What's past is prologue, and the world awaits

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Posted: 10 years ago
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This is what I would say to Pakhi: What's past is prologue, and the world awaits!

Pakhi is comfortable with Veer because:

He has no problem with her living with past memories.

He makes no demands on her.

He tries to put a smile on her face and bring joy in her life.

Their togetherness is helping her forget the pain and move ahead.

He does not expect her to change. In fact he feels apologetic about the adjustments she has to do in order to keep Jiji happy.

She does not expect Veer to change. Pakhi accepts Veer's individuality - both give each other room for growth.

Thus far, both are putting equal effort into the relationship.

They both share the same fundamental values and beliefs.

And so, Pakhi wants to move on from the past.

She accepted Veer's family as her family.

She called up Jiji and invited them over even though Veer would have preferred to visit Jiji in Rajasthan.

Once Jiji arrived what Pakhi realized is that "moving on" is easy. It's staying moved on that's trickier. She is coming face to face with the shackles that were ingrained in her - will she be able to break those barriers and walk free?

Pakhi has taken the first step by inviting Jiji - now she is hesitant to take more, but one way or another she will have to.

Now, she is facing the reality of what it means to really "move on".

Being a wife comes with responsibilities to both the husband and his family.

Can she fulfil the religious rituals as Veer's wife? Is she ready? Has she the strength to cross the mental barrier?

Will she realize that letting go does not mean that Anshuman never existed in her life or that she never cared for him - rather letting go means to live in the present that she chose for herself. More importantly, letting go is realizing that the only person she has control of is herself. What does she want in her life? Does she want to remain Veer's wife? If not, is she willing to let him free?

Will she be able to realize that Anshuman was part of her history but not her destiny?

Pakhi knows family is family they are not made by marriage or adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. If you cut those ties then those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. Is she willing to accept Veer as husband and his family as her family?

It has been said "Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?"


The time has come (or soon will come) for Pakhi to decide.

It has been said "Sometimes the hardest part isn't letting go but rather learning to start over."

Is Pakhi willing to give herself a chance? Girish asked Pakhi to give Veer at least one chance. I would paraphrase Girish and say Pakhi needs to give herself at least one chance.

Pakhi has to realize that God had plans for her that do not involve Anshuman. Happiness is not about being married - whether it be Anshuman or Veer. Happiness is not about pleasing others or caring about the opinion of others. Happiness lies in living in ease and harmony with one's own conscience. What does Pakhi truly want? Does she have the strength and courage to search within and live without?

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Posted: 10 years ago
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First of all Aanonee, as it it now officially Devali here in Trinidad ( well in a few hours any ways) , let me again wish you a very very HAPPY DIVALI.!!!😊😊😊 And to evey one else here who like me enjoy these wonderful threads she creates with her insightful thoughts and analysis...A Happy Divali to all of you as well!!!

As usual brilliant analysis of the situation. What can i say is that maybe subconsciously she is accepting Veer, but she is haveing a hard time admitting it to herself.
Today Veer proved that his feelings for Paakhi is indeed selfless, as he is not expecting her to reciprocate his feelings. He knows she is in a delima yet he is also wanting to keep his jiji happy who he knows did not have it easy herself.

Watching the ease and comfort these two have with each other, the openness, understanding and equality in this relationship is refreshing form other shows I have watched where the marriage of convenience usually entails one partner resenting the other, or constant arguing that to some may be romantic but I find it highly annoying ( that is just my view...lol)

We all Know she won't let go of her past this quickly...but the question as you stated could she let him go, once she becomes aware of his feelings? Could she hurt not just his feelings and break his heart once again but AAyan who is finally enjoying the stable loveing home he wanted. ?

Then if she keeps him around for the sake of the kids, knowing how he feels could she be that selfish and heartless? That I don't think is in any part of Paakhi's nature.

Could she accept him and cherish the moments she had with Anshuman but ultimately find the love and happiness to move on in this life. One thing is certain Paakhi has a lot of soul serching to do in the coming weeks...how she comes to terms with this is going to be intresting!





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Posted: 10 years ago
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As usual nice analysis..

Its understandable Pakhi not accepting the real fact and to move on..she has an stagnant mindset for now and its she can't love anyone else besides Anshuman..

Sometimes its very hard to move on but once you move on one realises its the best decision ..As they say life is not meant to be traveled backwards and when you finally let go of the past something better comes along...

Now its up to Pakhi to take that one decision of her life..either live in the past or accepts Veer is her future...As Girish told her to give a chance to Veer and its high time Pakhi accepts the reality and its always to move on in life..

Would have loved to penned down my thoughts more but its Diwali..busy with preparation and its Family get together..

A Happy Diwali to you all..
Edited by saveeta24 - 10 years ago
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: Vinnie79

First of all Aanonee, as it it now officially Devali here in Trinidad ( well in a few hours any ways) , let me again wish you a very very HAPPY DIVALI.!!!😊😊😊 And to evey one else here who like me enjoy these wonderful threads she creates with her insightful thoughts and analysis...A Happy Divali to all of you as well!!!

As usual brilliant analysis of the situation. What can i say is that maybe subconsciously she is accepting Veer, but she is haveing a hard time admitting it to herself.
Today Veer proved that his feelings for Paakhi is indeed selfless, as he is not expecting her to reciprocate his feelings. He knows she is in a delima yet he is also wanting to keep his jiji happy who he knows did not have it easy herself.

Watching the ease and comfort these two have with each other, the openness, understanding and equality in this relationship is refreshing form other shows I have watched where the marriage of convenience usually entails one partner resenting the other, or constant arguing that to some may be romantic but I find it highly annoying ( that is just my view...lol)

We all Know she won't let go of her past this quickly...but the question as you stated could she let him go, once she becomes aware of his feelings? Could she hurt not just his feelings and break his heart once again but AAyan who is finally enjoying the stable loveing home he wanted. ?

Then if she keeps him around for the sake of the kids, knowing how he feels could she be that selfish and heartless? That I don't think is in any part of Paakhi's nature.

Could she accept him and cherish the moments she had with Anshuman but ultimately find the love and happiness to move on in this life. One thing is certain Paakhi has a lot of soul serching to do in the coming weeks...how she comes to terms with this is going to be intresting!






Vinnie Happy Diwali. May your days be filled with brightness, joy, health, prosperity, and inner peace.

Yes, which ever the dice is cut, one thing is certain, the ball is in Pakhi's court.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: saveeta24

As usual nice analysis..


Its understandable Pakhi not accepting the real fact and to move on..she has an stagnant mindset for now and its she can't love anyone else besides Anshuman..

Sometimes its very hard to move on but once you move on one realises its the best decision ..As they say life is not meant to be traveled backwards and when you finally let go of the past something better comes along...

Now its up to Pakhi to take that one decision of her life..either live in the past or accepts Veer is her future...As Girish told her to give a chance to Veer and its high time Pakhi accepts the reality and its always to move on in life..

Would have loved to penned down my thoughts more but its Diwali..busy with preparation and its Family get together..

A Happy Diwali to you all..



Saveeta, Happy Diwali. May your days be filled with brightness, joy, health, prosperity, and inner peace.

Pakhi is at a cross roads. Which way does she choose? The decision is hers. Veer is not the type to force a decision or influence her one way or another.

Jiji will act as the catalyst - but will not take the decision for her.

Girish knows that Pakhi will soon have to make a decision.

It never struck Pakhi that Veer's family would have expectations of him - so in her ignorance the new bride (nayee navelee dulhan) invited them over.

Now she knows what is at stake given her Rajasthani upbringing. It has put her in a spot. It will be interesting to watch what the CVs have in store for us.

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