Teenage pregnancy and parenting - Page 2

Originally posted by: amritat

That's a very interesting point, and calls for discussion. Such matters are often morally ambiguous to give out a hard and fast judgment.

I feel, people are not angry with Reyansh bcoz of his refusal to be a parent, but rather bcoz of the manner in which he reacted to the situation. It is natural for a boy of his age at the time to not want a child. A child is, afterall, a HUGE responsibility. But the casual manner in which he laughingly dismisses the baby, talks of abortion -- as though abortion is similar to just popping a pill -- and struts off to finish his basketball match was downright insensitive IMO. However, we haven't yet seen Reyansh's side of the story completely. There might be something more there in the coming episodes.

But I agree with your one point on Pranati. I too found her reaction to the pregnancy slightly unrealistic. From my understanding, an 18 year old unmarried college girl coming from a middle-class family in India would probably be scared out of her wits if she finds out she is pregnant. She would be bogged down with worry of whether her parents would throw her out of the house, what her neighbours, relatives, classmates would think of her!

But here, Pranati is churning out in 1970s style: yeh humaari pyaar ki nishaani hain

Also, not to mention her oversight of the medical expenses, etc.

She deserves credit, though, for not bothering Reyansh afterwards (irrespective of the anger she feels within) and decides to keep the child at her own expense. What her mother did thereafter, was of course, not something she could have predicted.

@Bold: LMAO! That's hilarious! 😆

Originally posted by: NoraSM

I won't go into right and wrong because it is determined by people who are in the situation. If I draw a graph then where do you think Pranati's character will go? It will be a single straight line without a Y axis because she is one dimensional, Reyansh wasn't "right" back then and now he has a scope to grow, his character will go through various dimensions. He made a mistake, he will change himself for his child and mother of his child, that's the story which involves character growth, if he was like the other guy, there wouldn't have been a story

You're right. If both were completely in the moral right, then there wouldn't be a story. At the end of the day, one of the two will always be questionable in their morality to add some conflict to the pairing/story. I would rather have conflict driven by character development rather than situational conflicts like the insane mother in law, or the classic rich/poor conflict. Because at that point, both characters are just victims to the circumstance and that's no fun. This way at least growing or not growing is in their control and nobody is sole victim of their circumstances, these are choices they are making or not making. As for Pranati being one dimensional, let's see where the story takes her graph. So far, I like that she is not a doormat and actually has long buried anger for Reynash that she hasn't let go of. These are two good things to have if she needs to get out from the one dimensional box.

I would ask the ekta which 18yo even wants to be mom in this era ?? And why every serials wants to show irresponsible so called pregnant karne wale papa so mahaan ?? Ek toh responsibility ni liya second no protection and third after 8 yr you are acting like chaddi baddi yaar ...

And regarding the kid sorry the child character could be better ...

What I don't understand is that 18yr old Pranati was obsessed with marriage and everything whereas Reyansh clearly told her that he was never interested in a committed relationship. Why was she so surprised when Reyansh told her to abort. Why did she thinks that he would change all of a sudden when she told him that she was pregnant.

I agree that Reyansh should have handled the situation better but he behaved like he was.

And coming to their most recent meeting. The reaction from both of them raised a lot of questions. Did they not talk or meet after she told him that she was pregnant? Did he not ask her whether she went through abortion? It was Pranati's decision to keep the baby even after knowing how Reyansh felt about it. She can't blame all her miseries on Reyansh. I too firmly believe that you should not become a parent just because you are pregnant. You have to be willing to take up such a big responsibility because a child is dependent on you.

Frankly speaking I don't believe that Pranati or Reyansh is wrong. Both have different view and opinions and thought process. And they are both right in their view.

As always completely agree with you noora👍🏼

I too find it regressive thought and pranati looks very unreal for me. Pranati and reyansh did sex by their own choice , reyansh's decision was he doesn't want child being collegian .

It was only pranati's decision to give a birth to that child and she was well aware that father is not ready for child or responsibility . I respect pranati's bold decision to give birth to a child specially when you are just teenager,no secure life,no secure job, no marriage and out of wedlock she dares to give birth to child in india.

She has all rights to feel hurt on reyansh's NO for child but reyansh has also all rights say NO(Way for No was very immature).

Pranati was ready to be mother that doesn't mean father must be ready for the same.

