no use playing the blame game anymore....

Originally posted by: adoremevirgo

i dont understand everyone is happy that sona is moving on as if we all hated the show so far for showing devakshi tog as if we all were hoping for some other character opposite her...as a woman myself i am totally in favor of her wanting to move on instead of brooding for a guy who broke up with her so easily...
but for me moving on has many definitions other than getting married with another guy...she has just been wounded...by marrying ritwik she is doing injustice with him too...sona and her family r simply using ritwik as a shield to protect sona from her depression...

y does she need to jump another wagon just because the first wagon in her life got broken...i had said in one of my earlier posts she cud focus on her career, find new hobbies, travel to some place...
i know many of u r thinking that i am talking in favor of dev and wanting sona to pine for him in the same way he is pining for her...but that is not so...devakshi hv just broken up and it needs time for wounds to heal...unless that time will pass it is not rite to get involved with another man...i wud hv understood if she wud hv emotionally got involved with rikwik but hurrying into an arranged marriage so soon makes no sense...it only gvs me the impression that they r using ritwik...mind u guys...i do not hv one iota of sympathy for this new guy...but i am just stating the impression that i am getting from all this...

dev is pining for her and literally dying for her...no these r not the reasons y i feel he shud be forgiven...i agree he is no less at fault...currently he is standing in no man's land...neither can he go and apologize to sona (which makes no sense if he takes no stand with ishwari) and nor can he go and convince his mom which i dont understand y...ishwari shud be answerable to someone...after all dev shud ask her the reason y she did not like sona...but i hv no hopes from this angle...ishwari is so shrewd that she will say that i never told u that i dont like sona just like she told mamaji that she never told dev or sona about this...and if dev tells her mamaji told him so then i am sure she wud say that mamaji has wrongly interpreted her feelings...

currently i can think of only one solution and that shud come from dev only...he shud decide wat he wants in life and act accordingly...if he chooses sona then he shud make sure that his mom cannot interfere in his life beyond a certain limit and if needed he can move to a different house with his wife...i mean this is the solution i hv seen in real cases...it is mostly impossible to change women of ishwari's age...their character become set and at this age they cannot be moulded...so wat i hv seen that sons move to other cities or other house with their wives...and then come over to meet their parents at regular intervals...i think this can be the only solution...

but since it is a serial i am sure they will show ishwari realizing wat she has done and she will accept sona as her DIL...this hapnd with my friend's case and now she is very happily married...
but watever hapens at the end of the day i wish to see devakshi tog...its no use blaming dev alone...wat dev did he did that in a frenzied state of mind...if this relationship is so valuable for sona then y cudnt she talk to him once the next day wen he has calmed down and ishwari was back home...and no use asking y shud she...y not...if one partner makes a mistake then cant the other partner take one effort to rectify the mistake...if dev wud hv taken the decision in a calm and composed mind after lots of thinking then i wud hv understood but that was not the case...

i always felt sona shud hv taken one effort from her side...after all it is she who had once promised that she wud never leave him even if he does...i dont understand y noone talks about sona did not take any effort...dev said go away and sona starts crying on another man's shoulder...wow...

nywyz i am sick and tired of discussing whose fault and whose not fault...the damage has been done and i think we shud now discuss on how the problem can be solved..

.sona-ritwik marriage cannot be and should not be the solution...this story is not about dev-sona love story but dev-sona-ishwari's relationship...sona-ritwik marriage will take ishwari out of the picture completely which makes no sense...

wen i started watching this show i hv always known that the story will revolve

around these 3 characters with dev as the central point...showing sona-ritwik marriage shud make another story in another show where the moral will be if a couple breaks up then they can move on with other partners...but this story is not about that...at least pre-launch promos promised something else and so my mind is not prepared for a third angle in this love story...

i dont want to comment on the precap let alone create a thread on it...but if dev is angry he surely has some reasons...if he is at fault in breaking up then wat did she do to reconcile...i dont mean she shud come back and beg for his love...but there r other dignified steps toward reconciliation like coming to dev and telling him to make a final decision and gving him some time for that...it may sound lame but i hv seen such ultimatums working for guys and the couples hv a successful marriage eventually...

but i am waiting to see wat the makers hv in store for us...i dont think sona-ritwik marriage is in their agenda because i still believe pre-launch promos were not done only for promotions...

