Rhea-Shaheer|MishBir|AT: 82| DT Reminder note Pg 104 - Page 45

Originally posted by: Mimzy

@bold - Aishu can u elaborate??

Basically what ur saying is by not listening to any of his opinions Abir thought that he was not needed there... since his opinions never matter?? When push comes to shove in their battle of wills, all family members will chose Meenu over him and he doesn't want to cause further unrest by staying at RV house and questioning Meenu's every move, but his nature wouldn't allow him to submit also. So, he runs away from the situation. He found his worth by helping others or making their voices heard.

Ohhkk mini maybe i can try explaining this... i agree with aishu that people taking meenu side is a reason for him to find his worth outside... but here meenu plays a major role..

remember the jithan movie i said, there his mother keeps demeaning him, taunting and all n he lost his self esteem, n he was the same outside n people took advantage of it n only the heroine in childhood stood up for him,recognized his good side so he kept admiring her secretly as he didnt have the guts to face her... the thing is either we should get recognition from family or outside..

Here Meenu has always directly or indirectly taunted abir compared him with mehul for his banjara attitude, called him irresponsible as he is not taking up family business, never anyone appreciated his ngo work, a small appreciation is never done by others too in fear of meenu... her way of trying to control abir by demeaning, taunting, trying to make him feel guilty has taken him away from her n also he lost hope on finding his worth in family... even the way they all support meenu leaving him alone is a reason but he knew they do that mainly bcoz of meenu fear.. they give only conditional love like give n take... this is one reason he kept searching for baba too, he felt maybe baba will understand him, support him, will fill the void, the craving he has...

only Naanu does that initially when abir wanted to go back after bringing back ketu home as he felt no one needs him there, only naanu said he is one who brings happiness to family, when meenu taunted him for running away from home abir bought the jelabi from his new venture only naanu appreciated him... but still he too cant go against meenu even though only he n abir can recognize when/where meenu is wrong...

but look at his outside life ngo people, or many of them admire him, appreciate him, look up to him, he found that recognition outside... this is one reason he loves mah family more... mainly bp/bm he looked upon them for bringing up mish like this the strong girl n giving her the unconditional love n for fulfilling the void that her parents left... he got the same love as mish there, bm calling him heera n bp trusts him more than he trusts anyone be it his family or anyone in rjv... he is so proud of being bm heera, he loves the praises n also bm taking his side more than mish 😆 he gets a child like happiness in all this.. he found the void, compensation in mah family that he doesnt get in rjv... as he gets what he wants outside he doesnt much care about his worth in rjv, even though he wants that but its like a far fetched dream for him...

see even for breakup he apologized to bm but there he then too he talked with the haq, he expected the same from bp too... more than rjv he is more liberated in mah house n with mah family members bp\bm mainly...

hope i made some sense.. 😆

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Originally posted by: Cool_wonder

I'm so loving reading ski your thoughts Jaan 😃

I soo want to write a lot but unable to... No idea why..... Just not getting the mood to write........ But I want to😊

You know it's really beautiful how we have understood vabhir Mishti ...... More than the writers/ makers

I'm glad MishBir had the fight yesterday... Good for them.... Keeping no bubbles in heart.........

It's a common point in couple where you take eachother For granted and also expect the others to understand you better and support you but this is not always the case everybody has their own perspective which sometimes they are unable to express openly....The only problem here is one is expecting The other to understand

Abir wanted Mishti to understand that Meenu is winning by getting the girls fight among themself.....n her fear of being called a home breaker becoming a reality

Mishti wanted him to understand that kuhu isn't so childish n innocent, never had kuhu let Mishti live in peace...n with abhirs constant support she's going all overboard

Though situation When both want to put their point first..n the other to understand it

Mishti needed badi maa to explain her in simple form

N Abhir needed Kunal

I think it's just a phase.....

Cool jaan thank you dear 🤗

Darling calm down first calm down n relax 🤗🤗

just go with flow jaan you will write it 🤗

@bold - exactly this jaan,..,,, this is the problem their own worry is right but they are not taking the other seriously... they are not able to come out of their own bubble n hear out the other...

its just a phase yaar its all new to them too as bf gf they didnt have anything to handle together as in family matters now only they have stepped into marital life naa so it will take time for them.. but they will come around yaar...

Originally posted by: ruhi19

u made sense yar...

but messed up thing and chodke jaana is not abir...esply when it comes to mkishti...

diyu when u cant analyse the scene... do it in back to front... so that u wil get clear idea...

and if i accept abir saying mishti to handle it in different manner then what about free loaders yar... mishti ki jagah koyi bhi hoti tho hurt hota... it is indirectly taunting abir only... no wife will take that...

abir se itna bhi nahi ho paya... i trust and we will find a solution together... im highly disappointed yar...

abir ka dard dikata hain but cant let go him as he left mishti...

