Originally posted by: Fantasia.
I agree to you that her sneaking out might not be an offence as big as Nawab makes it to be but i have a slightly different perspective.
Afreen might be surrounded by strict rules but she sure isnt surrpounded by hypocrites .. Nawab, no matter how conservative he is , is not a hypocrite. Her mother, no matter how evil she is , is onot a ypocrite, she doesnt praise Nawab on his face and tries to back stab him. Whatever they are with eahc other, no matter how bitter Nawab and his step mother are .. they are honest. She has honest people around her, and in that a lie and manipulation came as a shock for me. Just like Nawab's respect for women after locking them in homes is not a justification, i dont think afreen's lies can be justified by her desires.
but then again, she is an innocent teenage girl who didnt have the courage to ask her brother something she knew he wont approve, or maybe she was guilty of even wanting and wishing for something she know isnt approved so she adopted the easiest path - lying, and more than Afreen , Its Nawab sahib's fault that she lied.
However, i am yet to see how far does his punishment extend, and what effect does it have on afreen, does she starts feeling guilty for betraying her brother or realises that what she demands is not wrong, just her way was wrong and she should amend the way .. not the wish.
P.S - I cant tell u how happy i am to find a die hard Iqbal Khan fan on this forum!! 😳
Okay, that makes sense. I get your perspective. But if her desires can't justify her lies, Nawaab sahib's and Abida's honesty can't justify their regressive thinking and open hostility either. And what honesty? Didn't Abida go behind Nawaab's back and paid his men to flout his orders? For all their apparent honesty, neither of them can trust, or rely on, the other. Raising up Afreen is a responsibility that they both chose to carry and together they haven't been able to create a congenial environment at home. To say that Afreen's act ruptured the reliance they had on each other is, I think, faulty.
It's a dysfunctional family to begin with. Afreen's mother too imbibes those very patriarchal notions she has been raised up with. The fact that the she's ready to hit her daughter without listening to her side of the story makes it evident that they don't really share an intimate bond. Nawaab and Afreen on the other hand, do have a lot of love and respect for each other but this respect has also created a distance between the two. When you respect someone so much there comes that element of 'lihaaz' between you two. Afreen, no matter how close to her brother, cannot share with him every thought that crosses her mind. In fact, the two conversations that we have witnessed between the two have concentrated on the Nawaab and his internal conflicts. Afreen hasn't ever talked about her thoughts and her emotions. It is therefore not surprising that she looks for a companion outside her home, which I think is good for her.
Besides, laying the charge of hypocrisy on her is a bit too much. She would be a hypocrite if she, like her brother, believed that going outside her home after a certain point would sully her honour and did it anyways. She hasn't ever expressed any sort of dissent with her brother's ideology but she hasn't assented to it either. It's more like a negotiation between what she wants and what he desires out of her. I'm not saying she's right but I feel she isn't wholly wrong either.
As for the confrontation between the siblings, I think Afreen would understand and apologise. But if her way is incorrect, is there any alternate way? The next time she wants to go out, say after seven, will her brother let her go?
I think I just played the devil's advocate here😆
Haha... the feeling is mutual. Have loved Iqbal since KYPH days and over the years I have not only been smitten by the actor but also have been impressed by his person.
I really wish to see him in a lead role soon
Edited by angelicbabe - 8 years ago
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