Anaa aur muhabbat: ajao saray - Page 34

On YouTube, I was just going through comments. So many are saying that Babita did right by asking her side of pyaar from HS. I literally tried explaining that no, it's not right. She has turned egoistic there is no doubt. And there are many better ways of asking forgiveness, but no one understands. Some are now telling, Paridhi is horrible for Babita, she is not good, Babita is the best. I wonder how can they be so blinded over feminism...

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

No human being is perfect. Hanuman is not perfect. He too has flaws (which is yet to come out) like Babita does. Babita’s are more evident right now because writers are taking us to that direction, but Hanuman’s flaws will also come forward at the right time.

They aren’t perfect, but they are perfect for each other. They both need to realize and acknowledge each other’s flaws, and accept each other despite it. They also need to realize each other’s values and importance in their life. And most importantly to not let ego come in between their love.

Pyar toh dono ne karliya ab yeh pyar nibhana bhi in dono ko sikhna padega.

Have they? Is it truly love for both or their need/insecurities? I still find attraction for each other .. they haven't gone deep in their feelings yet to term it love

Originally posted by: inlieu

Exactly. The relationship has always been imbalanced and it will be even more so in the coming days. He needs to stop being over-protective about Babita and Minnie just like they need to learn that he won't always be in a good mood or frame of mind, that he has his own frustrations, challenges, etc. He may lash out for no fault of their own or may struggle to solve certain problems, but that's often what we do with people we love. Minnie is still young and learning, whereas Babita's self-centered nature makes her oblivious to other people's needs, often even Minnie's.

I don't know in which aspect HS will feel like he can even open up to Babita. He has been the emotional care provider in a way since they first met. The first instance where she had the chance to take up the role reversal she fled the scene. This will have definitely made him retreat further emotionally.

Thats one of his biggest flaws .. Another reason why Bb has never felt the need to grow/rise up to his level ..

Originally posted by: inlieu

If you remember what he had told Minnie about doing penance, well I think that feeling is holding him back to an extent.

He needs to stop punishing himself for what happened in his childhood with his mother. That part of him has yet to be addressed as it has left him immense trauma. His tendency to over-compensate because of that makes him give others too much leeway, which is then misunderstood or taken for granted.

Also, I don't think he got over Imarti, it was just silenced for a bit but at least he can handle it a little better because having mother-daughter in his life is like a balm. I don't think he has stopped grieving, just that he has started focusing elsewhere. Those things will come back again.

I agree .. I have a feeling that his andar ka rakshas has a reference to his childhood trauma .. raising hands or something .. There's a study .. that sometimes an oppressed becomes an oppressor .. he isn't the latter .. but he didn't bat and eyelid the first night with impartial (even if jokingly)

True .. if anything comparisons will begin emerging .. how imarti was imarti .. and she will never be able to fill that void of imarti .. I think he has realized it already..

Originally posted by: sanam912

I agree .. I have a feeling that his andar ka rakshas has a reference to his childhood trauma .. raising hands or something .. There's a study .. that sometimes an oppressed becomes an oppressor .. he isn't the latter .. but he didn't bat and eyelid the first night with impartial (even if jokingly)

True .. if anything comparisons will begin emerging .. how imarti was imarti .. and she will never be able to fill that void of imarti .. I think he has realized it already..

Oh no please no raising hands. I hope he doesn’t ever raise hands on Babita. I will be done with him at that point. I love this character too much.. i don’t wanna hate him 😢

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Oh no please no raising hands. I hope he doesn’t ever raise hands on Babita. I will be done with him at that point. I love this character too much.. i don’t wanna hate him 😢

No not raising hands .. but something similar on those lines .. he is too civilized for that .. I dont think CVs would touch something like that if they decide to explore his darkest side .. but I dont think they will 'show' him raising hands ..

Originally posted by: riti4u

He was hurt with way she asked .. it was an emotional blackmail..a proof of love that she was asking..he had to prove it inspite of everything he has done

Originally posted by: sanam912

I agree .. I have a feeling that his andar ka rakshas has a reference to his childhood trauma .. raising hands or something .. There's a study .. that sometimes an oppressed becomes an oppressor .. he isn't the latter .. but he didn't bat and eyelid the first night with impartial (even if jokingly)

True .. if anything comparisons will begin emerging .. how imarti was imarti .. and she will never be able to fill that void of imarti .. I think he has realized it already..

@bold, true. Until one day he realizes he should not expect such a thing from Babita at all, i.e that she fill that void. He can expect other things.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Oh no please no raising hands. I hope he doesn’t ever raise hands on Babita. I will be done with him at that point. I love this character too much.. i don’t wanna hate him 😢

They won't do it. They might as well kill of his character than destroy their own creation HS from day 1 being in favor of non-violence.

Originally posted by: naq5

Actually there were 2 apologies today. First when babita said she was hurt and remembered what he said. HS immediately said 'woh meri galti thi muhje maaf kar do" then babita was like i dont want sorry as an ehsaan choose between your love and your ego & then HS said sorry again with folded hands. For me Actually the 1st sorry was said from heart. the 2nd one was more of an ehsaan that Babita was talking about. I wonder how Babita fails to see this.

The important part in any relation more than a sorry is understanding that one is wrong, that one has hurt the other person. Extracting a sorry forcibly with folded hands without this realization is of no use. And once the mistake is understood there is a need not to repeat it again than extracting a sorry with folded hands.

I actually would have liked if babita had asked HS why he dint really trust her with his issues than telling her those hurtful words to send her away from him. I would be okay if she was hurt because HS dint think her to be capable enough to emotionally support him.

But here its all ulta. Im finding her so vile & immature without any depth of understanding situations.

@bold, I thought I was the only one who saw it that way! I see we are on the same page there.