Originally posted by: athai
To be honest I think what we are seeing Kabeer as now is more in tune with his character from the very beginning, it is Zaara who has had a sudden change of heart and although she is not completely out of tune with her character, the whole situation became tbat of an unequal relationship. From the very beginning we have seen Kabeer as a conformist: he conforms to the general belief, general practices and everything that is mainstream. He was only against this marriage because Zaara was so dead against it otherwise he was willing to go ahead with it because his faher wished so, even though he knew he would be getting a wife who did not share the same ideologies. He followed suit once Zaara said yes to marriage: had the situation been reversed, Zaara would probably have just stood up and walked away! Her responses are not dependent merely upon other's wishes, she is more than a daughter, wife, friend, she is her own being! But if you notice, Kabeer is all about fulfilling his responsibilities and the duties that each of his relationships have given him.
Once married, he didn't put any pressure on Zaara and tried to fulfill his responsibilities as a husband. He gave her space when she asked for it, he came close to her when she wanted it. He protected her and took care of her because that was his responsibility. He is a sincere, responsible and good man. It is unfair to expect him to suddenly be head over heels in love with her. We know he cares enough for her to be scared of the thought that something may have happened to her, maybe he loves her in his own way and has not figured it out yet, but even if he doesn't love her, is there anything wrong with it? Does being married automatically make you fall madly in love with your spouse? There is no on and off button that can be pressed for love: they have only been married for a very short time, were not even fond of each other prior to their marriage and given that context, Kabeer is doing a good job at being a husband. In fact, with issues regarding to the Siraj fiasco, he became the husband every girl would hope for. And that is what happened with Zaara.
Zaara had this image of her husband and she knew Kabeer was not that man when she married him. Slowly she noticed his protective side, his attempt at accepting her and she also started putting in effort and with Siraj fiasco, he became her hero. She completely, whole-heartedly accepted him and has started to shower her love in him. Whether she is madly in love with him or not remains to be seen but she has started loving him as a wife loves her husband.
It is of course hurtful as viewers to witness one party shower their love while we feel the other doesn't reciprocate but Kabeer has no idea that Zaara loves him, why should he? He knew that she hated the idea of being his wife and he can see that she is putting in a lot of effort into their marriage and from his perspective he is doing the same. It's like when he sat in the table as he acknowledged Zaara's effort of accompanying him and eating on the floor. From his perspective, they are each taking responsibility to make this marriage work and both are trying to fulfill their duties towards the other. So he is not going to brush Zaara off if she showers him with love because that is who he is, a conformist. He will try his level best to keep her happy by letting her do things and by himself doing something if he realizes she wants him to do it because it is his responsibility as her husband. Only when he feels his ideologies are being questioned or challenged will he put his foot down even with people he feels responsible for: his father, his mother, his wife, whoever it is. I think it is unfair to look for any romantic gesture from him for Zaara because neither he is the typical romantic type nor does he harbour such feelings for her so early on in their marriage, he can't be expected to fall in love simply because Zaara has fallen in love with him. We should also keep in mind that he did not make any effort to impress Zaara or make her fall for him and not once did he sugarcoat his purposes behind his actions either. He told Zaara more than once that he did what he did because he thought it was his duty as her husband. So, if Zaara is under the illusion that he loves her just because she has started to love him, then Kabeer is in no way to blamed. However, when we are in love, the knowledge that the other person does not feel the same way for us can hurt and I have a feeling that Zaara is headed towards that.
I think this is one of the crucial elements of this story. Kabeer, in his ignorance regarding Zaara's feeling towards him will probably do something or a series of things ending up hurting Zaara and finally Zaara's withdrawal from him or their marriage will make him see Zaara's feelings and analyze his own. That will probably be the turning point of this plot. I have had this feeling since last week, everything till now was rushed because the story is finally starting now: their marriage, their acceptance of their marriage and embarkment on conjugal life were all necessary to start the story. What we are probably going to witness now onwards is their ideological conflict even with regards to marriage and the role of the husband and wife.
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