Arhi SS: WITHERED!! (T#6) New Thread Link pg 1 - Page 29

Please accept my apologies for the delay in commenting. I had guests at my house didn’t have time to log in . I was able to read the chapter today. Coming to the story how soon we have reached the thirteenth chapter.

This chapter mainly focused on the high pitch battle between father and son and wife/bahu caught in a cross fire between them. I think the battle lines were always drawn between father and son but this time but this time the ugly spat between the two became public and Arnav had blown the trumpet he was waiting for the right time to hit back at the Senior Kapoor .Waiting to see the repercussions of the fight between them.

I couldn’t control my anger when I read about shyam and viraj rejoicing after Arnav’s statements about the Kapoor’s was published in the papers. The duo have got the job done without dirtying their hands by making Arnav their scape goat.

Now Arnav thinks he has taken revenge on his father for using his mom for which he was thirsty. But looks like somewhere in the in long run in his enthusiasm and thirst of revenge this matter can cause the couple to drift apart .Kushi being a lawyer working for the kapoor’s many such situations can arise she may be confused as to whom she has to support father or son.

Arnav can feel guilty of dragging his mother’s name in public which can cause a conflict between shyam and Arnav. But right now Arnav has not realized he has been forced to do things which are against his principles so also he can’t refuse Shyam as he is indebted to Shyam. wonder how the duo are going to use Aman to make Arnav do things for them.

Waiting to read what happens next What is Aakash’s next step

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

Gosh, dont listen to her.

I will post it again for everyone. Its al redone now 😊

Thank you🤗🤗

Doing happy dance💃💃💃💃

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

On the question of love and chastity-

How do people equate being a virgin to being in love? Isnt it hypocritical, especially in closed knit societies?

Why should the burden of being chaste be fulfilled by only the women? Dont men fall under that purview?

Yes, if people want to preserve themselves for the special one, its purely out of choice and not a compulsion.

And, it shouldn't be imposed or sought, it should only be endured out of love, for both men and women.

Which brings me to the question of innate thoughtfulness, why was Khushi and ASR's chastity equated to their love, and was a hot topic of discussion, to begin with ?

Any thoughts on this ??

Wow N

What a topic for debate.

This question will fetch you many diff answers .

If you talk about my Gen and earlier, being a virgin was like automatically drilled into our hearts by what we saw in our families. Both men and women were virgins till they married. In those times in many societies, love was a myth and marriage was mostly arranged hence there was always a stigma that being a non virgin would endanger married life, for a girl atleast. Hence more than choice it was out of fear that being a virgin was self enforced. Moreover here, preserving one's virginity to one's spouse was considered as an ultimate act of love and hence physical intimacy was out of bounds. There would be a fear in girl's mind whether her boyfriend is out to only be physical with her ir he has any intentions of marriage.

The times gave changed now. Nowadays both girls and boys have realised that they are more free to Express their preferences. And the myth of 'remaining pure for your spouse's doesn't exist anymore. Unlike earlier times science has taken precedence over emotions and physical needs over emotional ones.

So to cut things short, if your Khufhi in Wedded II is an Indian girl if this gen, a confident self made person, I wouldn't out ut past her to have lost her virginity to someone as part of growing up and being curious and treating physical intimacy as a normal facet of life till she meets the virgin Arnav who changes her entire perception about the same. Maybe Arnav has remained virgin out of choice as intimacy, for him is an emotional act too rather than being a plain physical one.

In closed societies it is un-thought of even now to think that one could just change partners if not very often without having long lasting emotional feelings.

The problem in any case arises when one becomes attached to the other but the other wants to move on.

Whichever society it is, afterall every person has a heart that breaks, right?

Even the girls that wear chote kapde and move around with boys also are pained when their Dil is trampled by the boy whom she cant live without.

In a nutshell yes in some societies virginity is still equated with love and marriage and in some it is not

Originally posted by: sivatharshini

Whaaa N what a question it is I'm not sure I have the answer for your question sorry but I totally agree with you.

Darla

That was an easy way out. 😆

Come on, I believe you can do better.

Originally posted by: abivicky86

Please accept my apologies for the delay in commenting. I had guests at my house didn’t have time to log in . I was able to read the chapter today. Coming to the story how soon we have reached the thirteenth chapter.

This chapter mainly focused on the high pitch battle between father and son and wife/bahu caught in a cross fire between them. I think the battle lines were always drawn between father and son but this time but this time the ugly spat between the two became public and Arnav had blown the trumpet he was waiting for the right time to hit back at the Senior Kapoor .Waiting to see the repercussions of the fight between them.

I couldn’t control my anger when I read about shyam and viraj rejoicing after Arnav’s statements about the Kapoor’s was published in the papers. The duo have got the job done without dirtying their hands by making Arnav their scape goat.

Now Arnav thinks he has taken revenge on his father for using his mom for which he was thirsty. But looks like somewhere in the in long run in his enthusiasm and thirst of revenge this matter can cause the couple to drift apart .Kushi being a lawyer working for the kapoor’s many such situations can arise she may be confused as to whom she has to support father or son.

Arnav can feel guilty of dragging his mother’s name in public which can cause a conflict between shyam and Arnav. But right now Arnav has not realized he has been forced to do things which are against his principles so also he can’t refuse Shyam as he is indebted to Shyam. wonder how the duo are going to use Aman to make Arnav do things for them.

