Hi! Making another post after a bit cause like they say in pure filmi ishtyle... Raha nahi gaya. It is a rambling listing of my thoughts - please feel free to add your bit, agree, disagree...
And yes you guessed it - it is about Arzoo and her choice to stay mum.
There have been many ideas mooted as to her motivation - the most popular digestible idea being that she is doing it for Sahir so that his deal is not affected. Her doing it for her friend Zaki was also explained well by RedViolet in one of the responses. He did after all stand up for her and obviously helped her with a make-over - so there has been time spent bonding as friends (at least from her end). Someone had asked whether she was doing it for Samaira and that idea doesn't gel at all - she knows Sam from Jack... so no deal there methinks.
The thoughts that are tumbling over each other in my head are these -
1. Would Arzoo have kept quiet if her family was in town?
2. Doesn't being a good friend mean advising your friend to do the right thing - though it be scary and maybe even painful. In this case I am not talking about accepting Sam and her so-called' baby. [Note - Yeah she is looking rather suspect with her mithai and nonchalant attitude to pregnancy... given that she wants her 9 hours of sleep. Sam, your body is going southwards after the baby - spanx-time love.] Shouldn't Arzoo have insisted on Sahir being told. She has risked his wrath many times for lesser things... but ok. She is in love now and everything including your anger, fears, resentments and that unknown dread in your heart all become magnified. But she could have insisted on Zaki telling all to Sahir. Why hold his heart and hand and support him in being a bleeding baby. If he is old enough to roll in the hay, then isn't he old enough to handle his elder brother's wrath? The Arzoo, I thought, I saw earlier would have insisted on doing the right thing and not held the hand of someone who wants to run down the rabbit's hole and avoid reality.
3. Ok now presuming that we justify her going along with Zaki and put it down to her being young (she is after all only 23 or 24 I am guessing... though a young woman who has seen the tough side of life) and nave and good-hearted - all of which she is. But when Kurti Appa and Anam where in 5th gear with their accusations, why couldn't Arzoo use the golden word - the word that every young girl in the world is now being taught to say - NO!
She doesn't owe anybody any explanations. Least of all to Kurti Appa and Anam. She doesn't even owe Sahir an explanation - cause they have after all just had their first lovers (though we still won't acknowledge it) tiff' on limits and space and interference. BUT Arzoo owes her own dignity that one word. When Anam very dramatically tells her, answer or her silence will be construed as a yes', so are you preggers,' why couldn't Arzoo say "No". Khallas. Just one word - No!
When the women fall upon her with more questions she could have just as easily said "I will not say anything more on this" instead of standing like a long-suffering TV land martyr (a breed that I detest cause they are so lacking in spunk).
I realise everything will be sorted out and all this is leading to another BIG APOLOGY from Sahir (which will be a treat to watch cause both Harshad and Shivya rock) and Sahir understanding that Arzoo will never let him down (until the next MU occurs ;p), but my main problem is that this girl who is sorted in her head and spunky and full of chutzpah is choosing to be a martyr.
There is nothing glorious in being a martyr unless it is for your country. The kind of self-sacrificing martyrdom that is shown on television makes me angry cause we are teaching a whole generation that it is expected of you to bow down and demean yourself for the greater good. NO! it is not! Damn it! You can stand tall and erect and speak your truth and still aim for the greater good.
[I am going to digress a little here and add that, I love the way Sahir is being portrayed in Humsafars cause despite his myriad flaws (almost all rooted in some major past betrayal) here is a hero who is thoughtful, caring, logical, intelligent and respectful of a woman who has courage and is willing to stand her ground. He likes her for that. He tries to order her around but he is not in love with her cause she agrees with him or cause he manages to scare her. In that case he could have fallen for Linda too. He is in love with her cause she fearless, truthful, brave and willing to do what is right... even while she cares for him and jumps a mile high when he shouts.]
Arzoo could have just said No I am not pregnant and I will not say anything more on this.' And walked out without endangering the deal or the immature Zaki. How I wish Arzoo had said, "No." Not cause Sahir is hanging on not just to her every word but also her silence. Not cause it will shut Kurti Appa and Anam. Not cause it will give Alvira the freedom to continue to plan the grand nikah. But cause, the Arzoo who came down from Lucknow with a fistful of dreams and hopes really did deserve that her future self stood up for her ideals and dignity.
Of course I know this is all fiction and I am often amused at how much fiction can affect us... but there you go. Maybe it is cause we see a sliver or shadow of ourselves in these characters. Or cause we want to be like them. AND maybe we are all just jumping the gun and over the next week or two we will all realise "Oh that is why she kept quiet... ok I get that and I understand that." Could be. Cross fingers.
Hmmm... I definitely feel better after penning that. My head is clear and I can get on with my life until this evening's date with SaaZ.
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