dixits vs boses

dixits treat devakshi like kids and differently. Ishwari was worried only about her 8 year old beta on Delhi streets alone at night. not once about her bahu... ghar ki izzat! incapable of taking care of himself and his wife. in one minute.. her and GKB made an issue about bengalies and damaad and rishtein and blah blah blah!

boses treat them like adults and same. sonakshi's crazy baba kicked both of them out to sort their issues. both were behaving childish so he treated them like that. but knowing fully well they are capable! no issue about damaad, ghar ki izzat and blah blah.

sona is working hard to feel part of dixits, still being made to feel like an outsider. whereas, dev easily fits in, feeling at home with bose's. without effort, without expectations, and they treat him just like their own.

I am sure Dev must have felt the ease,comfort and difference in Bose house.

It is the Indian culture which is to blame for this. The dil is kept at a distance so as to control her and let her know her true position. Else she might start controlling her husband and the mil will lose her supreme authority . After all the parents invested so much in bringing up their son and when the time to reap the return on investment came someone else might enjoy it. Heaven forbid.

Originally posted by: Shilky88

I am sure Dev must have felt the ease,comfort and difference in Bose house.

He is on the way of realization😃

hope he understands the true meaning if family. and love that comes without strings.

Originally posted by: tia.o

<font size="3" color="#333333">That's precisely the difference between how a son-in-law is treated and how a daughter-in-law is treated. Son-in-law is welcomed with open arms and sometimes get better treatment than family members and daughter-in-law is welcomed with rule book, warnings and suspicion.</font>

<font size="3" color="#333333">I wonder if it's because the daughter-in-law lives with in-laws but son-in-law is just a temporary guest. If that's the case, women should re-think their unfair arrangement of living with in-laws in spite of unfair and rude behaviour towards them and remind their husband that by living with in-laws, they are doing their husband and family a favour. It's not a man's right to live with his parents if it's not a woman's right to live with hers.</font>

haan.. and the girls who ask to live seperately in india are considered.. too modern and ghar toDne waali! esp.. with people like Ishwari! damaad is bhagwan and bahu ghar ki laxmi. damaad is surely treated like that in majority of families and loved and respected and made feel prt of the clan. but ghar ki lakshmi? esp.. with dixits.. sona walks on eggshells all day. taking care of all, pleasing and loving and caring for all like her own. in return, she is rudely snubbed off. what lakshmi!

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

It is the Indian culture which is to blame for this. The dil is kept at a distance so as to control her and let her know her true position. Else she might start controlling her husband and the mil will lose her supreme authority . After all the parents invested so much in bringing up their son and when the time to reap the return on investment came someone else might enjoy it. Heaven forbid.

The only thing they don't realise is by constantly humiliating the dil they are sowing seeds of their own destruction as the day she has her own children and becomes more important for their son than them, she will pay them back with interest.

Ishwari is following the same path. She has already started hurting Sona, Sona's resentment is slowly increasing, Dev has started observing and is bewildered.

It's a slow process but will come to pass.

As regards the son in law's royal treatment, the parents know that their daughter lives in his house, there are MILs like Ishwari and GKB around, so they bend over backwards to please him. They also are always over eager to adopt him on their family, in fact feel honoured if he agrees.

this "control" in relationship is the cause of all issues. ishwari only knows how to control. true relationships do not suffocate or shakle you with expectations. dev's process is veeery slow.. ues. but agree its happening. esp. after this experience with bose.

Its just d difference in d family environments ...