When the show first started I was sympathetic towards Babita because it seemed like she loved her daughter dearly. But as the show developed it became clear that the adult in the mother-daughter relationship was the teenage daughter. Mini has been extremely unlucky in the parental department. A abusive crook for a dad, and an overly dependent (to the point of selfishness) and possessive mother.
Mini being a strong support system for her mother is one thing but having her worry about their financial situation and wellbeing is too much for a 16/17 year old. It was wrong of Babita to have burdened her child with her adult problems.
Also, Babita putting her daughter in the position where Mini feels like she is losing her grandparents is a terrible thing to do - and yes is selfish. Whatever, Babita's relationship with her in-laws she has no business influencing Mini's perception of them. Mini deserves the freedom to make up her own mind about her family without being poisoned against them or being forced to take sides.
With regards to yesterday's kerfuffle, Babita was wrong on so many levels:
1. She chose to question her daughter based on the words of a known troublemakers. If tomorrow Mini and she have a trust deficit - Babita will be solely responsible for its demise.
2. She embarrassed her child in front of third parties - if she was truly worried about Mini's behaviour the appropriate way to have gone about it would have been to take her daughter aside and spoken to her privately about her concerns. That includes listening to what her daughter has to say about those concerns.
3. She essentially called her child a woman with loose morals - a cheat. Based on that statement alone Babita would deserve to lose any relationship she has with Mini.
Having friends who are boys, hugging them, and having a close friendly relationship with them doesn't make their relationship inappropriate. And at any rate if there was a fear that it was, there were better ways of handing it.
Parents don't deserve respect just because they gave birth to us. Respect is a two way street - one has to give respect to earn it. Babita in many ways has perpetrated emotional abuse against her daughter. That's not to say that Mini has no faults - but she is a child (teenager). She has to be taught boundaries, and be given a safe to fail space where she can express herself and her understanding of the world - where her views could be challenged by loving and understanding parents. She is at an age where she can be reasoned with - but for that Babita needs to respect her daughter as person with thoughts, feelings and opinions. Honestly, HS does a better job parenting Mini than Babita at this point.
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