Originally posted by: TheBoss
I would go out on a limb and say if you are physically intimidating a girl to the extent of beating her up, I doubt she is going to say no to you having your way with her. I definitely don't see consent in such problem relationships and thus to me its sexual abuse.
This is precisely the issue. That is your opinion and when it comes to sexual misconduct or domestic violence, only the letter of the law matters.
This is the official definition by APA:
Sexual abuse is unwanted sexual activity, with perpetrators using force, making threats or taking advantage of victims not able to give consent.And the CDC's definition of non-penetrative sexual assault:
- Unwanted sexual contact
Includes intentional touching, either directly or through the clothing, of the genitalia, anus, groin, breast, inner thigh, or buttocks of any person without his or her consent, or of a person who is unable to consent. Unwanted sexual contact also includes making a victim touch the perpetrator. Unwanted sexual contact can be referred to as "sexual harassment in some contexts, such as a school or workplace. - Noncontact unwanted sexual experiences
Includes unwanted sexual attention that does not involve physical contact. Some examples are verbal sexual harassment (e.g., making sexual comments) or unwanted exposure to po*nography. This occurs without a person's consent and sometimes, without the victim's knowledge. This type of sexual violence can occur in many different settings, such as school, the workplace, in public, or through technology.
So, if a person beats up his girlfriend/partner (or vice-versa) for non-sexual reasons, it becomes physical abuse or domestic violence.
There is a fine line in there, which is why it's important for the accusers to present evidence. The current MeToo movement is mostly about sexual misconduct in the workplace or in relation to work. A case between Salman and Aishwarya, say if there is one, would be more about domestic violence or domestic sexual abuse (if Salman did abuse her) as they were partners at the time.
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