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what made him exciting and precious was not his tortured past and the jagged edges thanks to it. there are many characters in all sorts of literature and arts who have the appeal of the cut and torn. heathcliff. othello. my little obsession, don draper. oh there are many and all of us i'm sure have a favourite or two.
what
made asr beautiful to me, was the way he dealt with his share of rain,
his terrible difficulties at a very young age. he faced it, fair and
square. he never ran away into fantasy or try to make it better with
stories and platitudes. it is true, people say they can understand what
you feel, but no one can ever feel the emotions you go through when you
cremate both your parents, touching them with the fire that will
annihilate, end it all.
his
entire sense of trust was badly shaken. his father had betrayed his
mother, him and his sister too. the father is a place of trust, respect,
solidity. none of that for this boy of 14. gone in a moment.
along with it, his haven of love, shelter, growth: his mother.
how
terrible that his mother had killed herself because of his father's
actions. his beloved mother who tried to teach her taciturn, angry,
little chhotey the meaning of life, the value of conscience, of
examining things, of giving the rose a chance.
he
could have easily become incredibly bitter, harsh, cold. and rich and
materially successful, while being drop dead good looking. oh yes, even
that would have made him an exciting man, especially watching a woman
break through layers of this darkness to matter like mad would be
delicious.
but asr went much further than that. he did it his way.
(ok
me sucker for individualistic people, do their own thing, prepared to
face the consequences, but think and act according to what they feel is
right, sounds familiar?)
he
held the pain by its horn and charged right back at it, with all of
himself, not some cut and lacerated bits of him, everything that's him,
the good, the bad, the scared, the broken, the laughing, everything. he
promised himself he'd make it ok for all those he loved. that trust,
that respect, that solidity, he would restore all of it. he will be
nothing like his father (though interestingly the writers gave him his
dad's anger issues, wish they had dome something with it), he was
nothing like him. he would be honest, clean, hard working, dependable.
and
he would not depend on anyone else, i feel this came from the extreme
sense of betrayal he felt re one person, the one he depended on, perhaps
at some point even his hero, his father.
no
god, kismet, fate. asr would make his own destiny himself. no problem
if his di and whole family needed their bhagwan to make things happen.
he wouldn't try to change them, another sign of strength in my eyes. but
he would go it alone. if power and money were what mattered, he'd
create enough never to have to look back. of course, there was much
about life the boy had to learn, and go way beyond power and money, but
his way of dealing with tragedy and his clear eyed courage in taking it
all on, breathtaking. my feeling, there was lots of asr's mother and her
basic positivity and integrity in his basic character. so even when he
seemed harsh and terrible, some part in him always breathed and felt
human. ah the guest house scene. dead.
only
one concession to the turmoil, and maybe only because a part of him
just ached and cried within (for which child would not want their dad to
be who they thought they were), maybe that's why the closing down of
his heart in one matter. women and love. arnav singh raizada ko kissi
ladki se koi faraq nahin padta. a boy was keeping his hurt inside and
away, while somehow trying to make amends to his mom. don't worry, i
won't ever fall like that, i will always love you and di and my family
with all of me. i will be there. i will not fall and become like him,
your husband. no place for women inside me, no allowing them in. no
getting carried away to saansey ruk jaygi moments. di, you're becoming
like nirupa roy every day. a fabulous defence put up by one shattered
within and trying to stay calm and strong. (all my conjectures, all may
be wrong.)
by
giving himself a real job to do in crisis i feel he saved himself.
anger brought intensity, but he let his intelligence bring guidance.
his primary reason for going forward was not hate, it became love. for his sister. he anchored himself there, and went into the future, as its maker. this indomitable spirit and not the tortured soul is what made him so very dear to me. not just another troubled, good looker, i wanted to hold in my arms and nurse back to love and such stuff. but a man i admired and wanted to learn from, thrilled me to hear his views on life, love, god, work, and more.
sorry,
just coming out of asr deprivation tank, had to write an essay on the
man. a bit all over the place, but you know this character deserves as
deep a delve as any macbeth othello gora karna heathcliff.
today is exactly 19 months since the last episode of ipk and asr... yet he continues unfettered in many minds and hearts, discussions, chats, arguments, edits, vms, everywhere. i wrote this a while ago, made the edit today... wanted to share. please do leave your thoughts and opinions here... looking forward to a cool and happy thread, maybe a little chaotically dhakdhak but hopefully no nastiness. that is reserved only for the incredible one.
today is exactly 19 months since the last episode of ipk and asr... yet he continues unfettered in many minds and hearts, discussions, chats, arguments, edits, vms, everywhere. i wrote this a while ago, made the edit today... wanted to share. please do leave your thoughts and opinions here... looking forward to a cool and happy thread, maybe a little chaotically dhakdhak but hopefully no nastiness. that is reserved only for the incredible one.
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