Originally posted by: asmaanixx
He lost her trust. Yes he apologized, but I don't think he got that trust back. Whatever relationship they had, whatever closeness they shared, it's just not there anymore.
I don't know. Ashok did A LOT of shit to her that wasn't right and he's her real father. Despite the fact that he was MIA for about 17 years, his actions still shook her to the core and affected her on a really deep level.
I see it as being the same with HS. When it comes to her parents, Minnie doesn't see them in the same way society is conditioned to. Firstly, she calls her mother Babes and has more of a friend/friend rishta rather than a mother-daughter. Moreover, Minnie's been more of a mother to Babes as well. She never had a baap-beti rishta either so she doesn't really have a basis to go off on. Yes, she has seen father figures in her life, but they're figures. They're not really her dad. And HS has always been an uncle to her. Yes, he has gone above and beyond than what a father does, but is that the same for her? She has referred to herself as his beti many times and may have even begun to believe in it, but the CD incident may have made her think otherwise. Maybe she doesn't need a father in her life. Maybe she's just okay with having HS as her Hanuman Uncle - her guide, her mentor, her confidante.
And I really don't think it's fair that HS needs to constantly be making sacrifices to prove his love. It gives me the impression like his love is being cheapened. It's the same thing with Babita. Why does he need to constantly prove his love for her? Either she trusts him and goes ahead with the relationship or not. If Minnie doesn't want a dad, then make that loud and clear so that he doesn't waste his life constantly trying to prove himself to her.
What does he need to get that trust back, besides a full on confrontation where they air their grievances and insecurities and promise to make a fresh start? Or some other major discovery about his past traumas where Minnie understands his fears again? Woh to hone se araha.
Your point is key. He has gone above and beyond even what a father does. Is that why she's unable to see him as just a father who loves her to pieces, because he's too much a hero for her? As you rightly mentioned, she has no basis to go off on and no one else to really compare with because HS is so different from Dadu or Ashok.
I think that Minnie would be totally justified if she didn't want a father or didn't want him as a father, but she needs to make it clear to him. For that she needs to introspect, but I don't think she can ignore the fact that HS does consider her his daughter. She knows it very well. It doesn't mean that he's a perfect parent but he's learning, just as new fathers do when the raise a newborn without prior parenting experience. After his apology and hug, did she not forgive him sincerely? Or does she not even realize that perhaps her trust in him is broken, or shaken?
I would hate to see him work with the wrong assumption that she too wants to be his daughter and wants to have this bond, only to find out later she never wanted that. Twice in a row would destroy him. She's part of his jeene ki aakhri umeed but he is no such thing for her, and he has already started to see this discrepancy, the fact that his life would be meaningless without her but that she could very well carry on without him just fine. Oh my goodness!
I, too, don't want him to have to prove his love over and over again and yes it feels like it is being cheapened. I felt that today and as well as on many other occasions. Yes, he made a major mistake but does he not deserve a single chance if she can give others chances? I agree, he shouldn't waste his life constantly trying to prove himself. Knowing him, he won't. He will reach that breaking point one day and completely withdraw. We saw glimpses of that in the hospital scene and the morning after. Imagine that being magnified.
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