Is Kunal planning to snatch the baby?

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Posted: 6 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: FruitToasty

Visiting is OK.. My problem is with him saying that Nandini will love the baby more
First of all does he really think that Mauli will be around him and Nandini, watch them doing Ding Ding?

Visiting the child is something that could happen between Ross and Carol or Ross and Rachel because they were in good terms.

exactly. ..why did he think tat mauli would like her child to interact with nandini even if she agrees for kunal n baby bonding?

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Anjali

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Posted: 6 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: FruitToasty

Visiting is OK.. My problem is with him saying that Nandini will love the baby more
First of all does he really think that Mauli will be around him and Nandini, watch them doing Ding Ding?

Visiting the child is something that could happen between Ross and Carol or Ross and Rachel because they were in good terms.

As a woman who was going to be his future wife, Kunal tried to find balance between being a father and husband to Nandini. There would be times when child would need him more and that's what he tried to say that Nandini would love the child enough to not question that. That's what he wanted to say that she would love the child enough to allow the baby a father whenever he/she needs it without doubt.

He looked for an arrangement to balance everything and thus he assumed it himself (something he can do, assume to have a balance). Now, if Mauli had denied it, then Kunal would abode by it since mauli is the mother who is the primary decision maker when it comes to child in such situation.

Also Kunal would have made sure to mind his actions around the child as a responsible father.

This sort of parenting tries to find a balance to complex situation and is actually not a bad idea. Divorced couples often do the co-parenting. If the father is ready to take the responsibility of the child but not be a husband to the mother, then it is though painful but is seen as a balanced solution for the child.

But Mauli doesn't want father, she wants her husband, while Kunal wants to be a responsible father but not a pretending husband. Nandini wants to be with Kunal and nothing else. Pretty sure in this case she is considerate enough to understand a father's importance for a child and obliges to those responsibilities.

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Saazhumsafars

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Posted: 6 years ago

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All of this is part of nandini whitewashing I guess,oh look here is a woman who will love her lover's child so much,even more than the father will love the child.It's good kunnu didn't say that nandu will love the child more than mauli too.Aur pitaayi hoti nahi toh.Anyway kunal has always put nandu on a pedestal,just like nandu puts him on a pedestal too.Unko ek dusre mein rab dikhta hai.

Kunal makes sense when he says he can be a father to the baby without reconciling with mauli,but they are obviously not going to go down this more sensible route.How else will they show nandini's love and sacrifice for the baby?How else will they weaken mauli?

Realistically speaking,can mauli ask the court to never have nandini around the child?I think she can but I am confirming.Also if there was a custody battle and mauli disclosed kunal's affair would they have equal rights and responsibilities over the child or would mauli have more?How will 'equal' rights and responsibilities play out,the child living some days of the week with mauli and the other days with kunnu?(this arrangement can be allowed only after the child grows up a bit as a new born baby will require most of mother's care and he/she can't be passed back and forth like this).

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Anjali

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Posted: 6 years ago

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Originally posted by: Saazhumsafars
All of this is part of nandini whitewashing I guess,oh look here is a woman who will love her lover's child so much,even more than the father will love the child.It's good kunnu didn't say that nandu will love the child more than mauli too.Aur pitaayi hoti nahi toh.Anyway kunal has always put nandu on a pedestal,just like nandu puts him on a pedestal too.Unko ek dusre mein rab dikhta hai.
Kunal makes sense when he says he can be a father to the baby without reconciling with mauli,but they are obviously not going to go down this more sensible route.How else will they show nandini's love and sacrifice for the baby?How else will they weaken mauli?

Realistically speaking,can mauli ask the court to never have nandini around the child?I think she can but I am confirming.Also if there was a custody battle and mauli disclosed kunal's affair would they have equal rights and responsibilities over the child or would mauli have more?How will 'equal' rights and responsibilities play out,the child living some days of the week with mauli and the other days with kunnu?(this arrangement can be allowed only after the child grows up a bit as a new born baby will require most of mother's care and he/she can't be passed back and forth like this).

I would be brutally honest here, no child should have to suffer because of ugly battles of parents. Child should not be made a weapon for revenge in such a way, that is belittling the innocent life.

Mauli can easily take custody of the child if she never wants the child to be around the father but that will come at a cost in long range. Child should be made aware of the situation and trusted to make a right decision when comes the right age and parents should be considerate enough to realize that. Parents must trust the child enough to even fight their own insecurities. Toxic parenting does more harm than good.

It would have been different if kunal never wanted to take the responsibility. But he is ready to take the responsibility (something a lot of people in reality don't want to). Now, for what he sake of child she should think from that persective. Mauli herself has suffered toxic parenting from her mother and it would be unfair if she does the same.

Even in custody battle, Mauli would have a right to make a final call and kunal would have to follow it at all cost. Till 7 years of age, mother has more right on child considering child's needs in case of custody battle.

If Mauli doesnot trust Kunal, then she can easily keep the child away from him and Kunal would have agreed to that too. But here child has already been used as a brahmastra and a miracle solution to all these grave problems, so it's nonuse dwelling in that.