KZKians Lets come together - Page 4

Originally posted by: Viswasruti

@Charu and Sonnet11, you both expressed your opinions on life and social responsibilities in a beautiful way.

The entire world is fighting with an unknown enemy with empty hands, already lost more than half a million people worldwide to it, still counting, no one knows how long.

This is the time to soothe our past wounds with a few good words from both the warring groups and unite to fight against this unseen peril.

Just think once, why do people think they are winning on argument by hurting someone else's feelings when in reality that person is your friend once, and if you agree, ready to be your friend again?

You are in an argument with someone and at some point, they start to say something that hurts your feelings even if you try to be normal in your conversation with them and they switch gears from discussion to attacking your character, that's something called "ad hominem". Have you heard the saying, "Hurt people hurt people."

Because the one who reacts emotionally loses by default!

When we get emotional, we're not rational. We become reactive. Reaction to an argument will always result to hurt and pain which is most of the time it will be the collateral. Neither you nor I will be at peace!

Let me share one incident in my IF journey which inspired me so much, I was awed by the vastness of their knowledge on Greek Philosophy, we were discussed about the religion and the Western Thought on Hinduism, etc with mutual respect.

All of a sudden the topic diverted towards Ramayan and Ram, and Dharma followed by Dharmaraja in Mahabharath, and then suddenly all hell broke loose!! Sharing with you what happened next---

I agree! You see we are only making the mess more messy by reacting based on our emotions. Emotions are very real and one should not deny them or suppress them. I, for one, feel my feelings and emotions to the fullest and they are mostly very very uncomfortable but it is totally in our control how to put forth our opinions by filtering our emotions.

You see we can either react or respond. Reaction is unconscious but response is conscious and it takes our soul power or wisdom to respond accurately. The moment we demean others or try to insult or humiliate them, we lose it. We may get instant satisfaction but peace only comes through conscious response. It is not very easy but we can practice it. Personally, I stay away from conflicts and fights. The moment I sense that the atmosphere can heat up because a lot of hurt sentiments have been triggered, either I slow down and choose to respond so that it doesn't sound personal to the people around or if I sense that people here are way too rigid I back off, not because I am scared but because I don't want to contribute in furthering the low energy.

If only we could be conscious enough that all these quarrels and clashes are only to our own detriment.

Love❤️

Originally posted by: sonnet11

I agree! You see we are only making the mess more messy by reacting based on our emotions. Emotions are very real and one should not deny them or suppress them. I, for one, feel my feelings and emotions to the fullest and they are mostly very very uncomfortable but it is totally in our control how to put forth our opinions by filtering our emotions.

You see we can either react or respond. Reaction is unconscious but response is conscious and it takes our soul power or wisdom to respond accurately. The moment we demean others or try to insult or humiliate them, we lose it. We may get instant satisfaction but peace only comes through conscious response. It is not very easy but we can practice it. Personally, I stay away from conflicts and fights. The moment I sense that the atmosphere can heat up because a lot of hurt sentiments have been triggered, either I slow down and choose to respond so that it doesn't sound personal to the people around or if I sense that people here are way too rigid I back off, not because I am scared but because I don't want to contribute in furthering the low energy.

If only we could be conscious enough that all these quarrels and clashes are only to our own detriment.

Love❤️

Your lucid explanations with vital and relatable content never ceases to amaze me. ❤️

Instant reactions spring out of thoughtlessness. While these reactions grant us momentary satisfaction, guilt creeps in the moment rationality and thoughtfulness begins to take over.

It's important to slow down.

Originally posted by: Wistfulness

Sonnet ❤️🤗

Your lucid explanations with vital and relatable content never ceases to amaze me. ❤️

Instant reactions spring out of thoughtlessness. While these reactions grant us momentary satisfaction, guilt creeps in the moment rationality and thoughtfulness begins to take over.

It's important to slow down.

🤗Thank you, Wist! You are right. Thoughfulness is the need of the hour but most of the people allow themselves to get triggered into hurtful words.

