelings of love.
ACP: Alexa, what does one do after four seconds?
Alexa: Open your mouth and use direct communication to explain what you are experiencing and what your needs are and really hear what the other person is saying, then you're on the right path for more oxytocin release.
ACP: What is it called when you can't express in words... Sai ko kaise samjhaun ...
Alexa: Alexithymia is the Greek term to loosely translate to “no words for emotion.”
ACP: Alexa...
Alexa: No, it's not me. Please don't confuse. Would you like to search instead for "How to reclaim your single life by traveling with strangers?"
ACP: Alexa, stop snooping 😐😐
Alexa: Okay, KJ. Don't forget to buy a rose on your way home.Have a good day.
ACP: 😑🙄😣🧐🤐
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