Why didnt you tell your heart's feelings- Urmila - Page 2

What urmila said to her sister were purely the duty & love for her sister who had presented her vision about who shall be her husband just few hours ago with her sisters. She had indicated that she wants a man who loves and be truthful to his only wife and she doesn't want to indulge with a  bigamy family. She had indicated she will wait for him till such time, she gets one as there can't be only one person in this world who wants to be married once for the life and that is her father. So there is no guaranty that the one who wins the swayamvar to be an unmarried man who may not anticipate to marry some one else later along with Sita. What if a man who has a wife or two already wins the contest? what will happen to her sister's happiness? While announcing a swayamvar, they can't announce only unmarried and who plans to stay with single wife can attend as that will insult the Rajdharma and might affect their state. Urmila has also seen the dreams her sister had for the Raghuvanshi prince and they had heard only good things about Raghuvanshi's and their fame to be loyal to their words. So she had thought that prince might give the happiness to her sister as even he thinks in the similar lines as her sister.

@jaya you have put Urmila's perspective of asking the question very nicely.  Urmila was asking her about her right, but Sita decided to give duty priority over and above rights.

@ Shruthi, it is so natural for the kids to claim their rights from their parents but forget about their duties towards them. We expect the parents to understand their children and their wishes and their plans for future while we totally ignore the fact that they would have also dreamt of a future for them along with their kids. We expect them to sacrifices all their plans, wishes for our benefits but will never think of sacrificing a simple or negligible thing for their sake. And if they falter a bit in fulfilling their duty as parents, we remind their duty  and how they should fulfill all our needs but conveniently forget to even think about them when they were expecting us to spend few minutes in their company. We expect them to do their duty by making us a respectable person in society but fail to fail to understand that they will be more happy to perform our wedding as their duty> We out rightly snatch that opportunity from them by saying your ideas are outdated and it is our right to choose our life partner. If my father has taken a right decision about my school, college, job etc by going against the waves of the society, why don't we think he is capable of selecting a right partner for us. Why should anyone think they will not have choice to choose their partner in an arranged marriage. For sure no parents will impose an unwanted match to their kids. All they do is search in the whole known circle for supposedly better match for their kids, investigate their condition  and select few better choices among the list and then present to their kids. If we are not satisfied with those choices, they will for sure look for some more but will never impose us to marry the one we are not ready to get involved. They still will give us the opportunity to choose among those they feels are right for us and who will take care of us in future.

Fantastic post Shruti didi😃