Conjugality

Seriously I am tired of this who is right who is wrong every day. Today's fight at the beginning was just this. Neither was dev wrong in saying that sonakshi Bose has changed (I really feel so) and neither was sona in saying how he just assumed it was about his mother and got angry. That again got no where.

But what got me thinking was asha's words. I mean I had no reason to but suddenly I had tears. And I cried throughout I don't know why. What asha said was so true. When it takes so much time to know yourself imagine how much it would take to understand the other. This what they always lacked. Communication, introspection, reflection on what was going wrong in their relationship. That why probably when asha was going to suggest them to sit and have a convo I teared up.

How beautiful their love was na, their relationship. But then it was ruined and is in such a state now just because they lacked the above. And still they don't understand this. But even now is there any chance of salvaging anything?

Moving on, I found some scenes very deep and double edged. Let's take the golu soha one. When golu said lock them in a room till they settle, soha said such would never last as it would be forced. But isn't it was she has done. They have been forced to live under one roof for her and everything is falling apart already starting today.

Next was the pic of their marriage of just them both. But we know it was anything but that. In fact their families were a little more than them. No one let them solve the problem but just made them bigger by involving themselves. How the kids said that each has been told the other us at fault and then wondered who was true. None were because it was everyone's fault.

What was needed is exactly what asha is doing now. Removing the unnecessary elements and just creating space for them to talk. At this stage I am not at all talking about reunion or love but just clearing of misunderstandings, acceptance of mistakes and cleansing of all bitterness. They are living with way to much baggage of the past. I cried here to looking at the pic, these two innocent kids and a broken relationship. I also realised a very important and beautiful message or delivered that this cliche track of kids bringing parents together never works unless they actually want. And secondly, the importance of conjugality. Just this week we studied that how our serials are scared of showing this between husband and wife. Their problem becomes family problem and is discussed openly with no privacy given. I realised it was true but our story at least took a right step in the direction which is praiseworthy.

Lastly I want to talk about the asha in ronita's house scene. I know she would do the right thing and was glad that she cleared the air. Here too I saw a parallel. Ishwari was also scared about her son and daughters but never articulated it. Acha said the mom should have done just that. I loved this scene too.

Let's see how it plays out tomorrow and what they discuss. Till then leaving you with some food for thought.

Copy paste of my comment from another thread

The 7 years of angst and disconnect between Dev and Sona will not go away in 7 days... it will take time... I do understand that but we now need to see some progress in their characters... Especially Dev... He has gone back to worshiping his mother which he had left after the leap.. This bit confuses me... But then he is not staying in the house to listen to everyone all the time.. Bijoy annoyed him and he gave it back... Sonakshi did not appreciate what he did for Saurabh and Ronita, instead blamed him again! So it's not one person who is wrong... Devakshi need to collectively work towards making the situation better and this will eventually happen...

For me both have to restropect as to where they have gone wrong...!it cant be the fault of one blaming nonstop...The other too has to share the blame in the failure of their marraige..I liked todays episode a lot cos they are talking actually what has transpired on that farmhouse night...!