Sorry to say but it makes lots of difference when both the partner wants child and when only one partner want child. In real life when father consider it as just mistake then mother has remain two choices either raise that child single highhandedly or plan the baby when both partners are ready and it doesn't make father evil.

A detailed discussion is going on over a highly sensitive point. 👏

Both sides of arguments are to some extent correct and many points are there to ponder.

I am feeling it as an honor to be with you here, with such a matured viewpoints.

I am Madhuri.🤗

after reading all the points and everyone pov its more of pov there is no right and wrong to it

pranati accept the baby and take responsibility at the age of 18 years while reyansh refused becos he is not ready both are right in their perspective

pranati is not unreal some girls do get married at the age of 18 years old my cousin got married when she was 19 years old there is nothing to be unreal abt her there are girls like her though small percentage and also in this era too some girls becomes mother in their teens and takes responsibility its all abt perspective and taking responsibility noone is right or wrong but reyansh could have handle in a better way..

‘Ello. I understand what you mean - in fact except for tv shows and books, I’ve seldom seen girls in India being really excited for an unmarried pregnancy. Outside of India, it’s still taboo, but not unheard of. So, her excitement was something I didn’t understand.

I’ve been married for quite a few years now, but I met my husband in medical college and we dated for 9 years before we tied the knot. Needless to say, not just those years before marriage, but even the first few after, every late period had us both in sweats. The thing is, the first time we even kissed, we talked about what we both needed, what we would do if our relationship went forward, what we both wanted to do in case things went....where Pranati and Reyansh were. And we were the same age as them when we first met, so if they weren’t on the same page, they shouldn’t have been together in the first place.
Second, I’ve been a doctor for long enough to tell you that the first reaction of any 18 year old unwed girl to a surprise pregnancy is generally sheer panic and terror. The thing is, I’m not saying that those mothers don’t love their children or their partners, but the reality is hard. Reyansh’s morality should be questioned, no doubt. And I completely agree about taking responsibility. The girl didn’t become pregnant on her own. But trust me, most teenagers in college would come to the same conclusion as him. I’ve known at least 7 people in my college who had to have abortions secretly! The couple stayed together after it sometimes, and parted sometimes. That’s the reality. But were they both actually ready for a long term commitment?
The thing is that morally Reyansh may be wrong, but Pranati’s reaction should be questioned too. Abortion is too controversial of a topic to come to a conclusion on, but the least the show should do is make it a little realistic. The plot is already improbable, at least give us relatable scenes at important junctures. Like show us her panic, his refusal to help her, at least that might give us a clearer character graph.

Originally posted by: natkhat_angel

‘Ello. I understand what you mean - in fact except for tv shows and books, I’ve seldom seen girls in India being really excited for an unmarried pregnancy. Outside of India, it’s still taboo, but not unheard of. So, her excitement was something I didn’t understand.

I’ve been married for quite a few years now, but I met my husband in medical college and we dated for 9 years before we tied the knot. Needless to say, not just those years before marriage, but even the first few after, every late period had us both in sweats. The thing is, the first time we even kissed, we talked about what we both needed, what we would do if our relationship went forward, what we both wanted to do in case things went....where Pranati and Reyansh were. And we were the same age as them when we first met, so if they weren’t on the same page, they shouldn’t have been together in the first place.
Second, I’ve been a doctor for long enough to tell you that the first reaction of any 18 year old unwed girl to a surprise pregnancy is generally sheer panic and terror. The thing is, I’m not saying that those mothers don’t love their children or their partners, but the reality is hard. Reyansh’s morality should be questioned, no doubt. And I completely agree about taking responsibility. The girl didn’t become pregnant on her own. But trust me, most teenagers in college would come to the same conclusion as him. I’ve known at least 7 people in my college who had to have abortions secretly! The couple stayed together after it sometimes, and parted sometimes. That’s the reality. But were they both actually ready for a long term commitment?
The thing is that morally Reyansh may be wrong, but Pranati’s reaction should be questioned too. Abortion is too controversial of a topic to come to a conclusion on, but the least the show should do is make it a little realistic. The plot is already improbable, at least give us relatable scenes at important junctures. Like show us her panic, his refusal to help her, at least that might give us a clearer character graph.

@bold...i totally agree we need to know more of the aftermath