New ArShi FF: Birds of a Feather Link to Thread 2 on Pg. 1 [20/04/'20] - Page 81

Originally posted by: p4peppa

I have been meaning to write this.... About pressure from parents to choose the career of their choice. In my case, it was different. I followed blindly in my sister's footsteps and chose medical side and failed in PMT. I have made all bad career choices and my parents never interfered once. We were always given the freedom to do what we want. Yet sometimes I wish if my parents had steered me towards my inherent talent, things would have been lot more satisfying. Or may be blaming parents comes easy 😀. Now being a parent to a teenage daughter, I want to guide her what is the best career path for her, but also don't want to pressurise her. Our choices don't match. I know her nature, her personality and know what is good for her. Only solace is that in this country, you can be a scuba instuctor one day and with suitable qualifications, you can be an IT professional the another day. So if her choice doesn't bear fruits, she still has good options to carve something nice.

Myra does sound selfish from the word go. But it's all Arnav's fault. If we give leeway to people to become God in our life, they truly start believing they ARE the God. But I grudgingly respect him too, to be so in love and doing everything to keep Myra in life, even at the cost of his self respect. Now I understand his behaviour better. And the devastation he felt when he got the news about abortion. .... We can't switch off our emotions just because situations have changed. Morally it is wrong for him to pine for Myra after being married to Khushi. But as I said, we can't switch off emtions in a second. And Arnav is way too emotional person to not feel any pain for his unborn baby.

You are an amazing writer... Did I tell you?

I loved your comment especially whether parents guiding the children is good or bad and where does one draw the line.

Originally posted by: canapoem

I loved your comment especially whether parents guiding the children is good or bad and where does one draw the line.

The best parents can do is be a guide and be a voice of reason. You can't dictate to the child what they should do but you can help them find their path. Sometimes though the children don't want to hear anything and you just have to leave them alone for a bit.

My parents never dictated anything to me. They knew I was responsible and they just let it be. They were not exactly in a position to guide me either but knew that I would make the right decisions. Some kids need more guidance than others. Some know what they want out of life and some need help figuring it out.

Nice uodate..glad arnav is not with myra anymore..arnav is good without myra. She is selfish..but arnav has trully loved her thats why he has not forget her ..waiting for arnav to see the difference between myra and khushi..btw when are you going to update next

I fully agree to what u had mentioned in first paragraph, very well put

I feel, if a parent knows what their child is capable of, they can find better ways to make their child understand, to get the child's opinion, and put across why they feel that their child is capable of doing something, same time leave the final decision to their child as finally the child is going to live with it

Some parents can afford to leave their child on their own, could be financially very sound

Not all parents can afford that, some may have financial constraints or medical reasons which could corner them to force their child, (like job taken by the child due to sudden death of the parent, or getting his dads job)

Originally posted by: coderlady

The best parents can do is be a guide and be a voice of reason. You can't dictate to the child what they should do but you can help them find their path. Sometimes though the children don't want to hear anything and you just have to leave them alone for a bit.

My parents never dictated anything to me. They knew I was responsible and they just let it be. They were not exactly in a position to guide me either but knew that I would make the right decisions. Some kids need more guidance than others. Some know what they want out of life and some need help figuring it out.

Wow interesting ..loved d update

Wow...wonderful story...waiting for the story to unfold..

You are an amazing writer

I appreciate all the time and effort you put into this story. 😚

Back to the track, I can't see Myra as selfish or at the bad side here as she wanted everything a girl asks for in this life ... normal family life . I believe Arnav is the coz for all the misunderstandings here.

Going to read the chapter again. 😊

I am struggling to decide who is right and who is wrong here. Each person's stance can be justified when you look at their circumstance. And I include Myra here. Kudos to your character development skills!

Originally posted by: Arshi67

I am struggling to decide who is right and who is wrong here. Each person's stance can be justified when you look at their circumstance. And I include Myra here. Kudos to your character development skills!

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Originally posted by: cheers2all

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