Btw, I am a fan of your poetical expressions. 🤗❤️

I dont know if this place is appropriate for posting this post link or not.. shruti shared with me , toh i just thought to share with all of you.. Sometimes toxicity , our toxic company , Toxic environment around us bring a lot of mental stress in our daily life both SM and Real life which very badly effects on our daily routine .Sometimes it Brings Frustration, Stress and at the end we have to suffer in mental disease which effects our peace in life. So for getting rid of toxicity at first we have to recognize the toxic company around us n Try to deal with those companies strongly..Toh here is the link, this is an amazing Article. hope it will help us to make our life peaceful more -

https://www.heysigmund.com/toxic-people/

At The end no one in the world is saint. we all have negative and bitter persona in our self . no one could be positive in a sec. But the thing is Let Try to find out our negativity in our self at first , lets be our own motivator, Lets Be our own solution and start to work on us. Probably In That way we could succeed to Optimize our Negativity a bit. Lets accept our faults sportingly and try to know ourselves at first before pointing out others ..Personally i am actually trying to do work on myself in personal level , N I really found , my soul actually turned in bitter state unknowingly in various era of life for sevaral toxic reasons, toxic company , toxic environment , tension e.t.c. which gradually was killing my peace of mind. So i guess it is actually happened with all of us . unknowingly we dont know when and how we gradually welcome toxicity in our life by killing our inner peace. so i req to all of you, pls guys work on yourself ..it really helps to get rid from thousands of problems of life n give immense positive energy into mind and soul..

Now My Personal way to keep myself happy by trying to follow this - " Be Happy and Let Be others Happy " , Though i am not succeed yet properly , but yah lets try till end of the life..

P.S.- Though i am not moral policing , but Mod if this link and post is inappropriate then pls free feel to edit or delete .

^ n if it is possible would this post be sticky for all time. it is great to read others here ..hope people will post more, their own thoughts about mental health , how to get rid from toxicity e.t.c. such a useful post it is.

^ I like reading psychological articles.

Very well expressed.

I've finally realized that we can't control the toxicity outside. But, we can control the effects of that toxicity upon ourselves to a certain extent. We can stop our own selves from drowning in negativity and toxicity. When we strive to improve ourselves, we do our bit in making this miserable world a better place.

Now I'll try harder to let go of the negative emotions and grudges inside me. After all, what's the use of harbouring grudges? It only troubles you.

There's no shame in apologizing when you're wrong. Admitting your fault and seeking apology makes you evolve as a person. 😊

Originally posted by: sonnet11

I agree! You see we are only making the mess more messy by reacting based on our emotions. Emotions are very real and one should not deny them or suppress them. I, for one, feel my feelings and emotions to the fullest and they are mostly very very uncomfortable but it is totally in our control how to put forth our opinions by filtering our emotions.

You see we can either react or respond. Reaction is unconscious but response is conscious and it takes our soul power or wisdom to respond accurately. The moment we demean others or try to insult or humiliate them, we lose it. We may get instant satisfaction but peace only comes through conscious response. It is not very easy but we can practice it. Personally, I stay away from conflicts and fights. The moment I sense that the atmosphere can heat up because a lot of hurt sentiments have been triggered, either I slow down and choose to respond so that it doesn't sound personal to the people around or if I sense that people here are way too rigid I back off, not because I am scared but because I don't want to contribute in furthering the low energy.

If only we could be conscious enough that all these quarrels and clashes are only to our own detriment.

Love❤️

Some things in life cause people to feel, these are called emotional reactions, also called logical or intellectual reactions. In the same way, some things in life cause people to act/ react instantaneously, these are called emotional outbursts. Thus life is divided between things that make you feel and things that make you think. Emotion goes on and off for everyone, sometimes people react,and sometimes they are very serious but prefer to be silent. Here logic plays an important role Sonnet.

Emotions and feelings are often used interchangeably, but they really aren’t the same thing. Normally emotions are instantaneous reactions for a strong feeling for something or for an incident.

Feelings happen as we begin to integrate the emotion, to think about it, to 'let it soak in.' Normally, we use “feel” for both physical and emotional sensations — we can say we physically feel cold, but we can also emotionally feel cold! This is a clue to the meaning of “feeling,” it’s something we sense. Feelings are more “cognitively saturated” as the emotion chemicals are processed in our brains & bodies. Feelings are often fueled by a mix of emotions, and last for longer than emotions! Neuroscience gives us a clear picture of these feelings and emotions in a detailed and systematic manner. In psychology, emotion is often defined as a complex state of feeling that results in physical and psychological changes that influence our thought and behaviour.

