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I am not a Taara fan neither am I a Nakshatra shipper. I always thought Naksh was too young and immature to get married and I never really liked Taara for some reason I can't put my finger on. It's like the character didn't click with me; until the wedding episodes.
From personal experience I feel Taara's insecurity and fears about her wedded life are so relatable. No matter how much we say that marriages have changed nowadays etc etc, but when inlaws and family comes into picture, somethings never change. Akshara is right when she says that life of a boy remains kind of same before and after marriage but for a girl many things change.
Taara or any girl on the verge of marriage will obviously have apprehensions about wedded life, new responsibilities, new roles. A would-be-bride has bottled up fears and a thousand thoughts crossing through her mind, even when everything is "normal." In Taara's case, it is not.
Ever since BuaDadi has come into picture, she has said and implied many demeaning things, be it about her clothes, her hockey, her coach or her mannerisms. Now one might say that BuaDadi is just a guest, Taara will not live with her. But from Taara's pov, she is a family member, an elder and important one. Now if an elder from your in-laws hold such views about the would-be-bride, any one would be worried.
What went wrong or wasn't dealt with seriously was the Singhanias reaction on BuaDadi's taunts. Whenever she says some ill thing about Taara, the members don't agree with Buadadi. They start wringing their hands and giving a worried look but no one stops her! Respecting elder is one thing but you can always politely tell an elder that their perception is wrong, their way of speaking is wrong. No one ever does this. In such a scenario, a girl would feel that no one is standing up for her - no one from her new family where she will have to spent the rest of her life. I can fully understand how any girl would feel.
Taara had many feelings inside her and she never spoke them out loud. This, one can say, is where she was not correct. She should have, but in hindsight, to whom would she have said all this? The right person would have been Naksh but from his reaction when she finally tells him on their wedding day, I doubt he would ever understand her.
Preeti is to be blamed for the prenup drama but she only played on the emotions that were already swirling inside Taara due to Bua dadi. If everything was normal, would Preeti be able to emotionally manipulate Taara? I know there are always people like Bua Dadi in every family but I also feel when such a member crosses a line, especially in a delicate situation like a marriage, someone from the family needs to step up and resolve the matter. Telling Taara to "forget it", "leave it," will just repress her fears and worries, it will not clear them.
I couldn't believe how immature Naksh was during the entire 2 episodes. I agree he was hurt and angry but after Taara opened her heart out even Akshara and Naitik and some other members too understood her pov. But Naksh didn't budge, cementing my earlier belief that he is too young and childish to be married.
Sangram is another character whom I didn't like earlier. Frankly guys like Sangram scare me a little. Despite that, a part of me can still understand his outburst. Bua Dadi was relentless, even after Akshara and Dadaji begged her to stop. So some reaction was called for. Vikram's on the other hand, I felt, was unjustified. If Naitik's defense of his daughter is understandable and justifiable, so is Sangram's defence for his sister. We shouldn't judge 2 people by different yard sticks.
I understand that the elders were trying to quell the issue but why the rush for marriage. Problems like these won't go away after marriage, if anything, it will only snowball. I don't feel that Tara is a coward for running away. What was she supposed to do? Even after she bared her soul, Naksh was still not understanding and Bua Dadi was not curbing her words. (Bdw I feel Umang did a great job in those scenes- of showing her fears, her anxiety, her helplessness).
I realize this post is long but had to vent it out. I hope the cvs don't make out Taara's character to be negative or shame her any more. YRKKH has always had realistic story-lines and in my opinion this wedding fiasco was one of them.
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