He does do that ruhi, he cant handle arguments more than a limit n he runs away but with mish he does realize his mistake...

Haan back to front ka matlab i dont get it...

yaar firstly i tried only understanding why abir said that... ok coming to abir not doing anything about freeloader yes he needs to take action for that... but then what abir tried to say was going and confronting or scolding kuhu is not gonna put an end to her immaturity... and mish is only trying to express this is the way to handle kuhu but did she ever like until now let abir say or hear him out on what does he think on how to handle kuhu.. even that day the band aid theory was a general one, they never discussed on handling kuhu... until now we or even mish doesnt knew what he thinks about handling kuhu or what he wants to do...

yes him leaving mish is wrong but that doesnt mean he doesnt have other problem yaar... i'm not saying to leave him but like we understand mish n her pain why is abirs pain neglected, overlooked only bcoz he hurt mishti, kudh hurt nahi hua kya, doesnt he also feel hurt...

Originally posted by: LetThereBeLight

Ok girlzzz finally saw episode 5 times 😆 and got a clear idea but still both of you can clear it to me .... 😆

Uru what you said is correct its the different tangent here i tried explaining it see if i'm right... 😆

ok lets consider abirs dialogues

his room one "tumhari liye har problem ka solution is fighting"

yesterday "kis baat pe fight, i dont want to fight or fight over the fight, i dont like the word fight"

"why are you adamant or proving kuhu wrong n yourself right"

"i feel like talking to maa, she does things in name of family but it only creates problem in family"

uff ok from all this...

Firstly mish wanted to go talk with kuhu n not let her go, in her way or how abir sees this is her confrontational type, go n fight with kuhu, scold her....

Meenu her way of keeping family together is having control over them...

So abir had explained, had tried changing meenu's way of keeping family together that is he had wanted meenu to understand that by controlling family you cant keep them together, but she goes in different tangent like uru said n she wants to prove that controlling is the only way n can do anything to prove that n she name it as doing it for family... even now he is trying to change meenu's attitude n not let her take control over kunal, this is what all this is about...

Here mishti her way of trying to handle kuhu matter is fighting, scolding her n confronting her... abir tries to explain there are other way to handle her, kunal is also involved in all this... he is trying to explain the other way.. by doing what she wants that is confronting kuhu or anything is only gonna make things go out of hand which can create problem in family....

Uff now are you guyz getting why he compared mish n meenu... they want to handle things in the way only they want but abir has other solution but both are not ready to listen to that n adamant on their opinion only... this is why he compared both infact said he feels he is talking to maa...

Am i making sense or this is what you guyz also said.. i'm confused... 😆

Haan......I think its the same😛...both are stubborn and set in their ways and not willing to listen to his brilliant ideas where he can solve the problem with minimum conflict. In the process he is not realising he is also been stubborn.......its like all 3 when they decide something thinks its my way or the highway.

They dnt think that they could find a common ground by incorporating both of their methods.

Abir doesn't think that Mishti myt have already tried his method and knows that it is a 100% failure.

Also the fact is that they have never jointly faced a problem together. Their MO was always been working separately and solving the problems on their own and in their way.

And in the small issues where they had difference of opinion before, mish had always gave in and followed Abir, like the shwet matter or Kunal matters even if she had a diff opinion. Now Mish been stubborn and not blindly following his lead is frustrating him.

You know I think this is good.......😆They are facing a problem together for the first time......this is the first roadblock in their relationship that is how to work as a team??

Meenu and Mishti are argumentative and will bring up the same things again and again which he thought he had buried.......😛

Originally posted by: MishBirStruck

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NIceeeee....did they had a photo shoot for monologue

HOI Vaishu,

I read your story...it is amazing as usual...🤗

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

ohh no worries🤗i got busy with college work n then birthday threads here😆

commend your dedication to reply to so many posts😃👏👏

yup ofcourse, that's what I was meant to say👍🏼 Share pics of the important scenes.

Many are joining now in the thread..come soon😃

ohh you have college ???

haha i leave some post to reply when i get a clear idea myself yaar.. and discussion is something i love 😆🤗

Ohhkk dear.. posting asap 🤗

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hayee Find someone who looks at you, like Abir looks at Mishti❤️

main marjavan❤️

Happy Birthday you bloody beautiful, gorgeous insaan Shaheer! 😳❤️

aaj suraj kahan se nikale? It's a miracle!! 😲 dkp posted on Shah's birthday, and even blessed with a MISHBIR/rhesha photo! ❤️🤗

*pinch me*

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Originally posted by DKP 🤗

wow wow photoshoot of montage this looks so cute n amazing

dkp ki jai ho for giving a gift for shaheer birthday 🥳