Waiting to read what happens next What is Aakash’s next step

Hi Meera

Pls dont apologise. Its absolutely fine for you to take a while.

Coming to your comment, well Shyam is revelling in momentary happiness, but he definitely is not anti Arnav. He is selfish and will pay the price of it.

But the biggest blow will be to Arhi and their relationship.

Originally posted by: srain10

Thank you🤗🤗

Doing happy dance💃💃💃💃

Your welcome Sonal.

Now scroll up and gimme your views on the question 😉

Originally posted by: KRISGEET

Wow N

What a topic for debate.

This question will fetch you many diff answers .

If you talk about my Gen and earlier, being a virgin was like automatically drilled into our hearts by what we saw in our families. Both men and women were virgins till they married. In those times in many societies, love was a myth and marriage was mostly arranged hence there was always a stigma that being a non virgin would endanger married life, for a girl atleast. Hence more than choice it was out of fear that being a virgin was self enforced. Moreover here, preserving one's virginity to one's spouse was considered as an ultimate act of love and hence physical intimacy was out of bounds. There would be a fear in girl's mind whether her boyfriend is out to only be physical with her ir he has any intentions of marriage.

The times gave changed now. Nowadays both girls and boys have realised that they are more free to Express their preferences. And the myth of 'remaining pure for your spouse's doesn't exist anymore. Unlike earlier times science has taken precedence over emotions and physical needs over emotional ones.

So to cut things short, if your Khufhi in Wedded II is an Indian girl if this gen, a confident self made person, I wouldn't out ut past her to have lost her virginity to someone as part of growing up and being curious and treating physical intimacy as a normal facet of life till she meets the virgin Arnav who changes her entire perception about the same. Maybe Arnav has remained virgin out of choice as intimacy, for him is an emotional act too rather than being a plain physical one.

In closed societies it is un-thought of even now to think that one could just change partners if not very often without having long lasting emotional feelings.

The problem in any case arises when one becomes attached to the other but the other wants to move on.

Whichever society it is, afterall every person has a heart that breaks, right?

Even the girls that wear chote kapde and move around with boys also are pained when their Dil is trampled by the boy whom she cant live without.

In a nutshell yes in some societies virginity is still equated with love and marriage and in some it is not

Now that's experience speaking and boy, do I respect you for it, or what?

Thank you for highlighting the difference between the various societies, and the notions that vary from generation to generation.

Like I said, as long as men and women decide to remain virgin out of their own will, or out of love and emotions, its acceptable.

But when it becomes a norm, its patronising.

That said, young girls when continue to remain virgins, out of fear of society, its not an acceptable norm, yet, we cannot deny that such biases/ vices exist.

Btw, your thoughts on our very own Arnav and Khushi from the show and their notions about virginity. 😉

In my honest opinion, virginity is highly overrated. Isn't it better to be someone's last rather than their first? And sometimes you have to kiss more than 1 frog to find your prince charming. Just saying 😆

You are absolutely right. If someone wants to stay "untouched" until they find true love, that's absolutely fine. It's a choice. But to force it on someone or expect it from another, is unfair. It's like blaming a person for cheating even before you knew them. And this applies to both, men and women. Why should the rules be different for either? Is it because men have no "barriers" to break 😋

With that said, I do not support infidelity. That is a unpardonable offence in my book. But virginity should not be misunderstood for love or loyalty.

Hope I made sense LOL 🙈

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

On the question of love and chastity-

How do people equate being a virgin to being in love? Isnt it hypocritical, especially in closed knit societies?

Why should the burden of being chaste be fulfilled by only the women? Dont men fall under that purview?

Yes, if people want to preserve themselves for the special one, its purely out of choice and not a compulsion.

And, it shouldn't be imposed or sought, it should only be endured out of love, for both men and women.

Which brings me to the question of innate thoughtfulness, why was Khushi and ASR's chastity equated to their love, and was a hot topic of discussion, to begin with ?

Any thoughts on this ??

From centuries, women were made to uphold the values (dictated by some people at that time) and men were made to take care of the family. As a bread winner he was given lot of liberties (or may be he has taken) and woman still remained the upholder of values.

There were zero or very less incidents where a woman remarried after her partner's death compared to a man who has remarried after his partner's death. And a man always preferred a virgin to remarry.

While having relationships, if woman gets pregnant, it has repercussions on the woman. No such problems for a man. All these things made the women to remain virgin until she gets married.

This has changed over the years. I think financial independence made a lot difference. Women started taking the same liberties which were forbidden for them over the years.

That is why Liz taylor's multple marriages became a talk of the town, but no one talks about Martin Scorsese or Larry King or other men who married multiple times in the same era.

In a changed society, men and women are equal. We should not measure chastity with love or expect the girl to remain virgin until she gets married. There are no such rules or laws. It is up to the individual.

Cheers......

Originally posted by: Fe-en-Dios

No, the previous version of Prologue mentioned only Arnav's POV on Khushi.

That is exactly why I chose Withered over Wedded II. There is not much difference to pick one over the other. I chose Withered simply based on the fact that I could not see how Khushi felt in Wedded II's prologue. I know it will be narrated in the future chapters and I know I will love Wedded II as much as I have loved Wedded I or WA or as much as I am loving Withered.

Cheers.........