Yeh Rishtey Hai Pyaar Ke Live Updates/EDT 25 Aug 2020 - Page 11

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

Haan geetu, it breaks my heart💔. Why does Mishti and Abir always have to be the leader in problem solving. Both the families have only looked at them, as the solver - BM/BP have always put that pressure on Mishti to be the sane/mature one and find a solution, and at RV house; Nanu Parul and even Kunal have always reiterated how much the house needs Abir because only then is the place happy - because he is the solution finder, otherwise no one knows or wants to do anything to fix the problem.

It's even worse now because the issue between the sisters needs to be sorted within the mah family. But yet again BM/BP, Varsha and everyone are ignoring their responsibility of sitting down the with girls practically to ask what each of their problems are. Instead they are emotionally cornering them with family reputation, sasural and bahu duties and what not.

I don't understand why everyone (fandom) is expecting Abir to have complete control and understanding of what is going and how to fix it. How is he supposed to know, understand or figure out a solution to the sister's problem, if Mishti nor Kuhu nor BM/BP talk openly about it, none of them trying to dig to real issues. Bas upar upar se gol gol baat kar rahe hain. I reckon that's what Abir is trying to explain to Mishti, but unfortunately he isn't using the right words or approach.

The writers and makers as usual are purposely twisting situations and dialogues out of proportion just for drama effect, and also to create loopholes for future tracks. That's the issue with infinite long-running shows - you never get proper closure for things, because once it closes, then the show could end. It's frustrating to say the least.

Abi ke liye, my mind and heart is overwhelmed, confused and little lost. It's better for our sanity not to break our heads open, arguing or trying to make each other understand who is right vs who is wrong (but rather look at the bigger picture), because the writing just isn't that clear anymore.

@bold(above): when typing that line - I just realised, I'm saying the same thing that Abir trying to say😲😆👏 Abir is trying to tell Mishti, there is no point focusing on the negativity (Kuhu) around us, when we know she is not going to change OR it's about time we dig deep to root cause because these superficial fights, blaming, acting & pretending to be nice is not going to give any stability to our future. If we are really going to think about being parents, then it's time we start discussing the way want to lead our lives for our future children - do we want to be showing/exposing them to these kinds of environments, where we are all stepping on hot coals uncertain when something is going to burst out of proportion.

*note: the fact that no one is talking to Kuhu about this is the real issue. But that's not Abir's job. He is using the comfort, ease and haq he has with his wife, to try and guide her. He wants his mishtee, to move past these childhood issues (kuhu's blame game and abandonment fears). But it's true he is taking a very twisted route, not ideal at all.

Moral: It's complicated #phew

Just want to say your posts are ek se ek badhkar khidki posts ⭐️⭐️ mujhe bada sukoon mil raha hai padh ke ❤️

Originally posted by: piyasingh

BOLD; Exactly diyu..this is wat i think now.. in end kuhu will be like- mishti tune muje bachaya. Wo bhi apni jaan per khelker...😲 I Lobbb u my shistaaaar.. and Ja mene tujhe sab cheez ke liye Maaf kiya (for a time being). 🤣

and mish will say- Aww kuhu..aao behan gale lago.. Hum sath sath hai.. sorry kuhu.. and thank u kuhu.. tera dil kitna bada hai..

Sorry BP

Sorry BM

Sorry Abir

Sorry Maa

Sorry Parul maasi, Maamu and nidhi mamai, ketu 😭

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Sorry Chair, sorry table, sorry pillow, sorry room, sorry bed---tum sabko bhi sorry..tum logo ki feelings bhi "sab merei wajah" se hurt hui..😭

And then i will just faint hearing this😛🤣

🤣🤣🤣

In old Abir’s words: Sorry bolney ki Monthly Ticket Kara lo, Mishti

Abir usually runs away when things go out of control and he cannot handle it anymore.

I think he misses the Chashmish Mishti, his best friend and first love! Mishbir rushed into marriage, they should have waited a few months after Nannu left, they should have waited to reconnect and rejuvenate their love, they had gone through so much heartbreak and anguish in the months before with Abir repeatedly rejecting Mishti and then her almost getting married to Nannu. They should have waited to re-establish their friendship and understanding. Meenu rushed them into marriage and Abir also didn’t want to take the risk of losing Mishti again. But they should have waited....

Since their marriage Mishbir have not enjoyed a single day of marital bliss without Kuhu’s outbursts or Meenu’s dirty tricks! Abir knows the tactics to deal with Meenu but he has no idea how to handle Kuhu. He thinks Mishti should know more about how to manage Kuhu’s tantrums since she’s lived with her for past 10 years, shared the same room. Like Abir knows how to handle Meenu because she’s his mom.

