A Step Too Far - Aa Jao Saarey - Page 18

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

No prob.

As much as we want that, it won't happen. HS should focus more on his work. We've already seen hints of it suffering due to him constantly running back home.

He is gonna get fired and then he can sit at home and mediate between the mother and daughter. It is to be noted they do not know how to communicate effectively. Earlier this fact wasn’t noticeable as they were living in joint family and from there into HS house and very soon after HS and NB got involved sorting out their issue due to lack of meaningful conversation. All they talked about was food or other people and it was okay. As soon as it came to each other they were clueless.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

So? Just because Babita said that to Minnie doesn't give her the license to do the same to Babes. Both of them were wrong to do this to each other.

I still don't fully understand the whole guilt narrative. I'll have to go back and check it out but it's still not a valid reason for this fight between them. It was really poor.

That's the problem though. She's soon to be an adult. She needs to know how to treat and speak to people with respect and understand that not everything can go her way. If she doesn't learn this lesson fast then it'll do her a lot of harm in the long run, especially when she goes to get a job.

Besides, if she wants Babes to be independent, then she also has to give back those motherly duties back to her. Babita has to be the mother and Minnie has to be the child. She needs to get on board with this equation or she'll constantly be in a state of oh woe is me.

that wont happen easily as mini said since age 4 she has bothered about babes and not her pain. equations dont change like that overnight. It will do good to mini to go away for a few years to study and then come back. babita is stifling her right now. Look at the way she was just blabbering to mini. what do you know, you are just a teenager couldnt she just speak calmly. Any one will get irritated. she cant suddenly be mini i need you, mini helping her with business, mini doing her shaadi preps and suddenly what do you know. she cannot dismiss her like that. Babita has to learn to be the mother first. the way she behaves a matured mother wont behave

Originally posted by: najma123

Yeah soulmate was dumb shit to say. 😆 i am so bloody done with this word itself. There's another show with this same crap reiterated. 😆

LMAO, I have zero patience with this concept no matter where it's applied. I don't give two flying effs about soulmates. It's one of those few things that will tick me off like there's no tomorrow. And the way it was handled here? Well, the less said, the better. 😆

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

But Minnie didn't ask Babita to bring the Khuranas home and Babita never told Minnie that she wasn't okay with Mickey staying back. The problem here is that despite knowing that Babita isn't okay with the Khuranas, Minnie never asked Babita if she's okay with this. Also, Babita never spoke to Minnie about not wanting Mickey there; she told that to HS. The lack of communication is becoming a big problem between all of them since they're all running on presumptions.

LMAO, bin maange thappad khaa liya. Ab party toh banti hai. 😆

Mini very well knew Babita wasn't okay. Her hopefully to herself proved the point. She wanted Mickey to stay and avoided communication with Babita on the topic, incase her strong doubts get validated in word. She gave massive cover ups on Babita's behalf when she knew she was wrong.

Don't tell me she had no idea on Babes not being okay with Mickey.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

LMAO, I have zero patience with this concept no matter where it's applied. I don't give two flying effs about soulmates. It's one of those few things that will tick me off like there's no tomorrow. And the way it was handled here? Well, the less said, the better. 😆

Not that it was handled there in a good manner either. Soulmate maane siyappa🤣🤣

Originally posted by: naq5

Like? taking care of daadu beeji without babitas knowledge or about missing entrance exam for babitas shoes

Babita wouldnt have been here had mini not got her out of that house. even in her business it was mini that supported her. She was the one who pushed babita to stand up for herself. supported her when no one did. How many children could have done that. its because she is strong headed. dint she handle the wedding preparations all alone with her friends. Hasnt she been open to babita about her friends. there was no reason for babita to doubt mini like that as naim bi said.

it's the same. Minni called her selfish for standing up. For herself and being a good wife... Just bcoz dadu beeji shouldn't be left alone... And made Babita to on guilt trip... And now questioning her feelings for HS....

If she have to do all this at last then what's the use of her getting Babita from the 17 yrs life if she wants her to sent her again there...

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

The word soulmate has got creepy meanings for me now. Mickey today looked like he didn't want that proximity with Mini just after Babita told those nasty things to them.

Mini was totally forcing herself on them today which is still okay.

Soulmate is basically getting a license to do whatever you want with anyone and getting away with it, without feeling committed or responsible about it.

I felt that too and just physically, emotionally too. He may not blame Minnie but he was right when he said that Babes didn't want him to stay back. For MiMi to continue meeting behind her back isn't going to solve the problem. If anything, it'll just make her more mad and not really understand them or him.

LMAO, this is how soulmates are generally depicted in media. These two are soulmates, so it's okay that other people's hearts get broken or if they get fcked over in general.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

No. Like telling her mother the apparent reality of own her relationship. Like expecting Babita to behave at her whims and fancies. Like trivializing Babita's problems and making a huge deal about her own. Like never considering HS as her own father yet expecting him to treat her like his princess daughter. And this will go on.

In no way I'm belittling Mini's contribution to Babita's life and career. Its huge. Both personal and professional. But what after that? Just because she's helped her mother a lot, she can well go ahead and say anything?

Babita was wrong to compare and say whatever she did. But Mini was equally wrong. Babita will realise and learn and grow but what will Mini do? Self victimise herself and cut off ties with everyone, drowned in imaginary insecurities. It's a pity actually. To even think that Mini is strong headed is a pitiful thought. She's not strong. She projects herself as strong but she's clearly not.

sorry to interrupt ...

but , self victimization mein to babita bhi kuch kam nahi hai.....😆

Originally posted by: kriya_12

sorry to interrupt ...

but , self victimization mein to babita bhi kuch kam nahi hai.....😆

Arey but at the end she acknowledges it and accepts her faults and ego and insecurity and whatever and moves on. But Mini madam? No acceptance. No apology. Just harping on about problems.

Originally posted by: naq5

but the lie for preet was said in front of babita. mini has maintained honesty with her except for the time when she went to see off her grand parents to the hospital. She knows all of minis friends and that is a good thing because some kids wont tell their parents that also. Does babita realise the last time she dint trust mini she got into depression she was scared to tell the college incident and was depressed because she had no friends and her mom dint allow her to be friends with the only friend she had. It was not just because she was away from daadu beeji it was babitas mistrust also that caused the depression. Mini likes to be honest with her mother not being honest and open with her troubles her.

Nope!

In the beginning of the show, Minnie has lied to Babita many times. Whether it was about her selling her scooter, wanting to pawn off the jewelry to make some extra cash, the incident with Manmeet, or her failing to complete her entrance exams so that she can win some shoes - they're all incidents when Minnie has hid things or has blatantly lied to Babita.

Babita mistrusting Minnie wasn't the sole reason for her going into depression. It was an accumulation of various things that took a toll on her. The way the whole divorce went down, the financial problems, the Manmeet incident, being isolated from friends and family, losing stability in her home - it was everything and more. It's not just Babita's fault.