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Help me understand

Rohit is angry when he thought Sona told Pooja secret to mom. He did trust her and in his pov she told her mom.

He is fine the next day saying I trust you

Why is he so angry with prenup. He know that she is not money minded and she hid only to make sure he is not hurt.

Sona did hide stuff and she is wrong but Rohit did as well so that she doesn’t get hurt be it be Pari or Rani or puji. We know how he is guilty in Rani track.

He must be super angry with his wife but dude she is your wife at the end of the day. How can you humiliate in public considering precap is true.

He might come to know of 1cr lie and is behaving like that?

There are so many things he said to Sona which should not be said. She is at last his family your love your life.

We know finally it is Ronakshi endgame but cannot take it. Cannot see my babies crying, love them and they are Ronakshi and not Rohit and Sona

Originally posted by: if_mm

Actually that way, Sona has been quite consistent. She has been shown to trust or open up to many side characters in the show ... Raima, Rani, Ajit, Sumit, Vimmy, Mahesh, Ravi even before. But if you notice, she doesn't do so with even her own mother (she didn't talk through about her decision to quit or just let her know she's using up the FD). Not sure if I'm over analyzing things ... but it gives me 2 reasons why she would do so:

1. Probably Sona deeply feels inadequate or insecure or worthy of love. She 's looking at opportunities to prove herself in front of Rohit... and if she involves him, that feeling of accomplishment is gone.

2. Her childhood trauma of dad leaving her, her mother's money focused upbringing, or first engagement breaking up - a fear of judgement or abandonment causing difficulty in emotional intimacy with Rohit.

I'm starting to think her aiming to please everyone in the family, and not being intimate or being honest with Rohit as you'd expect from a typical wife also might come due to these reasons.

Very well put up 👏.

@bold: i can relate to this because this is what i go through n trust me childhood trauma does a lot of damage to your personality. I know what abandonment by ur own ppl makes u feel. I am myself gng through such situation n i know how it feels.

Originally posted by: Virk45

Very well put up 👏.

@bold: i can relate to this because this is what i go through n trust me childhood trauma does a lot of damage to your personality. I know what abandonment by ur own ppl makes u feel. I am myself gng through such situation n i know how it feels.

Sorry that you've been through the rough ... 🤗.... Yes, our personality changes and each situation makes us stronger, more resilient and immune...and also gives us some natural defences in different forms ... probably reduced trust and intimacy like what Sona is exhibiting.

Many a times, I've found it's easier to open up to strangers (particularly during travel) since you don't have to worry about a relationship to manage later ...

Originally posted by: if_mm

Actually that way, Sona has been quite consistent. She has been shown to trust or open up to many side characters in the show ... Raima, Rani, Ajit, Sumit, Vimmy, Mahesh, Ravi even before. But if you notice, she doesn't do so with even her own mother (she didn't talk through about her decision to quit or just let her know she's using up the FD). Not sure if I'm over analyzing things ... but it gives me 2 reasons why she would do so:

1. Probably Sona deeply feels inadequate or insecure or worthy of love. She 's looking at opportunities to prove herself in front of Rohit... and if she involves him, that feeling of accomplishment is gone.

2. Her childhood trauma of dad leaving her, her mother's money focused upbringing, or first engagement breaking up - a fear of judgement or abandonment causing difficulty in emotional intimacy with Rohit.

I'm starting to think her aiming to please everyone in the family, and not being intimate or being honest with Rohit as you'd expect from a typical wife also might come due to these reasons.

I have said a few things similar to this but the way u said actually made so many things clear! This actually sums up her whole psychology!!!

Very well explained!!!

Originally posted by: justchillalways

Help me understand

Rohit is angry when he thought Sona told Pooja secret to mom. He did trust her and in his pov she told her mom.

He is fine the next day saying I trust you

Why is he so angry with prenup. He know that she is not money minded and she hid only to make sure he is not hurt.

Sona did hide stuff and she is wrong but Rohit did as well so that she doesn’t get hurt be it be Pari or Rani or puji. We know how he is guilty in Rani track.

He must be super angry with his wife but dude she is your wife at the end of the day. How can you humiliate in public considering precap is true.

