I think we should stop projecting our own traits onto the characters in RR. We all may be strong minded women who can stand up for ourselves - Mala is not one of us.She is a weak character by design, she has been manipulated by Mohini her whole life; she couldn't stand up for herself and her son when pushed out of the house by Dilsher; she left without her precious son and she did not have the guts to come back and demand her custody rights over Rudra, and she was completely manipulated by Tejawat for years! She really had no idea of his criminal/smuggling activities because she the kind of person who takes people at face value.She pushes all the bad stuff to back of her mind, lives in the present and day dreams about happy times.I strongly feel that with a grown-up Rudra back in her life, Mala will change. I think we will see character growth in Mala and Rudra will be the catalyst.Everyone at the Ranawat haveli is badly in need of therapy, - family counseling, marriage counseling, personal counseling, you name it. They could keep several shrinks employed for years to come!!
I also think there is a really odd disconnect that such a weak character can have such a huge impact on Paro/Rudra in terms of development, values etc (one via negative expereince, and the other via positive) when the character themself isn't able to project much of anything on screen.