Well after bashing Dev for last 2/3 weeks without any break, I would like to make a post on today's episode. I know that we expected confrontations etc, but for once I am happy with Dev's silent treatment to Ishwari.
But my post is not on Dev, but on Dev-Ishwari's relationship. Seeing Dev walking out of the house in the last scene was one of the best scenes of Kuch Rang acc. to me 💔. But that left me wondering, why Dev feels so indebted towards Ishwari ? My question is basically on the parenting.
What I know and learnt since childhood is, starting a family is a great deal, one needs to be absolutely sure and think about emotional and financial stability before having a kid, because for the next 18 yrs, it is only and only your responsibility to ensure the well-being of the child.
Now my concern is, Ishwari's husband died when Dev was 11 (or something). My first question - when Ishwari's husband and Ishwari were not so solvent, why did they have to plan for 4 kids ?
Second concern - Ishwari fought against everything and ensured that her kids get food timely. Does that not come under the basic responsibility of a parent ? Along with food, I thought providing shelter is the basic responsibility of a mother, here Mamaji was the one who provided them shelter. Out of 2 basic necessities which a parent HAS to provide the kid, 1 is fulfilled by Ishwari, 1 is by Mamaji. So isn't it right that Dev's devotion should be equally distributed between Ishwari and Mamaji ? Why only Ishwari takes all the credit ? If we speak about reality, in such cases the family as a whole remains more indebted towards the relative instead of amongst each other.
Third concern - Depriving other kids from education to have Dev as their savior to take them out of poverty. In my opinion, this is something which can turn me against my parent in a very easy way, specially when this is being constantly talked about. When my siblings would always complain about what they are missing and how I am being favored, this would cause me rebel against all the facilities thrown at me at the stake of others. These type of incidents make a parent away from kids, don't bring them closer. 😕 But I don't know.
I might come across as a selfish person out here, who is questioning Ishwari's parenting (if any), but honestly I don't get what makes Dev so devoted towards Ishwari alone, because it was not like Ishwari provided him all the luxuries of the world, instead she put immense pressure on him when destiny already snatched his childhood. I might come across as rude also but honestly I don't think as a responsible parent, one could do anything less than what Ishwari did for Dev. I am in no way demeaning her struggle as a single parent and discouraging her sincere efforts, but I am just curious that what else could she do if not that ?
In states, we have this law :
Neglect
Neglect is frequently defined as the failure of a parent or other person with responsibility for the child to provide needed food, clothing, shelter, medical care, or supervision to the degree that the child's health, safety, and well-being are threatened with harm. Approximately 25 States, the District of Columbia, American Samoa, Puerto Rico, and the Virgin Islands include failure to educate the child as required by law in their definition of neglect.7
This is what I specifically mean to say.
Sorry I know I sound insensitive, but honestly I would really like to know everyone's point of view that what makes Dev SO devoted towards Ishwari that he is ready to live a lifeless term instead of just asking few questions to her, or doing something against her wish. Like how it is our moral duty to provide support of all kinds towards our parents in their old age, isn't it also a basic duty of a parent to provide the minimals to his/her kids during the kid's initial stage ? Isn't it why parenting is called the greatest job of all ?
Would appreciate if you share your views on parenting. Again, I am sorry if I am hurting any parent's feelings here and never my intention is to demean their efforts by calling it their duty, PLEASE NO NOT AT ALL.. But I hope instead of being emotionally carried away, we discuss from a neutral point of view.
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