He might come to know of 1cr lie and is behaving like that?

There are so many things he said to Sona which should not be said. She is at last his family your love your life.

We know finally it is Ronakshi endgame but cannot take it. Cannot see my babies crying, love them and they are Ronakshi and not Rohit and Sona

Prenup is not small. That is the basis of his marriage and now he feels his entire marriage is standing on a lie and cheat. He is bound to feel the way he is. He will eventually come around. But Sona needs to realise that Prenup was wrong to be hidden, that questions their entire existence together. It’s not about whether she wants money or not, he clearly said he is not interested to know about the original prenup. All he cares about is she signed it before their marriage and took the decision all by herself over that she lied and hid it from him.

This time his problem is that she is hiding and lying. Which is wrong. She has done her share of wrongs.

I don’t support her being humiliated in public or being manhandled. And that is wrong no matter what. Especially a public humiliation.

Originally posted by: if_mm

Actually that way, Sona has been quite consistent. She has been shown to trust or open up to many side characters in the show ... Raima, Rani, Ajit, Sumit, Vimmy, Mahesh, Ravi even before. But if you notice, she doesn't do so with even her own mother (she didn't talk through about her decision to quit or just let her know she's using up the FD). Not sure if I'm over analyzing things ... but it gives me 2 reasons why she would do so:

1. Probably Sona deeply feels inadequate or insecure or worthy of love. She 's looking at opportunities to prove herself in front of Rohit... and if she involves him, that feeling of accomplishment is gone.

2. Her childhood trauma of dad leaving her, her mother's money focused upbringing, or first engagement breaking up - a fear of judgement or abandonment causing difficulty in emotional intimacy with Rohit.

I'm starting to think her aiming to please everyone in the family, and not being intimate or being honest with Rohit as you'd expect from a typical wife also might come due to these reasons.

Word by word perfect 👏

I have always been wanting to explain this. Her reasons for being mahaan and selfless roots deep into her past. It’s easier said than done, she has always a traumatic childhood. And now she fears to break her family. Not to mention her fear of being judged and questioned. With people she is not attached to she can share as she has no fear of being judged.

Originally posted by: if_mm

Sorry that you've been through the rough ... 🤗.... Yes, our personality changes and each situation makes us stronger, more resilient and immune...and also gives us some natural defences in different forms ... probably reduced trust and intimacy like what Sona is exhibiting.

Many a times, I've found it's easier to open up to strangers (particularly during travel) since you don't have to worry about a relationship to manage later ...

@bold: yes it happens

I can understand where is she coming from n her extra efforts to keep everyone happy. But i hope makers address this bcuz by doing this u end up draining urself both mentally n emotionally. I m nt saying she is right bt i can relate to her. I have drained myself by taking responsibility of things which were not my concern and in all this i have completely lost myself n my strength. From past 2 yrs i m in depression n i have severe ocd. I m just struck at home when it's crucial time for my career.

Originally posted by: if_mm

Actually that way, Sona has been quite consistent. She has been shown to trust or open up to many side characters in the show ... Raima, Rani, Ajit, Sumit, Vimmy, Mahesh, Ravi even before. But if you notice, she doesn't do so with even her own mother (she didn't talk through about her decision to quit or just let her know she's using up the FD). Not sure if I'm over analyzing things ... but it gives me 2 reasons why she would do so:

1. Probably Sona deeply feels inadequate or insecure or worthy of love. She 's looking at opportunities to prove herself in front of Rohit... and if she involves him, that feeling of accomplishment is gone.

2. Her childhood trauma of dad leaving her, her mother's money focused upbringing, or first engagement breaking up - a fear of judgement or abandonment causing difficulty in emotional intimacy with Rohit.

I'm starting to think her aiming to please everyone in the family, and not being intimate or being honest with Rohit as you'd expect from a typical wife also might come due to these reasons.

One request for you.can to put this points by creating new thread.this will make people to understand sona in different light.

Originally posted by: Sree_mk

One request for you.can to put this points by creating new thread.this will make people to understand sona in different light.

dear can i share your points on twitter plz

Originally posted by: SonakshiA

dear can i share your points on twitter plz

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