Overrated sentiment - motherhood..

Being a parent is ofcourse a gift . And being in a position to take care of another life is a special feeling.. A feeling of responsibility and accountability.. To be something for the kid to be inspired of.. To relive our own childhood in our own ways and give us the best opportunities to grow with our kids, in better ways.. And to continue learning new lessons with them...😃

All of the above can be achieved even without becoming a parent.. So not necessary that everyone needs to be a parent to feel satisfied and contended to be responsible, to inspire and to influence.. But yeah, there is one selfish motive that doesn't get satisfied if one doesn't become a parent - there is no one to take care of us in our old age.. And for many that becomes the primary reason for embracing the parenthood with open arms.. And that's the reason they get dejected or worried or upset when they are deprived of that special gift...😉

To top it all, the talk is more about the motherhood in TV.. As if the father has nothing much of a role to play in the parenthood..🤪 Being a mother is an overrated sentiment exploited to the core in TV shows. Agree, being a mother is a special feeling by itself.. It has its own special moments while holding the little baby in the arms.. Feeling responsible for bringing another life into the world.. But I don't see anything to be proud of being capable to reproduce😕.. It's a natural gift to continue the human legacy and make a difference in the world.. If one is capable of touching human lives in other ways, then parenthood is not the only way for them to make a difference in the world.. 👍🏼

With people in our family living in their own small world - made of possession of materials and human relationships for themselves, it's a society that we form around us forcing everyone to follow the same trend🥱.. And when TV shows are bound to revolve around the same concept it's sad that majority tends to believe that the society is not changing.. Forcing more and more people to fall for the peer pressure and believing what they see and think within their limitations.. Leaving no scope for individual thinking, wanting to bring any change to the suffocating societal norms...

What's there to be proud about being a mother when there is my fellow women being taunted for not being able to bear a child.. or for losing a child.. or for giving birth to girl children.. or keep on delivering babies one after the other.. or not being able to feed the baby.. or for not being able to deliver normally.. or for choosing medical help to bear a child.. 🤔anything anything that concerns the motherhood is overrated.. And parenthood is underrated.. Parenting, all about not what I do for my child.. It's all about what I've taught them to do for themselves to make them successful.. It's always about them and not about me... 😊

Ishwari is an overrated mother and overtly justified for her motherly emotions... Agree I admired her for her strength in bringing up her son to be a successful person.. But I can't appreciate the fact that she did it not for him but to cover up for herself. To achieve something that she couldn't do it on her own.. And If she is not happy with something then she makes sure that everyone pays for it making them feel her unhappiness, without even she opening up.. Because if she openly communicates then her concerns become complaints which can be considered as an old woman's cribbing and whining... Which is what she's doing silently..😆

Sona is stretched to exert herself in the motherhood game even before she's ready with her own living as a new wife amidst new environment... She needs something or the other to constantly prove her worth in her new house... Another selfish woman in the making, trying to achieve something through the kid which she couldn't achieve all by herself...

From what I read, Asha is slowly getting to a stage where she's underestimating her own daughter's worth and wanting to justify what best her daughter has got in her life to be satisfied with it... 😲

I am elder to Sona's generation and I very much live in India.. And I very well chose my own life and living it in my own ways.. There are few men I have seen in my life who are very real and very strong in their own skin. Women should just be alert and strong in their own skin as well to choose the real men and stand by their choice.. So many women have worked hard to get us up here.. Let's not make their efforts go wasted. I'm not at all against love and romance.. Nothing against pink pink rosy rosy moments between men and women.. Everyone has their share of love.. Being in love is far more than being obsessed with love.. Let's not underestimate ourselves and push ourselves down in the name of emotional sentiments... Let's value ourselves better and choose what is best for both the partners in love.. Let's use our brains to sense the real men.. Not some emotional fools who can't stand for themselves too.. If that's the case then let's take charge of the situation on our own without relying on those emotional fools.. And when I, from a 70s generation, can't tolerate such treatment to the women I am sure many of the new gen women not want to choose a marriage like that of Sona's.. I am proud to have been inspired by women from books and movies during my school days thus making me want to bring in changes in the way women were treated, however small the change could be... I really hope the next gen girls are not limiting their own thoughts with this kinda portrayal of the society and not restricting themselves to adapt to it, thinking that's all they have for their own good.. Hope they get to watch some inspiring women and read some inspiring books to lead a better life for themselves.. Even if they stop being Sona or stop choosing Dev-Ish combo in their life, then it's more than good enough a change.. Ishwaris will stop being Ishwari or Devs will try not boast about how dedicated they are as sons.. And Sonas needn't underestimate themselves with the values others instill upon her to weigh her own worth...