Originally posted by: rose4ever

Everybody has loved the show and the Devakshi pairing and that is why they are here on this forum. Its just that this track is creating a lot of opposing opinions and everyone is trying to put forward their views.

I don't think any injustice is being done to Ritik as he is aware of exactly where she stands with regards to her past and ex. She has clearly stated that she has not yet been able to move on. So if he decided to continue the alliance, then it will be as per his own wishes and his willingness to take this risk which either might result in him getting a good life partner or getting hurt.

As for moving on, every one has their own definition. Her way of moving on is agreeing to her parent's wish and getting married. She admits to Ritik that she would need his help to move on. There are other ways to show that, focusing on career, new hobbies, simply giving time etc but the makers have decided to take this route so lets just see how the story shapes.

You say that Sona should have kept her promise and tried to reconcile without compromising her self respect right?

What I feel is that if she approaches Dev at the moment even to give an ultimatum, it will compromise her self respect. Do you think Dev will change hi decision? He is still firm that what he did was right,so an ultimatum is not gonna change that.What is the use of ultimatum when he has already taken one step ahead of it and completely broken the relationship.

Since you have already commented about Dev and his mistakes and the action needed to rectify that, I won't comment further on it.

I am not supporting Dev. He initiated the break up in a cruel manner. Sona didnt deserve it.

Originally posted by: rose4ever

its just my pov...sona may be wrong on taking this decision for marriage that too this soon...but she may have to take a decision and she can't give a second chance to dev or wait for dev or a final talk to dev...wht the use of that...he will not do any things against his mom wish...he never until he knows all the things his mom done to his sona before and groom search and more...even he speak to his mom at last..she will smartly divert him and ..justifies her decision or make full bunch of lie with a tear in her eye is enough to stop dev..or she may even fairly faint or do suicide drama in front of him and he can't do anything against her even when he knows all abt her...he will surely not hate or make his mom sad... so sona knows all of this...as she saw in past...dev always want her to tolerate gkb speech and forgot her nonsense behaviour...and he never support her and utter any word in support of her.. in stead he do any romance after that...and make her forgot all...there is no hope for sona to wait...or final talk to dev...if dev sona marriage is done and then also there is no proof that ishwari and gkb stop there act against her...they will do all against her...even dev sister will not support sona...then wht the point of returning back to dev...ishwari can't be changed...but the makers will show it...and it takes some long long time to see a change in her...for that both Dev and sona have to be bear many strong decisons and in this fight btw trio... ritvik came and he knows that sona just had breakup and it so hard for her to marry him soon..and it's not good for himself...but if sona herself thinking abt dev pain and their love...also ...she will not cancel marriage soon...she will not do a hurt to ritvik like dev done to her...she will think of that and have guilty to do that...and now she thinks marrying ritvik only way to forget dev or to move on and if she marry ritvik...she is doing injustice to ritvik her dev... if she not marry.. she is doing injustice to her and ritvik... very complex from now... let's see wht justification makers tell for making ritakshi marriage or cancelling them... every thing needs correct reason...and they will do it... and we needs more patience to watch this show from here and I think i don't have such patience...

Originally posted by: rose4ever

Again replying😆can't help myself.No it is not a court of law, but The thing is IMO priority has always been given to what Dev's needs are,being patient and understanding of his needs and wishes. What about Sona? In a relationship, both partners need to value and respect each other.

Dev calling? I don't consider that first step or initiative at all.Did he say even a word that should have mattered? come on yarr, nobody can understand things unsaid. That is why communication is so important. Nobody is a mind reader.There are things which will be understood without saying and things which won't be.In any case, no where did I feel that his call was a way to indirectly convey Sona that he handled things rashly.

Sona is logical, but then no matter how logical or rational a person is,even they have feelings.She can't be always expected to be thinking so practically and not consider her own pain and hurt feelings.Sona has always been so straight forward about everything, but she can't always be expected to solve all problems just cos her character is shown logical.

Dev needs to change, for once he needs to do this.(I am pretty firm on that)

I understand completely that you are not supporting Dev for his mistakes,you just have a different opinion on how Sona should react. Respect your opinion but still firm on mine.