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After watching last two episodes I was extremely frustrated at the way things are panning out in the show , especially Dev's character graph. It definitely took a more dark and sinister tone over the last few episodes , peaking in slow increments , what with stalking her on a daily basis , then stalking her in social profiles , then hiring a PI to get back ground information on Rithik, getting Sona to come to the restaurant which they used to frequent during their honeymoon period of love by exploiting her professional dedication and making sure that she gets reminiscent (and by default sad and depressed. ) , keeping tabs on her family members so that he can conveniently "chance" across them and gain inside family information... but probably the gravest of it all was to sabotage poor Rithik's attempt to open his own clinic , by first making sure his loan gets rejected and then the plot he'd chosen for the address of the clinic went out of his hand ( I know we don't yet know for sure that Dev is behind all these , but come on ! All these are too much of a coincidence and after all Dev is hell bent on "helping" Sona break off the shackles of this match with R , because she's a little kid who couldn't do it herself if she wanted to.. ).
I know it was the last draw for many.
It was for me too. Initially.
But then I started thinking .
WE all are aware that Dev has a weird, kind of disturbing way of dealing with any problems , competition or hurdles. He likes to nip it in the bud ruthlessly , with out much care about collateral damage. It's probably came from the fact that he's grown up in a hostile environment amidst acute poverty , with a young widow mother , n three little sisters , where every day is a bleak hopeless today where every tomorrow is unsure and a world full of vultures , reptiles and wolves.
And it went on for a long time before any happiness , safety n affluence came their way. LIke Ishwari had once said , " Waqt kab beet jati hai pata hi nehi chalta , bas buda waqt beetne mein bahut waqt laag gaya. "
Many things got completely damaged in the process. Some of them are, sadly, most probably irrepairable- Dev's childhood , Neha's education n sense of self-worth n normal POV on motherhood , Ishwari's youth ( Not just the family suffered , Ishwari , the woman suffered, her emotional and sexual needs that was fulfilled by her husband got eliminated from her life.) . Riya and Niki's connection with their mother got severed . The family ,solely focussed on survival and gaining back their foothold and making money , forgot about many things and became permanently dysfunctional.
Dev must've had a very different adolescence compared to his peer group. With his head buried in school books and constantly tormented by guilt at how Neha is sacrificing every day and his mother is struggling through ugly face of the world , Dev Dixit grew up , a man baked all different than how a child should.
In those desperate times Dev and his mother clutched onto each other for comfort n shelter . But it quickly spiralled out of control, into a toxic unit where co dependency is the mantra , Dev being sub n Ishwari being Dom figure , where no body else is allowed , not even the girls.
Dev learned from his mother ,the person he was closest too that true love have to blind , true love means what ties you up and what you should tie up to yourself for good. Space, what space ?? Backing off , what backing off ??
Because that's the version of love Ishwari showered on her true love Dev , whom she put in the place of her husband after his untimely parting.
So, the story of the Dixits is basically story of suppression.
Neha's basic right of education n career got suppressed.
Dev's adolescent normal growth arc got more suppressed than even his childhood ( his father was still alive till 8 yrs of his age. )
Riya n Niki's development of normal communication with their own elder brother n more importantly, their mother got suppressed , with Neha becoming their link n go-to person to the family.
Ishwari's youth n needs got suppressed.
Result ?? A group of psychologically scarred people. What else can we expect??
Coming to the present situation , Dev is suppressing it all , he needs Sonakshi as much as our lungs need oxygen ,it's not a question of keeping the object of your desire to yourself, it's so much deeper for him that it's almost frightening, his physical n emotional needs of a grown up normal hormone level man of 27 yrs age , his jealousy , his pain , his insecurity and fear that his soul mate might move on.. every day he must put on a lid to all these and attempt to function normally.
A lifestyle of suppression. Very healthy indeed.
He's an intense person so all his needs and feelings are also intense .
Him having no normal outlet, not even a Bunty around, is doing extremely bad to his already screwed up beautiful mind , pushing him over the edge slowly n surely.
The bunny is developing sharp teeth and claws.
If you open a tap and then instead of letting the water either flow or holding it in a container , you put your palm and press at the point of outlet , what'll happen ?? Water will splash and sprinkle every where with great force and hit you here and there.
What all he's doing shouldn't be taken lightly or forgiven becoz aww it's so romantic.
It's not romantic . It just shows how much he needs to find normalcy and he'd spent 20 years of his life with out it , forgetting how to include it back to his life.
Dev is like a rose , surrounded by ugly little thorns, you can neither ignore the sharp sting of thorns of his ways n psyche nor you can ignore the beautiful fragrance and vibrant color of his beautiful heart.
He needs to let go of Sonakshi if he can't face his mom we all say. But both of these way outs are extremely difficult for him. He's never learnt the so-called process of facing your parents and he's never learnt how it's even possible to let go of some one you love as much...well.. as much he loves Sonakshi.
He's truly truly lost in the dark tunnel of his heart n mind. May God have mercy on his soul.
CID
