Fair enough, she feels uncomfortable because unlike Alexander, who believes there should be no barriers between a husband and wife, she doesn't feel that way because she doesn't consider them to be in such a relationship in the first place. She wanted to protect her father and Bactria, so she felt forced to accept the public marriage proposal, even if in name only. Alexander was too quick to assume that she'd had a change of heart that had turned her earlier refusal into an acceptance of him and his feelings.
I am not saying that she should be afraid of him or keep quiet or "accept her fate" like Barsine did. I am saying that she should be smart about what she is doing, regardless of her feelings. She's the one who told him he shouldn't have broken the rules of coming into a Malika's hammaam. If she's going to raise such points then she's already acknowledging that she is referring to the position she gets as his wife and queen. She probably enjoyed a high standing as Bessus' general's daughter and it was clear she had a say in important decision making in his court. She was probably never poor. Now that she is automatically taking on the demeanor of a Malika-e-Asia, in the official sense at least, it means she needs to use this position responsibly.
The reason I asked what would happen to Roxanne if Alexander were to dump her, is to refer to her identity or position without Alexander as her spouse and king. What would she be left with? A smart person would play her cards and work towards building an image of her own outside of just being linked to Alexander, but if she's not interested in power, what will she do with her life?
Roxanne doesn't have to be sweet and demure with Alexander. She can take a stand for her beliefs, make her point and remain firm if she wants to, but that doesn't mean she needs to behave in a nasty manner all the time. I am not referring to the hammaam scene necessarily, but in general. After a certain point, she will just continue to degrade herself by behaving this way, and most of us wish that she would remain dignified in the face of whatever situation she finds herself in. That is real strength of character and if she had shown or in future shows us that, there will be many more people rooting for her. I have no such expectations from this show, but I do believe that Olympias has already set an example of how to be a husband-hating wife/queen without losing one's dignity. 😆 Whatever her personal equation with Philip, the public was not privy to their nasty exchanges, at least on-screen.
A person's behavior may change but not character, and Alexander's won't allow himself to be pushed beyond a point. You may be right that it's her defiance that he finds interesting and attractive, but that is not going to be sufficient for spousal love from his side in the long term. Maybe with time he will learn to accept that she just won't feel that way about him and will deal with it accordingly. Even if he behaved as the best husband in the world, and she had no complaints with him, it doesn't mean that she will fall in love with him - this is not algebra where equations have to balance.
For now, all I see is that the little world he wants to create with Roxanne is of two lovers, excluding their roles and responsibilities as king and queen. A world which she has no interest or belief in. There will be, or should be, a reality check at some point when duty will beckon and he will have to do right by his people, whether or not Roxanne falls in love with him eventually. (Though I can't speak for Sony Alexander as his character graph is at the mercy of the CVs). 😆
Originally posted by: MuguetDScorpion
As we are talking about the bath scene, Alex is not wrong to go to the hammam as a husband. He is trying his best to understand her and make her accept him. It's not about how wrong or right he is and vice versa. There are scenes where she exaggerates to piss him off but in this scene I think her reaction was pretty much normal. As a woman she was uncomfortable to see a man while she was naked. This is probably what made her snap at him.
I think she already had the luxurious life even before she married him. She was loved by Bessus and seeing how she was heard by him and her clothes and jewelries before the wedding, it didn't look like she was just the daughter of his right hand. Unless it's shown that she lived in poverty, it is unfair to assume that she is using him and his luxurious life.
She doesn't care about his name nor his fame. This is also the reason she doesn't think twice before talking to him.
So basically she needs to behave and be afraid that her words can make him dump her in a foreign land ? In short she should just shut her mouth and accept her fate that she is married to him now. I agree it was her fault to accept his proposal and I still wonder why she accepted BTW. But that doesn't mean she needs to just shut her mouth.
He is the king for the rest of the world but he isn't to her. That's what I find beautiful about them. The guy can do anything to anyone, who has hunger for power in his eyes, has also love for her in those same eyes. I just love the way he looks at her. 😆 Her courage, not being scared of him, her attitude towards him, her beauty drive him crazy. And this is what is making him stay calm even with the insult he is getting. 😆
Edited by inlieu - 5 years ago
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