You said it all in a wonderful sentence --- we can either react or respond. The reaction is unconscious but the response is conscious and it takes our soul power or wisdom to respond accurately.

There is a huge difference between reacting and responding as you mentioned.

A reaction is typically quick, without much thought, tense and aggressive at times, we can say most of the time!! A response is thought out, calm and non-threatening/non- hurting. A reaction typically provokes more reactions, with nothing accomplished, perpetuating a long line of anger, hatefulness, sorrow and consequently guilty feeling, a sort of chain reaction, one after the other!!

Much of our lives are spent in reaction to others and to events around us. The problem is that these reactions might not always be the best course of action, and as a result, they can make others unhappy, make things worse for us, make the situation a bit unpleasant.

Why would we want to make things worse when we can be engaged in convo with others on a common topic while we are in social media interactions?

The truth is, we often react without thinking, which is quite natural for most of us. It’s a gut reaction, often based on strong emotions and overinvolvement for a fictional character, and it’s not the most rational or appropriate way to act. Responding, on the other hand, is taking the situation in, and deciding the best course of action based on values such as reason, compassion, cooperation, etc. Your post stated a beautiful fact that is --- Learn to respond, not react! ❤️

Originally posted by: opsora2090

^ n if it is possible would this post be sticky for all time. it is great to read others here ..hope people will post more, their own thoughts about mental health , how to get rid from toxicity e.t.c. such a useful post it is.

This thread as a forum related debate platform which is a complex one in post-expressive situations, as the line between debate and discussion, needs to be carefully managed by well-understanding Mods and members. Such profound feelings expressed by all the members in this thread so far, with revere I started loving them more now than earlier for their high conversational skills and proper understanding of the issue.

IF is a civilized place for member discussions, a place to share emotional feelings regarding the serial related issues, knowledge, and interests such as likes and dislikes through ongoing conversation.

The thread makers are asking us -- Help us make this a great place for discussion by always working to improve the discussion in some way, however small.😊But at the same time, they are responsible for this forum. But so are we as the members, as the pillars of this public stage !! With our help, moderators can be community facilitators, not just janitors or police.

The topics discussed here matter to us, we-- means, the member community, each and every member of this IF, let us be respectful of the topics and the people discussing them, even if we disagree with some of what is being said from either side, ie, from Mods at times and from members too in most of the times, let us be agreeable even when we disagree!

While reading the posts here, I felt one thing, the friendship hand extended by Mods was accepted by many members with proper understanding, it means, we all realized that pain and hurt is there in the hearts of both sides, and we all want to live in peace.

Please friends, there is always three sides to a story, yours, theirs and the truth!!

The most difficult task is to make everybody happy, the simplest task is to be happy with everyone! 🤗 Thank you Mods for this platform you provided, and thank you Opsara for this well-meant suggestion.

My heart and thought go out to everyone who has lost a loved one, or more recently those in the north east who have lost everything.

I am torn here because I believe that all things happen for a reason, even when the reason for it seems unknown or comprehensible.

I have however learnt that in life, you will come face to face with many problems - in many forms - and that they are placed in your path by God (or Gods - depending on your religious views) to help you grow and develop.

You were not placed on this Earth to fight everything alone, which is why (for many) the greatest lesson to be learnt from such situations, is to take help and support from others.

By helping others or taking help from others, you will grow and experience a richer life.

Originally posted by: K-Shandra

My heart and thought go out to everyone who has lost a loved one, or more recently those in the north east who have lost everything.

I am torn here because I believe that all things happen for a reason, even when the reason for it seems unknown or comprehensible.

I have however learnt that in life, you will come face to face with many problems - in many forms - and that they are placed in your path by God (or Gods - depending on your religious views) to help you grow and develop.

You were not placed on this Earth to fight everything alone, which is why (for many) the greatest lesson to be learnt from such situations, is to take help and support from others.

By helping others or taking help from others, you will grow and experience a richer life.

𝐖𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐊-𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐫𝐚