Originally posted by: Anjali9988
This is one question which is intriguing topic of debate.
& This question also reflects what kind of open minded , understanding person you are in real life as well. Bravo N di 🙌🏻
So Now coming to the question, & before going to others thoughts, let me tell you my case ------
See Di , I live in India. A country where mostly all families consider a Virgin girl To be Necessary requirement.
You said having sex or no sex before marriage is purely Out of choice not a compulsion______
But here it's a very much compulsion .
In these so called, narrow minded socities & families, this is being instilled in our minds right from childhood that your virginity is the most important thing than anything else. You don't believe it but it's true , that some parent's even says that to their daughters , not to their Son's at all ...... die, if you lose your virginity before marriage or those monster parents kill their daughters with their own hands.
Such horrifying incidents occurs in many parts , especially in India.
& The same thing is not applicable to Men's. In our society , a man can sleep with multiple women , enjoys sexual pleasure before marriage & it's all ok. No one is going to raise a finger on him , asking him why you lose your virginity before marriage. No one , not at all. For them , men can do it & it's all fine , they glorify it but if the same a girl do , leave the outsiders , her family , her own parents will disregard her !
That's the double pathetic mindset of brown families which is downright horrible & wrong..
While I don't believe nor endorses this pathetic mentality. Having sex before or after marriage is purely based on one's consent. Judging a person on his/her virginity status is the most wrong way to judge. This is outright wrong & really needs to change today !!
But there are also some persons, who don't want to do it with anyone. Including me too. & It's not only about that we want to save ourselves for the special someone. No it's not entirely that.
It's also because, the surrounding we came, to an extent it's been instilled in us & also the Thoughts we hold as a person.
If I talk about my thinking , then I believe that sex/lovemaking isn't only an act of sexual pleasure. It's more than that. It is an deep connection of two people's heart & mind. I often wonder this that how could someone so easily do it with anyone ?
NO OFFENCE TO ANYONE ! We all are different so our thinking is also different , given that.
It's just what I think . For me , if I don't feel any sort of emotional attachment with the other , how could I do it ? I believe & consider , that Emotional attachment is must needed & necessary as well before proceeding the physical intimacy. I prefer to die without doing it than with someone where's there's no kind of emotional attachment !
The question you asked N di is very intriguing & it presents various Thoughts & perceptions as we are all different & so our thoughts as well.
But ........ The most important thing we should ALL remember that -RESPECT each other's Thoughts & LIVE & LET LIVE !
Love you di 😘❤️
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