Originally posted by: asmaanixx
I hope he does because as a viewer, I really have no idea why he loves her. Is it really because of Minnie? Or because she reminds him of his mother and Imarti? Or it just the sex and food at this point? I really want there to be something more deep and meaningful than that because I can't equate HS with shallow thinking or a hollowness of any kind. It just doesn't click for me.
I know he wants some sort of companionship but why did he expect this from Babita? Did he mistake her interpretation of the letters to be her tuning into his emotions? Or was it him trying to get redemption by giving Babita her second chance at marriage? His mother never got the husband that she deserved and ended up dying as a result of it. Since he already sees his mother in Babita, he can try to at least make her life right.
She never thought about HS. Not before the marriage and surely not after. By marrying him, she got everything. She got the house, she got his name, the benefits of having a police inspector as a husband (high reputation etc.), a share in his income, all his attention, the implied romance, a father for her daughter, matlab sab kuch. HS ko kya mila? The only thing he wanted (I presumed) was a woman who would love him entirely and be sensitive to his feelings. Someone who would care about him and take care of him.
I knew from how their wedding night played out that HS will never get the love that he rightly deserves. Woh toh bas Imarti de sakti thi. 😒
I also want to see that introspection. From what he says to Lala it's clear he's bothered by it. The physical comforts are a bonus, not the core of a marriage. HS has been married before and has experienced ALL of it, so he knows what's missing (not that he wouldn't if it were his first marriage). Whether he becomes a full-time joru ka ghulam or not, he's got too much depth of character to just be ok with this year after year. He's 37 now - zindagi bohot lambi hai. He can't even be a proper father to Minnie yet or raise her, and it's unfair to expect him to do that on his own. In many marriages, the couple becomes more of co-parents and less involved with each other, but I don't even see them being able to co-parent because they are both on completely different planes in this regard.
Yes, he is doing penance and over-compensating and if it means hurting himself and suffering in silence, he will. His conversation with Minnie when she apologized keeps coming to mind. I don't want him to become a martyr for this cause, PLEASE NO!
@bold, aptly put. Now that you've articulated, the contrast appears even more stark. 😔
It's one thing to be alone without a partner and another (worse situation) to have a spouse and still feel you are all alone. I don't want him to turn into this angry bitter man who has lost his enthusiasm for life and love. Minnie ka bapu hi ban ke reh jaye ga ke (if Babita even let's him do that)?
Yes, that wedding night scene about the sindoor ki dibbi and the way he looked at himself in the mirror with the realization that he has walked into a life of emotional umar quaid. Gur, that scene just pierces my heart every time. The finality of the closing the drawers and locking a part of himself away, perhaps for good, is just too much to bear.
Yes, he's been making mistakes, but none are so great that he cannot be forgiven or that he doesn't deserve love and care. Sure, having Minnie is great, but she's a daughter she can only help him so much. A companion in the true sense is what his heart always sought and I do think he was right that he could love no other the way he loved Imarti and none can love him the way she did. That balcony scene of theirs was proof enough.
It should have been his second chance too but life has dealt him an even bigger blow. What he thought was a ray of sunshine in the darkness of his life, turned out to be a fleeting thing.
My heart's breaking at this thought.
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