With Great Power comes Great Responsibility

Originally posted by: ARCH21

This post is dedicated to all those who face a similar situation at home, know someone who does and feel that such Mother's/Mother-in-laws are a reality and what they are showing is a reflection of many examples around us.

Some have bravely shared their stories on this forum and many share experiences with each unfolding episode.

The realistic setting (ignoring recent drama) and the fact that we see them everyday makes it seem like we are watching a story of someone in our circle. It also affects us for this very reason. Each of of have our own life experiences which have shaped our views on this topic and the events which are unfolding evoke different feelings in all of us. If you remember, I shared earlier the story of my friend's heartbreak. Many here are DILs so they have their own views depending upon their relationships at home. All of us children to our parents. Yesterday we were privileged to read a unique first person account of a man who went through this journey decades ago.

I empathize with those who are married and facing such situations on a daily basis.

I empathize with those who have husbands/BFs who walked away from them because of parental pressure & those who are in marriages where the partner prefers to stay out of 'kitchen politics' as we call it...

Mother's are insecure - to varying degrees and such possessive mother's do exist.

Now that the show has captured this truth more than effectively, are planning on more kitchen politics and growing insecurities, the ultimate threat to a Child's foundation - Mother trying to commit suicide (or an act of guilt that will be misconstrued as suicide) and a shaken Man walking away from his one joy in life - This is the lowest relationships can go!

I hope, no lower.

To the makers: When you dare to touch on reality at its lowest point, hope you will have the courage to show reality as it should be and No! the Mother shedding tears and hugging the couple in the last episode will not do.

As you portray reality & get feedback like - 'Aisa hota hai', 'Aisa hota aaya hai';

Will you have the courage to show 'Aisa hona chahiye!'???

For all those Mothers/Mother-in-laws who feel the depth of darkness as Ishwari is feeling, 'Aisa hota hai' is an acknowledgement of what they feel & go through. Will they feel vindicated looking at Ishwari going through the same pangs of obsessive love? Or Through Ishwari, will you show them how wrong the whole situation is - for Them, for that Son they love and for that Girl who loves who they love!

Just a few tears will not do.

As they say, when you hit rock bottom the only way is up!

The climb up is very critical from here for this Mother so at least a few Mother's out here in the real world can see what they might be doing wrong.

The whole Ishwari Nivas is mourning the Son's love worrying for the Mother's reaction and ignoring the Love of his life.

Ishwari's character is not of a villain and when such a character stoops this low, we end up telling everyone who think 'Aisa hota hai' that 'Jo hota hai, hota aaya hai, theek hai'...

This may be how life is but until you clearly show through Ishwari's words, actions, understanding & repentance, how life SHOULD be; now this job is not done!

👏 Can I thank you please for articulating so well the cause of the unease I felt when I saw the promos and again since Epi 100?

Like I said earlier, the makers cannot just claim that this is reality and show something that fills many of us with unease.

In this series more than anywhere, we will need the way up to be explored with the same emphasis. In most series they have a less than satisfactory redemption track with a very superficial treatment. We accept that because the whole set up is often unrealistic. In this show which has been billed as realistic, that will not do. We relate to the characters as real people and it will be very unsatisfactory for me as a viewer if I do not see the journey ahead explore every single nuance with the care and detailing it deserves

As for the couple in love, that's for another day. ATM they are simply being used as facilitators in the Ishwari journey. Their true journey of love hasn't begun.

I agree. Superficial scenes of angst will not cut it for us. I am not itching to see an Obhodro Dev painted with a broad brush and certainly not an unsmiling Sona. These are complicated decisions with so many perspectives and the makers have to explore all of them satisfactorily. I for one do not want to see just Ish making them come closer when she redeems. Dev has work at it too. Such a situation could have arisen after marriage too, what would he have done then? For me, his giving up of business deals is not a mark of his love. The effort and mental strain he is willing to undergo to disentangle these complicated relationships is more important. Men often have low appetite for such work and that impacts the women in their lives.

I hope you have written their future story with commitment, conviction, understanding, love & lots of strength.

We are all waiting for it!

PS: After reading about the latest promo & break-up, now I want to watch the future story to see how high you can take this. Because you most certainly CAN!

PPS: Every other show has a similar theme but the MIL's are shown as clear evil but this is goodness personified Ishwari and what she does & how will send a dangerous message to those MILs sitting at home and relating to her. If this show is truly unique & close to reality, hope this power is not taken lightly.

Exactly. Especially their casting of Supriyaji. I hope it was not only to get the daughters, DILs and MILs in the audience to accept the reason for the show's premise. If so, then that is actually irresponsible. I am keen to see her journey with all of its nuances which I know she can portray well.