Handling emotion is a challenge -shiv

shruthiravi thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 9 years ago
#1
Emotions. I have always regarded them as a weakness. So in most of my childhood and to my mid twenties I was ruled by logic mostly except situations where I have no option but listen to my heart. Result was suppressed emotion and I will fly of the handle just like that. Problem then is that you agonize urself as well as others. You keep on reacting.but once you learn to acknowledge them and validate them using logic then u will know they are ur strength. Look at ram.his actions after listening to kaikeyi conditions could have brought ayodhya to brink of war.but the way he handled such an extreme change in his statussaved generations .it shows in any situation you have to think analyze and use the emotion of love in action. Don't do vachan and all to prove to society. Do actions with love and that I can justify.
Edited by shruthiravi - 9 years ago

Created

Last reply

Replies

7

Views

956

Users

6

Likes

37

Frequent Posters

gmgi thumbnail
13th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail Commentator Level 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 9 years ago
#2
Lovely post Shruthi.
I am an emotional person and tend to follow my heart rather than my brain. Most of the time I end up in a juice but since I am not comfortable with the other option it helps me in accepting my failures a bit more easily.
We are usually not educated on how to handle emotions. we are supposed to follow the social norms or to follow how feelings are expressed by people around us. If we don't have experienced or emotionally grounded people around us it will be difficult to get a handle on things.
When I started working abroad this was one of the complaints they say about Indians in general that we don't have emotional maturity.
I am yet to watch the episode Shruthi.😃
CutiepieAD thumbnail
10th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail Commentator Level 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 9 years ago
#3
Yesterday again Mahadev said such beautiful words.
If Narayan has born in a human avtar as Ram, then he has to go through all those emotions which human beings go through...

Emotions can become a barrier in life no doubt, as you stated that handling a problem logically is much better than getting emotional in that matter. But sometimes emotions can also become our asset... The emotion being a positive one...
We all are surrounded by both negative and positive emotions, we need to make a balance between the two..

Sometimes even negative emotions can be utilised in a good way... One can use his anger in form of grit determination and achieve wonders.. To achieve this we need wisdom, which we usually lack...

That's where Ram and Ravan differ.. Ram utilised his emotions as his strength, as u said he could have started a war against Kaikeyi, but he kept quite, and set an example for all of us..
Ravan utilised his emotions in a negative manner which led to his downfall..

shruthiravi thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 9 years ago
#4
@Geena agree with you. We are not taught how to handle emotions. Either we are expected to behave in certain way because society expects us to or go with the majority view that is logical. Here is where our mythology helps to truly understand the usage of emotions in the right way, for the betterment
@aditi I agree we can use negative emotions also in the positive way. The right to have a say in my marriage made me strive hard to clear entrance exam, become an engineer and grab a job through campus placement. I made myself eligible to demand my right, on the other hand I would have simply sat and argued I don't want this alliance, that alliance etc. But on the other my qualification, job ensured that everyone can look only for a certain type of alliance for me, not that of under educated, or the ones who doesn't have proper employment but only family name.
Arijit007 thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Sparkler Thumbnail Networker 1 Thumbnail
Posted: 9 years ago
#5
emotions are realy that powerfull, they should be handled properly, otherwise they will cause harm to others and to yourself.
Ramyalaxmi thumbnail
11th Anniversary Thumbnail Dazzler Thumbnail
Posted: 9 years ago
#6
@Shruthi: Yet again a good topic for discussion.
Emotions are also part of our thought process. Scientifically its the mind which senses our emotional feelings and its not our heart. Then why we are impulsive w.r.t emotions?
There comes the trick of balancing the thought process. It is by practise, we can handle our emotions. Yoga is mainly for overcoming these emotions.

For e.g, if our father gets sudden health issues, we shouldn't be emotionally arrested and sit and cry there throughout the day. We have to take necessary steps to save him. This is where even w/o our knowledge our 6th sense comes into play. The emotion of love is surpassed by the logical thinking of saving the life.

So as Lord Shiva said (as in SKR😆, pointing this as I remember yesterday's post) handling emotion is a challenge as long as our brain (mindset) is properly tuned. Ram and Sita were already prepared their mind to take up any challenges to follow the path of dharm.
deejagi thumbnail
15th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 9 years ago
#7
Very true. One should never give his mind in the hands of his emotions. An emotional person can spoil a relation, situation or a business in no time. So when ever you feel you are hurt or wronged by other or abused by others (it could be your own people), please don't react in reflex action. Never utter words when you are hurt or angered. You will not know what you say and by the time you realize, it would have been late. Also never back answer your elders or seniors when they are angry at you, even if you are not wrong. Wait for them to shell out their anger and leave the place once they are done with it. once they shed their heart out, they will realize your silence and will think about what all happened and why you didn't react. If that process started without you even saying anything in your justification, half of your work is done. later after giving them some time ti mull over the incident, go to them as if nothing happened and they will give you opening to give your story or to defend your self. You can present your case then without hurting their ego also your self respect will be intact and so will be the relationship. If you are away and are angry with some one for some reason, never take up your phone and blast that fellow. Instead, try to do the conversation within your mind. think what you may say and then what could be the answer for that and continue for some time. You may resolve the issue even without talking to the other person or at the least, your will be in good frame of mind to hear the other person's POV which will save a relationship from falling out.
shruthiravi thumbnail
12th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 9 years ago
#8
@jaya as usual good points and practical.@ramya you have perfect example of presence of mind.instead of crying what can we do to save the situation. Actually ram also did exactly that.

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".