Also post wedding, Abir thinks Mishti is reacting too much to Meenu and Kuhu, instead of tackling them with caution and cleverness. His expectations from Mishti is too high given that all along Mishti, his Angry Chorni was the one who always solved problems, the one who fought to get back his love, the one who crossed rivers of fire to unite with him!

When expectations are too high and your lover doesn’t fulfill your expectations after marriage then disappointment is also on a bigger scale. Probably that’s what’s happening with Abir regarding his Mishti

Originally posted by: pallavi25

Abir usually runs away when things go out of control and he cannot handle it anymore.

I think he misses the Chashmish Mishti, his best friend and first love! Mishbir rushed into marriage, they should have waited a few months after Nannu left, they should have waited to reconnect and rejuvenate their love, they had gone through so much heartbreak and anguish in the months before with Abir repeatedly rejecting Mishti and then her almost getting married to Nannu. They should have waited to re-establish their friendship and understanding. Meenu rushed them into marriage and Abir also didn’t want to take the risk of losing Mishti again. But they should have waited....

Since their marriage Mishbir have not enjoyed a single day of marital bliss without Kuhu’s outbursts or Meenu’s dirty tricks! Abir knows the tactics to deal with Meenu but he has no idea how to handle Kuhu. He thinks Mishti should know more about how to manage Kuhu’s tantrums since she’s lived with her for past 10 years, shared the same room. Like Abir knows how to handle Meenu because she’s his mom.

Also post wedding, Abir thinks Mishti is reacting too much to Meenu and Kuhu, instead of tackling them with caution and cleverness. His expectations from Mishti is too high given that all along Mishti, his Angry Chorni was the one who always solved problems, the one who fought to get back his love, the one who crossed rivers of fire to unite with him!

When expectations are too high and your lover doesn’t fulfill your expectations after marriage then disappointment is also on a bigger scale. Probably that’s what’s happening with Abir regarding his Mishti

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

Haan geetu, it breaks my heart💔. Why does Mishti and Abir always have to be the leader in problem solving. Both the families have only looked at them, as the solver - BM/BP have always put that pressure on Mishti to be the sane/mature one and find a solution, and at RV house; Nanu Parul and even Kunal have always reiterated how much the house needs Abir because only then is the place happy - because he is the solution finder, otherwise no one knows or wants to do anything to fix the problem.

It's even worse now because the issue between the sisters needs to be sorted within the mah family. But yet again BM/BP, Varsha and everyone are ignoring their responsibility of sitting down the with girls practically to ask what each of their problems are. Instead they are emotionally cornering them with family reputation, sasural and bahu duties and what not.

I don't understand why everyone (fandom) is expecting Abir to have complete control and understanding of what is going and how to fix it. How is he supposed to know, understand or figure out a solution to the sister's problem, if Mishti nor Kuhu nor BM/BP talk openly about it, none of them trying to dig to real issues. Bas upar upar se gol gol baat kar rahe hain. I reckon that's what Abir is trying to explain to Mishti, but unfortunately he isn't using the right words or approach.

The writers and makers as usual are purposely twisting situations and dialogues out of proportion just for drama effect, and also to create loopholes for future tracks. That's the issue with infinite long-running shows - you never get proper closure for things, because once it closes, then the show could end. It's frustrating to say the least.

Abi ke liye, my mind and heart is overwhelmed, confused and little lost. It's better for our sanity not to break our heads open, arguing or trying to make each other understand who is right vs who is wrong (but rather look at the bigger picture), because the writing just isn't that clear anymore.

@bold(above): when typing that line - I just realised, I'm saying the same thing that Abir trying to say😲😆👏 Abir is trying to tell Mishti, there is no point focusing on the negativity (Kuhu) around us, when we know she is not going to change OR it's about time we dig deep to root cause because these superficial fights, blaming, acting & pretending to be nice is not going to give any stability to our future. If we are really going to think about being parents, then it's time we start discussing the way want to lead our lives for our future children - do we want to be showing/exposing them to these kinds of environments, where we are all stepping on hot coals uncertain when something is going to burst out of proportion.

*note: the fact that no one is talking to Kuhu about this is the real issue. But that's not Abir's job. He is using the comfort, ease and haq he has with his wife, to try and guide her. He wants his mishtee, to move past these childhood issues (kuhu's blame game and abandonment fears). But it's true he is taking a very twisted route, not ideal at all.

