Originally posted by: john909
It's very unfair to judge Alia based on hypotheticals. Anything court related hasn't even happened so calling her immoral based on what could happen is not the best idea imo. Yes giving good values is incredibly important, however, parents are never perfect. There are tons of values and beliefs that my parents have that I do not and would never want because I don't agree with them. But that doesn't make my parents bad parents. Yes obviously when we're little we're looking at our parents to teach us good values, however, when the time comes, kids grow differentiating between what was good and what was bad. Just like Alia and Sarang know what their parents did wrong and are straying away from the values that wasn't good. Alia wants her kids to have a better childhood than she did but that doesn't mean she's not capable of making mistakes and doing dumb stuff every now and then. But labeling Alia as immoral or a bad parent because she's making mistakes especially as a new parent is very unfair.
If the situation was hypothetical and so was my answer for it. Calling alia immoral was only for a situation where she would blame everything on Rahul in court to save herself. You need to read the other person's post properly. She put a hypothetical situation and i answered by staying within that situation. It doesn't apply to real scenario. Parents are not perfect but they give their best efforts and they try to teach their kids by example by putting on their best behavior. Mistakes are ok but what she did cannot be categorized as dumb stuff or cannot be taken lightly. In this forum, people are either ignoring it or taking it way too lightly.
okay that's fine about the hypothetical situation. Hopefully it doesnt come to that. I don't think anyone is taking it too lightly, but trying to arguee that if someone makes a mistake they should be given time to realize its a mistake in the first place and given time to rectify it as well. If I make a mistake, rarely I am aware of it right away and start reflecting on it as soon as it's made and start apologizing. When she's at the right mindset to realize what she's doing is wrong, she should also bee able to apologize for her mistake.
Yes mistakes have consequences but we never learn or know better if we don't make mistakes. Alia is not perfect, she has room to grow just as much as Sarang or other characters. My hope is that this will make Alia realize that not everyone sees the world as she does and makes her reflect on it.
That doesn't mean people should stop trying their best to not make mistakes. Mistakes are a part of learning but here she didn't care or even acknowledge it as a mistake or something unjust. She is in "the end justifies the means" mode right now. Yes, motherhood and her journey with sarangdhar for this 9 months will change her outlook and hopefully she becomes less sclerotic and learn to accept whatever life throws at her.
Yes I hope so!!!
And Alia is telling Sarang he's not fit to be a dad based on the qualities she wants in her baby's donor, not even a partner she's choosing for herself. So if he wasn't even in the list of her donor then how can he be close to being a co-parent. The one that she did choose to be her partner betrayed her so obviously she's going to be super careful in who she believes is the right choice for a co-parent
She made that list of qualities and even found a guy with them. He fit her list but what happened in the end? He bailed on her so how does it make that list perfect or good enough to decide whether sarangdhar is good enough to be a dad. That guy had a good reason to bail on her but regardless of that, he bailed on her. Also her journey during that time period to find a donor also shows that she can plan to do her best but she can't make it perfect which is why she is rejecting sarangdhar as he doesn't fit in her definition. She has to learn to be open to new things and also that what she wants will not necessarily always be what she needs.
I agree and that's also a process. Like she said today about how having a husband doesn't necessarily mean he'll be a good person or a dad and also the donor example you used. But I think if I was in Alia's shoes and I found out that the guy I thought was my donor wasn't my donor, it would take me time to accept that I'd have his baby, and even longer to accept the possibility that he would parent with him especially since I don't know him as anything besides my loud and obnoxious employee. Sarang is a fantastic guy and his heart is in the right place but that doesn't mean he should be the dad. And hopefully Alia stops being bitchy soon lol cuz it's just not needed.
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