I am a parent and I will always hold my daughter close to my heart but not at the cost of her heart... I will be protective of her but not by suffocating her, by overtly being conscious of her activities... I am a mother and will never fail to learn new lessons growing up with her.. And now, this show is everything I should avoid following 😆.. Even for the sake of the actors I can't stand the show anymore (even in reading the live updates watching the show is a far cry at this moment 🤪) for the way the CVs are handling the tracks in recent weeks...

And yeah quitting the forum isn't that easy.. It has few people whose views make me think that the society still has some hopes to be renovated... But I really feel sad when some people accept whatever happening in the show as societal norms and live within that without wanting to change any of that... Hope to see some changes in our mindset as well...😃

In all this only solace for me is Baaba🤗.. Every girl deserves a father like him.. PERIOD... Hope Sona stops being stupid in her love and take inspiration from her father to follow what is right by her values.. And I sincerely hope Sona doesn't follow Asha's advice😆... The problem with Sona is she follows what she thinks is right and currently her mindset is completely played by The Dixits' and her righteous thinking is too biased.. What an effect of Ishu and her emotional game on The Dixits'...

Glad that you feel that way.. I started feeling that the messages are like

1. Ishu as a mother has struggled a lot to bring up her kids all by herself and it's only fair on Dev's part to be the son that he is, dedicating his life and wife to his mother's wishes.. 😆

2. Sona's lack of ability to become a mother is a big defect in God's making thus Dev has taken the mahaan role to make her complete by doing everything to make her the mother.. After all it's his mother God who wishes for that, Only to save her kids from the bad-mouthing in the society.. 🤪

3. Asha being the loving mother who can extend her shower of love to anyone, only to keep her daughter married forever.. 😆

She always talks about sacrifices she had made and small favors that mamaji gave to them...She never ever thinks abt hoe she decided to snatch Dev's childhood to fulfil her needs and on the other hand did not let Neha study...Ishwari feels proud if Dev takes her side even if its wrong...I think her love for Dev is suffocating...

For me she is not worth to be called as a woman...She was only worried for herself for not being a grand mother..but not even once she thought about Sona and her heart break for not being a mother...

Every girl should be blessed with a father like Bijoy..He is the only person concerned for Sona and thought of pain and depression that Sona will go through during the treatment..People call Bijoy as irritated, impulsive man but fathers like him are required in the society...

Coming to point, being parents should be out of love and will and not by force or threats...Devakshi are wrong here...They are giving Ishwari the power to rule them.and poke her nose in their personal matter... Infertility should be something that should be only discussed between couple and not anyone else...

Motherhood, is deliberately shown as a overrated feeling from ishu's perspective becoz she doesn't know anything other than that. But the irony is she may be mother of 4 but is always partial towards only 1. The biggest takebacks from motherhood is that she can never discriminate among her kids. So ishwari's feeling of motherhood maybe be overrated but actually it is incomplete and dishonest.

PS. I am not a mother yet. Hope I made sense

you not only make sense. U hit the bulls eye

I also Sona is currently overshadowed by the Dixits but when did she get time to think any other way..poor girl has gone through all the emotions in three days.

It takes time for accepting such things in life and I think there will come a time when she would realise that to be a mother one doesnt have to give birth.

Standing witness to ridicule subjected to your spouse is not love. Allowing your spouse to emotional blackmail and taunts at the whim of your mother when she is facing the biggest emotional turmoil of her life , the utter insensitivity shown by Dev to Sona present state of mind dosenot even make him a Man. He seems to suffer from Split personality disorder , making promises and breaking them is his habit.

Sona should see the whole naked truth of Dev behavior ,then leave him and move on such that like last time she is not tempted by his puppy face . Adoption is way better for Dixit clan cause their blood would not sire a decent emotionally mature individual anyways.