Moral: It's complicated #phew

Excellently explained Nandu👍🏼

Wow while writing this post itself you cleared your confusion👏

Its really sad to see them always stuck between family and problems..the next problem is on its way😭

Originally posted by: naq5

how is mishti supposed to tackle kuhu though. ignore her. ok take for example the magazine issue kuhu was the one who started shouting n cursing, she went on for a good 5 min. if mishti had not retorted she would have continued and peace of house still would be disrupted. Somewhere it works if the whole house starts leaving the place when kuhu starts shouting. but that dosent solve kuhus resentfulness, she will only resent mishti more. the thing of passing on the issue to next generation still remains. Abir is expecting mishti to solve the problem without giving her any ideas as to how to do it. And abir needs to understand that in any relationship even mishti-kuhu both parties need to be willing to solve the issue. here kuhu is not willing to solve the issue. Abir expecting mishti alone to do it and putting such pressure on her looks unrealistic on his part. it makes no sense

Exactly that! Abir expects Mishti to tackle Kuhu since she’s lived with her for last 10 years. But he’s not blind, he’s seen with his own eyes how Kuhu repeatedly bullies and abuses Mishti without logic, reason or provocation! Is he expecting Mishti to walk away from confrontations or stay calm and just give in to Kuhu’s ridiculous demands for apology?

Abir himself has no idea how to stop Kuhu but he expects Mishti to deal with it, that’s an absurd and unrealistic demand. And worse is he wants Mishti to resolve a 10 year old resentment overnight? How is it possible?

It’s not possible to reason with a belligerent bully!
Abir and Kunal are actual brothers not an adoptive or forced sisterhood. He thinks Mishti should have just apologized to Kuhu for the magazine cover 🤪

He clearly said: Maafi mangney Se koi Chhota nahin ho jata” Like Really? Why would she apologize when she wasn’t involved in any way in the cover change?

If Abir wanted to help he should have called the publishers and cleared it up! Instead he’s just sulking in his sasural and pressurizing Mishti to make peace with Kuhu without giving her concrete ideas to do so.

Abir’s expectations from Mishti are unreal and ridiculous! Just because she’s the Angry Chorni doesn’t mean she can perform a miracle by transforming a belligerent bully like Kuhu into a well behaved woman!

Today meenu is d star of d episode. Kya attitude hain. 😎 ekdam boss lady. Swag toh pucho hi mat sabko piche chod degi woh. Kya jhara hain dono bahu ko. MAST EKDAM 👌👌

Uske alawa mujhe kuch samjh nahi aiya aaj show mein 🌚🌚🌚🌚 kisika point of view bhi nahi. Sab karna kya chahte hain???

Mishbir scenes toh ekdam tangential gaye mera sir se. Sirf gaana aacha laga aur dono ki acting but 🌚🌚🌚 sorry koi intensity nahi thi scene ki writing mein aur nahi depth. U get it what dey r trying to portray but u don't feel d emotions 😒😒wohi laga aaj. What a waste of Rheshah ka hardwork if u can't make d audience feel for d character.

Par ek baat aaj mishbir scenes dekh ke mera dimaag mein aiya hain 😈😈 writer plz go for a separation track. Surrogacy nahi chahiye.Rheshah will nail it.

Originally posted by: Sarcastic_me

Today meenu is d star of d episode. Kya attitude hain. 😎 ekdam boss lady. Swag toh pucho hi mat sabko piche chod degi woh. Kya jhara hain dono bahu ko. MAST EKDAM 👌👌

Uske alawa mujhe kuch samjh nahi aiya aaj show mein 🌚🌚🌚🌚 kisika point of view bhi nahi. Sab karna kya chahte hain???

Mishbir scenes toh ekdam tangential gaye mera sir se. Sirf gaana aacha laga aur dono ki acting but 🌚🌚🌚 sorry koi intensity nahi thi scene ki writing mein aur nahi depth. U get it what dey r trying to portray but u don't feel d emotions 😒😒wohi laga aaj. What a waste of Rheshah ka hardwork if u can't make d audience feel for d character.

Par ek baat aaj mishbir scenes dekh ke mera dimaag mein aiya hain 😈😈 writer plz go for a separation track. Surrogacy nahi chahiye.Rheshah will nail it.

I want despo Abir😆

Originally posted by: LiNdASoUmZ

I was also thinking the same Yaar ...I want separation ( though they hav hardly spend good tym together 🙄)

I want despo Abir😆

Yeah I even want dat desperation in abir to be with mishti which was missing in their break up phase

I was so pissed off with mishti in break up phase of how she was becoming so desperate to be with him n I liked kuhu when she was trying to show her d reality but mishti was running away from it in her desperation.

Originally posted by: LiNdASoUmZ

I was also thinking the same Yaar ...I want separation ( though they hav hardly spend good tym together 🙄)

I want despo Abir😆

Oh yes, separation track will be better than this disgusting Kuhu as surrogate track!

I’m watching the old separation track episodes now and they were so amazing! RheSha’s acting was just out of the world ! So much intensity, passion, longing, anguish in their eyes, they were just mind blowing!

But Meenu hai na, she will concoct a plan to oust Mishti from Abir’s life again, that woman never gives up! Now she will fake Mishti’s infertility by bribing some hospital staff to change medical reports